Taking a poll: Raise your hand if you live alone...

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    Nov 19, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    Over the course of meeting many guys...I have realized that pretty much 10 out of 10 guys do not have their own place and live with roommates. It seems like the majority of guys I've come across that do live alone are like in their 40s (lucky for me I do like older men just as much as guys my age. My gym crush is probably atleast 45).

    When I want to get intimate with someone, I don't want to be sneaking around people's house with their mom, brother, sister, roommate and everybody else under the sun. For one it always makes me nervous not knowing who else is in the house and I've had a few bad encounters with people's roomies as well...not usually directed at me but maybe they argue and it turns into a shit show and you just want to hide under the bed or something.

    Last night I went home with a guy and there's like 3 cars in the drive, we walk in there's a girl on the couch and it's late at night. I'm feeling all like whoa...I just couldn't get comfortable knowing there was all them people in there. When I was younger that stuff didn't used to bother me, but now it's a BIG issue for me. Another guy had me over, but then we couldn't spend the night because he was having 'issues' with his roommate. Once again, intimacy interrupted.

    Not to knock anyone's living situation by any means. But I know people who actually make enough money to live alone but choose to live with other people. I actually miss the days when I'd go over to my x-boyfriend's house during the week and just sleep over...just him and I (he lived alone) not me, him, Jenny, Sharon, Jacob and Billy icon_rolleyes.gif

    ....and yes, I live alone LOL.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    I live on my own..

    But by the time your 30 you should have your shit together enough to be out on your own.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:44 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI live on my own..

    But by the time your 30 you should have your shit together enough to be out on your own.


    Ms. thing....you'd be surprised honey.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 saidMs. thing....you'd be surprised honey.

    Oh I'm not. All the guys I've met.. I can count on one hand how many have had there shit together.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    I don't live on my own, but if I ever "entertained" for the evening, I would never do it with someone else living there.

    I've never even dated, and I know I would feel the same as you. If I could be independant, so should he.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:54 AM GMT
    Again, I don't want people to think I'm knocking anyone for having roomies...i realize that doesn't necessarily indicate someone not having their shit together. And if you live in New York or San Fran, this may not even apply to you lol.

    But it's more of the fact that if someone is interested in bringing a guy over and taking it to the next level whether hookup or dating, how can they focus on a relationship if they got all these different people living with them? And what's funny is, many of the guys who DO live with people, generally aren't relationship material anyway.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:55 AM GMT


    I live on my own.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    I couldn't read this whole thread, but I live alone. I have since I moved out of my parents house. I'd like to live with the right guy someday. I don't think there's any great achievement to living alone, but ideally, you should be able to if you have to or want to.
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    Nov 19, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    I had a bunch of amusing (but not at the time) experiences like that. Not for some time now though. I don't think I've ever known many 20-somethings who had their own place.

    My first "own" apartment was when I was 25, but it was a considerable financial sacrifice at the time.

    But I do have a few friends who are nearly 50 and still live in the same house with their parents. And those guys borrow a room in someone else's house for "dates." It used to be fairly common having two or three generations in the same big house. Personally, it would drive me around the bend. (Think: "The Addams Family.")
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    Nov 19, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    Understand the entire live alone or with roommates/whatever.....and yeah it makes for some strange moments, but I am NOT going to kick out my 3 sons and my disabled sister from my home.....so I go and get a room for the deed....problem solved.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 19, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    mindgarden said It used to be fairly common having two or three generations in the same big house. Personally, it would drive me around the bend. (Think: "The Addams Family.")


    Now I will say I met a guy who was Greek and he told me that he lives with his mom and always will as it is custom tradition to never move out of the house. We met on vacation though so it wasn't going to turn into anything anyway, but something like that, if we got real serious not sure how I'd handle that down the road.
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    Nov 19, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    Well, in fact I have my own house, but until they all died off, my parents and grandparents and siblings all lived here on the same ranch. (I went away, but eventually moved back.) The houses are at least half a mile apart, so there is some privacy. Although my Dad never thought twice about barging into my house without knocking. It was occasionally a problem.

    That's pretty standard for this area. Back in the days of the homesteading act, when a man came of age, he could lay claim to another 80 or 160 acres. Part of proving that claim was to build a house on it. It's how a lot of the ranches grew.

    But I can think of at least four houses in the little town of 400 people that have multiple generations living in one house. When one of them gets married, the wife moves in. One of those families is asian, but the others are no discernible ethnicity.
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    Nov 19, 2012 5:35 AM GMT
    I do live alone. I can see the appeal of living with others though.

    That said I'm not going to be looking for a roomie anytime soon.
  • mybud

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    Nov 19, 2012 7:38 AM GMT
    livin alone but would like to share my digs if things worked out...
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    Nov 19, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    I live alone and pay dearly for it. However, it's worth the extra expense to me because I'm a control freak and very routine. I did not like having roommates because no one could ever meet my standards of cleanliness and organization. Plus privacy and personal space are very important to me since I grew up an only child. So instead of starting wars and possibly murdering someone, I decided to spare everyone the pain by rooming with myself. It keeps me sane, so I wouldn't have it any other way.

    The more I think about my living situation and my habits, the more I realize I'm really not long-term partner or husband material, lol.
  • Webster666

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    Nov 19, 2012 8:21 AM GMT
    Oh, the peace and quiet of living alone !
    While I love taking care of a boyfriend/partner, cooking and cleaning and doing his laundry, I don't think I'm boyfriend/partner material.
    So, yes, I live alone, ...................... in San Francisco.
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    Nov 19, 2012 8:21 AM GMT
    I had the means of living on my own when I was 24. I still chose to room with someone cause I was saving a bunch of money and having my close/best friend living with me. It was a blast. When I moved to CA (age 26), I decided to give living alone a try. The freedom of having your own place was great, and it was easy for hookups; but i was lonely and I missed the joy and laughter of having another body in the house. Now I'm living with the bf and I get to see his handsome face every day.

    Living alone aint all it cracks up to be.
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    Nov 19, 2012 8:30 AM GMT
    NugiePugie said
    Living alone aint all it cracks up to be.


    Yeah it can and does get pretty lonely too so there's the downside. I mean some days, it's like suicidal lonely icon_lol.gif At this point I haven't met anyone long term enough to move in with them like that...I can imagine that's bliss. In your case, that's a good kind of living with someone.

    I did the roommate thing for like 2 or 3 months staying with a friend and his mom in their extra bedroom. It worked out good, but there was the part about him being a vegetarian and me wanting to cook meats always clashed. It was a temporary thing from the start.

    Also, people who have roommates...what if your guy is addicted to Grindr/Adam4adam and has guys coming in and out all the time. I have lived with someone briefly who did that...and it was so uncomfortable. But then I bought 1 person over and the deal was off icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 19, 2012 8:33 AM GMT
    There are people who simply need to be around people to feel comfortable. I believe that applies to most extroverts.

    Meanwhile being around people for too long would be absolutely dreadful for me. I need my own cave where I can be a hermit for a while.
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    Nov 19, 2012 8:42 AM GMT
    nicodegallo said
    Meanwhile being around people for too long would be absolutely dreadful for me. I need my own cave where I can be a hermit for a while.


    There's also the famous phrase that says the quickest way to end a friendship is to move in together...

    But I really would want to live with a boyfriend though, that'd be nice. But damn the thought of it just seems so distance as it is. Everytime I meet someone decent they already have a roommate(s)(s)(s) and don't be trying to go in the same direction anyway. But that's another topic...
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    Nov 19, 2012 8:46 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs25 said
    nicodegallo said
    Meanwhile being around people for too long would be absolutely dreadful for me. I need my own cave where I can be a hermit for a while.


    There's also the famous phrase that says the quickest way to end a friendship is to move in together...

    But I really would want to live with a boyfriend though, that'd be nice. But damn the thought of it just seems so distance as it is. Everytime I meet someone decent they already have a roommate(s)(s)(s) and don't be trying to go in the same direction anyway. But that's another topic...


    I've often heard the same. Well, living together or borrowing money.

    Anyway, during my college years, several friends asked if I wanted to live with them. I didn't hesitate to turn them down knowing our friendship would be ruined. I always roomed with strangers.

    Meanwhile I'm quite convinced that I'm doomed for living with a boyfriend...
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    Nov 19, 2012 8:52 AM GMT
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  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 19, 2012 8:52 AM GMT
    I have my own place he has his and the are only 15-20 mins apart so it's never a problem me staying or him staying over.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 19, 2012 8:54 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidI have my own place he has his and the are only 15-20 mins apart so it's never a problem me staying or him staying over.icon_biggrin.gif


    It's interesting you mention that. I've often wondered if I could succeed in having a relationship where me and my guy live separately or share a place with separate bedrooms. I know that sounds soooo unromantic and selfish, but hey, I want to be practical here!
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    Nov 19, 2012 9:01 AM GMT
    The simple fact is that people get weird when they live alone.