Do dual minority statuses compliment each other in terms of life experience?

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    Nov 18, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    Can being black or Asian teach you something about being gay? or vice versa?

    Do men over 40 experience gay life in a different way than gay men under 30 or straight guys over 40?

    Do you guys think that being a member to two minority groups causes you to experience gay life or (insert other life condition) differently?

    Can being gay teach you to interpret being (.......) in a different way?

    Can being (.........) cause you to experience being gay differently than someone who was young or white, or both?

    Your thoughts ladies?
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    Nov 18, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    Everybody has a unique experience of life, regardless of social status.
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    Nov 18, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    McQueen saidEverybody has a unique experience of life, regardless of social status.


    That doesn't answer the heart of the question.
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    Nov 18, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said
    McQueen saidEverybody has a unique experience of life, regardless of social status.
    That doesn't answer the heart of the question.
    Yes, a black gay man will have a different experience than a white gay man.
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    Nov 18, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    there are five questions...which do you want the masses to debate on? However being black and gay, non american living in america and gay...certainly ive had biased discriminatory behavior tossed in my direction..so to answer id say yes as having "dual minority characteristics" makes life interesting...id rather have those characteristics than be of a homogeneous society..meaning just like all the others.
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    Nov 18, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    McQueen said
    DEKIRUMAN said
    McQueen saidEverybody has a unique experience of life, regardless of social status.
    That doesn't answer the heart of the question.
    Yes, a black gay man will have a different experience than a white gay man.


    Does that change once they both hit 50?
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    Nov 18, 2012 3:57 AM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN saidCan being black or Asian teach you something about being gay? or vice versa?
    Yes. No white guy wants either one of them. You might as well go back to being straight and eating pussy.
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    Nov 18, 2012 3:59 AM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said
    McQueen said
    DEKIRUMAN said
    McQueen saidEverybody has a unique experience of life, regardless of social status.
    That doesn't answer the heart of the question.
    Yes, a black gay man will have a different experience than a white gay man.
    Does that change once they both hit 50?
    Do they magically change skin colour at 50?
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    Nov 18, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    tereseus1 saidthere are five questions...which do you want the masses to debate on? However being black and gay, non american living in america and gay...certainly ive had biased discriminatory behavior tossed in my direction..the key answer though is that having "dual minority characteristics" makes life interesting...id rather have those characteristics than be of a homogeneous society..meaning just like all the others.


    Well, I would ask people to choose whatever applied to them, and share based on that.
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    Nov 18, 2012 1:26 PM GMT
    Some observations from my time on the planet.. please don't think I'm putting a 'spin' on this, its just my life experience.

    DEKIRUMAN saidCan being black or Asian teach you something about being gay? or vice versa?

    Yes.. before you come out, you can experience rejection and prejudice in a whole different way.


    Do men over 40 experience gay life in a different way than gay men under 30 or straight guys over 40?

    Yes.. becoming invisible to men under the age of 35 often gives you a unique perspective into the shitty treatment you gave men over 40 when you were younger, and how it felt.


    Do you guys think that being a member to two minority groups causes you to experience gay life or (insert other life condition) differently?

    Absolutely, being older, black, asian, arab, fat, skinny, ugly, disabled, short or just plain different.. etc.. exposes an individual to a whole new layer of prejudice from a group of people who want equality and inclusiveness.

    Can being gay teach you to interpret being (.......) in a different way?

    It can, particularly where a GWM can fade into anonymity at will, GAM or GBM will still experience more prejudice because they can be profiled. Theres also prejudices because of cultural differences to contend with.

    We do need to walk the talk when it comes to not discriminating ourselves.

    Can being (.........) cause you to experience being gay differently than someone who was young or white, or both?

    Yeah, see above.


    Your thoughts ladies?


    Some things 'will be' until we change them.. I've had my prejudices in the past and have been ashamed to have acted in a racist manner in my youth..
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    Nov 18, 2012 1:35 PM GMT
    As a French in France I was "only" gay.
    But when I studied in Japan, I saw what it was being gay and white (white is a minority there of course). It was maybe more difficult in some points, but also easier in others.
    I mean, I was always seen as the "foreigner" and the "white", and gay Japanese would almost never try to know who I really am.
    On the other hand, as a foreigner, I didn't have all the social rules weighing on my shoulders. And in a country as homophobic as Japan, I was happy about it.

    I think it is very interesting for someone who has always been part of the majority ethnicity (for example white in the US or in Europe), to try living in a country where suddenly he becomes part of a minority.
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    Nov 22, 2012 8:28 AM GMT
    Being a minority in an already minority community (Asian and gay) has definitely opened my eyes. I find I am very accepting of other people because I know what it like to be a minority. I appreciate people of all different walks of life, am completely non-judgmental and actually have a soft spot for those that are different.

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    Nov 22, 2012 8:36 AM GMT
    1) I love you Deki.

    2) Oh yes, it has certainly opened my eyes to my own internalized self-hatred, to the shocking durability of racism, and to my internalized homophobia as well. The awareness is healthy because I have done a lot of work and self-examination to peel off the shit our white-worshipping, male-worshipping, straight-worshipping society has dumped on me, unlike those are not a dual minority and are thus still in denial -- sometimes angry denial -- about their racism, sexism, and homophobia.

    Ongoing process, will never end icon_confused.gif