The "Not So" Happy Thread: Monogamous Married Happy Couples

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    Nov 19, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    Some of these threads about relationship problems and race are upsetting. Let's create a thread about happy married couples who have made it work for the long haul!!!

    Maybe where you two met, what moment you knew "he was the one", and how long you've been together =]
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    Funny.
  • runnermtl

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    Nov 19, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    Hands up if you have a vagina!
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    I'm not sure how a thread about married/monogamous couples is going to make me happy. icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    There was once an old man who got pulled over by a cop.

    The cop asked the man if he loved his wife. He said "yes sir, I love her very much!"

    The cop then handcuffed him and charged him with DUI.
  • runnermtl

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    Nov 19, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    DINV - that's because you don't have any delusions about creating a straight "ideal" that very few of them even managed to achieve.
  • Montague

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    Nov 19, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    Pfft. We all know theres no such thing as true monogamy.
  • TennisJock10

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    Nov 19, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidI'm not sure how a thread about married/monogamous couples is going to make me happy. icon_confused.gif


    Exactly. More like depressed. And feeling like a failure at life icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    runnermtl saidDINV - that's because you don't have any delusions about creating a straight "ideal" that very few of them even managed to achieve.

    I never said I didn't want to be in a happy monogamous relationship myself.
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    Montague saidPfft. We all know theres no such thing as true monogamy.

    We do?
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:18 AM GMT
    TennisJock10 said
    DudeInNOVA saidI'm not sure how a thread about married/monogamous couples is going to make me happy. icon_confused.gif

    Exactly. More like depressed. And feeling like a failure at life icon_confused.gif

    I'm not sure I'd go that far. A lot of pieces have to come together to find the right person. Aren't you a little too young to be so fatalistic?
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    I'm not married, lol. But it's nice to know that there are other guys on here who are in a serious relationship with someone, not just a bunch of people who want quick sex :S
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:24 AM GMT
    happy thread ?
    No icon_cry.gif
    *envious*
    *depressed*
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    runnermtl saidDINV - that's because you don't have any delusions about creating a straight "ideal" that very few of them even managed to achieve.

    I never said I didn't want to be in a happy monogamous relationship myself.


    I will bet there are hundreds of guys that would love to get to know you, date you and plant the seeds of a long-lasting relationship with you. I really believe there are.......
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    Nov 19, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    runnermtl saidDINV - that's because you don't have any delusions about creating a straight "ideal" that very few of them even managed to achieve.

    I never said I didn't want to be in a happy monogamous relationship myself.

    Oh well, cause and effect then. LOL.
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    Nov 19, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidThere was once an old man who got pulled over by a cop.

    The cop asked the man if he loved his wife. He said "yes sir, I love her very much!"

    The cop then handcuffed him and charged him with DUI.


    This was funny icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 19, 2012 3:01 AM GMT
    touji saidI'm not married, lol. But it's nice to know that there are other guys on here who are in a serious relationship with someone, not just a bunch of people who want quick sex :S


    Exactly!!! I don't know why monogamy is such a hard concept. I mean I'm 24 and have managed to live happily without having intercourse. Of course we all get horny... But there's a lot more to life than having sex with a hot guy. Eventually we all get older and a whole new crowd of younger more ripped guys will come along - that's when loyalty and true relationships become important.

    I get some men just have a primal type of behavior in them, but the more civilized humans realize that being able to love somebody enough to only be intimate, emotionally and physically, with the guy you're in a relationship with isn't a bad or silly thing. It comes down to respecting your partner.
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    Nov 19, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    I don't know why monogamy is such a desired and important concept for some people. If I were to chose a "most important" factor that makes a married or long term relationship, I would probably say "trusting" or simply "loving." Sex is nothing more than a bodily function and if you put it at the heart of your world view... well... good luck!
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    Nov 19, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    runnermtl saidI don't know why monogamy is such a desired and important concept for some people. If I were to chose a "most important" factor that makes a married or long term relationship, I would probably say "trusting" or simply "loving." Sex is nothing more than a bodily function and if you put it at the heart of your world view... well... good luck!


    Sex and making love are two different things. It's also what you want it to be. Two people can never be in the same space physically - the closest two people can become one is through sex, physically speaking. Sex can be a way to communicate and connect deeper with your partner or it can just be a physical act. It depends on the two guys that are doing it. Each of us creates our own world and philosphies we live by.
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    Nov 19, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    2 years 100% monogamous and many more to come ^^
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    Nov 19, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    BAEGolden saidI get some men just have a primal type of behavior in them, but the more civilized humans realize that being able to love somebody enough to only be intimate, emotionally and physically, with the guy you're in a relationship with isn't a bad or silly thing. It comes down to respecting your partner.

    Monogamy can be a primal behavior as well. There are animal species who form lifetime, monogamous bonds. Being monogamous isn't necessarily a more civilized concept. It may simply be a primal need we have to form a partnership that will better ensure the survival of our progeny. (As gay guys, we don't typically have genetic children with our partner, but we still have the instincts for it.)
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    Nov 19, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    Cheers to long term monogamous relationships! Although technically, cheers to long term monandrous relationships! When I had just come out, the guys who were in long term closed relationships were the ones who really inspired me and got me thinking that the kind of relationship I wanted was possible. I still respect the couples I know who are in open relationships (and there are a lot of them) but I don't find their examples relevant to my life.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    @charlitos I'm so happy for you two. When I read forums on here I remember your name and face. It's great to see you're in a healthy relationship.

    @dudeimNOVA That's an excellent point and I didn't think of that. I also use animals as a reference when people say being gay isn't natural.

    @AP14 I couldn't have said it better myself. Whatever floats your boat icon_smile.gif

    Open relationships create a higher risk of catching STDs. As a side note lamb skin condoms do not protect against HIV - they only protect against pregnancy.

    Also from where I volunteered a lot of guys thought they were in monogamous relationships and ended up getting an STD from their partner.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    The difference in viewpoints on this subject is amazing to me. I'm part of the seemingly small group who want monogamy. I know it's possible for me. Just gotta find the right mate somehow. Does he exist? I don't know, yet.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    BAEGolden saidSex and making love are two different things. It's also what you want it to be. Two people can never be in the same space physically - the closest two people can become one is through sex, physically speaking. Sex can be a way to communicate and connect deeper with your partner or it can just be a physical act. It depends on the two guys that are doing it. Each of us creates our own world and philosphies we live by.

    Yeah right. Why is it that the subject of monogamy always comes up with guys in their 20s who have NEVER been in a long term relationship! Yes, sex can be very special, very communicative and it's still a physical act. When you grow up you'll learn that loving someone has NOTHING to do with sex but sex can certainly enhance the relationship. Many of us are or have been in monogamous relationship but it's not because of the sex, it's because we love the guys we're with and the emotional connection goes well beyond the physical. Some day you and AP14 will see that it's NOT all about the physical sex like you think it is but so much more about the emotional love. Some will have physical sex with others and some will not but the LTR will continue because they truly love and understand each other.