Breaking the Ice

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    Nov 20, 2012 8:31 AM GMT
    I kind of have a hard time starting a conversation.... And keeping it going as well lol how do you break the Ice? I guess I'm kind of some socially awkward kinda guy.
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    Nov 20, 2012 8:35 AM GMT
    I usually say "Hi I'm Neight" and see where it goes from there
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    Nov 20, 2012 9:10 AM GMT
    Neight saidI usually say "Hi I'm Neight" and see where it goes from there
    Same. Except I'm not Neight.
  • Kriss

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    Nov 20, 2012 1:36 PM GMT
    Start with something simple. Say hello how are you my name is so and so. Ask them what their favorite kind of music, movie, or thing is. Try to observe them carefully usually I like to strike out at potential friends b/c of something they might have on their screen saver or a book they are reading. Try to examine the person before you approach do a quick once over and check their surroundings context clues from what they are wearing, looking at on the computer etc are great ways to totally break ice.

    Scenario!

    Young male/female on the computer in the library they have an awesome screensaver from one of your favorite shows. Simple way to start.

    "Oh hey is that such and such show?" they will probably be like yeah, and then you gotta do something like.

    "ah I love that show so much! Do you watch it alot?" or even "that show is retarded!"

    probably best to go with the first rather than the latter. Or you could just punch em in the face and scream Ice Breaker?
  • calibro

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    Nov 20, 2012 3:58 PM GMT
    "so yeah, here's my penis"
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    Nov 20, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    spill a drink on his crotch and if he doesnt punch you out it means he thinks youre cute- then just offer to clean his crotch with your face.

    seriously.. try it .. it works...



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    Nov 20, 2012 4:06 PM GMT
    McQueen said
    Neight saidI usually say "Hi I'm Neight" and see where it goes from there
    Same. Except I'm not Neight.




    lol...... hehehehehhehe
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    Nov 20, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    i say hey bro,sup?hows life?
  • great_scott

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    Nov 20, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    Jokes. Sense of humor is always the way to go. Who doesn't like to laugh?
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    Nov 20, 2012 4:52 PM GMT
    great_scott saidJokes. Sense of humor is always the way to go. Who doesn't like to laugh?


    Definetly this and making them talk about themselves, EVERYONE loves talking about themselves (even in an uncoscious level).
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    Nov 20, 2012 5:48 PM GMT
    A_X91 said
    great_scott saidJokes. Sense of humor is always the way to go. Who doesn't like to laugh?


    Definetly this and making them talk about themselves, EVERYONE loves talking about themselves (even in an uncoscious level).


    Lol yeah, sometimes all you really have to do is nod and laugh occasionally.
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    Nov 20, 2012 6:02 PM GMT
    What you say is less important than you think. Most people are nervous during interactions so just comment on something benign. "What do you think bout this place? What gym do you go to? What do you like to do for fun?..." I honestly prefer to go the riskier route by cracking jokes. It depends on your surroundings.
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    Nov 20, 2012 8:22 PM GMT
    If you're going to start a conversation make sure it's revelant to the setting or activity your target is in or doing.
    Just dont shove yourself into their face and think its going to go well.
    Ask the person about the place or activity so it doesnt come off that you are persuing them.
    If the person is not interested in talking them leave them alone. Trying any harder will just make them annoyed.
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    Nov 20, 2012 8:37 PM GMT
    A_X91 said
    great_scott saidJokes. Sense of humor is always the way to go. Who doesn't like to laugh?


    Definetly this and making them talk about themselves, EVERYONE loves talking about themselves (even in an uncoscious level).



    I second both of these. Ask for opinions, create a fake scenario for them to give you an opinion on just to get them talking. After that, you can lead it elsewhere.

    Example:

    *go up to the person you want to talk to*

    You: "Hey, can I ask you a quick question? Real quick, I have to be back with my friends in like a minute. I just wanted to get a second opinion on something. My friends over there think tall guys would be the first to die if a poison cloud loomed over into this city. You're a tall guy, what's your take?"

    **Note to give yourself a time limit, so you have an escape plan if they're obviously not interested to talk to you. However, if they are interested to continue... next step!**

    Person: *shows interest in talking, you both talk and he gives his opinion on the subject of a poison cloud*

    You: "Haha, you really think so? Well, you seem pretty cool. But I gotta go back to my friends over there, wanna come over and continue this? (Or something along the lines of inviting that person over to go with you to your location)."

    **If they say yes, you win. If they say no, you've got nothing to be embarrassed about because you had to walk back to your friends anyway, as you stated to him/her earlier. Yay for escape plans, right?**


    On a side note, try to avoid something really generic.
    I actually hate it when people come up to me and say, "Hi, I'm _____. How're you tonight?" It's so bland and doesn't catch my interest at all.
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    Nov 21, 2012 6:10 AM GMT
    I usually just go and poke their biceps. Some like it, and some don't.
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    Nov 21, 2012 6:18 AM GMT
    Be original, there's too many simple messages that don't get replies... because people send bland/generic messages.
    If you wanna start a conversation with someone you like, you might wanna say something more than "sup?"
    read their profile, mention something you like or agree with and give way to more conversation. Nothing worse than to try to start a conversation with somebody and realize you kind of ended the conversation at the same time you started it (if that makes any sense)

    Good Luck icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 21, 2012 6:20 AM GMT
    I usually do this or respond to guys who do this.

    Look at him, smile at the guy. Come over and say hi, politely of course, don't just grab the dude's junk ! icon_biggrin.gif