MY ROOMMATES ARE EFFIN' TERRIBLE!

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    Nov 20, 2012 4:59 PM GMT
    You would think that by the time someone graduates from college they know how to be considerate and sweep and mop the floors every once in a while. I come home to piles of dirty dishes that nobody is going to clean up except for myself and their belongings are strewn about everywhere. They make huge meals for themselves and never clean up afterwards and then they have that fucking cat! Don't get me started on that fucker. They're also 30 years old! How do you not know how to clean up after yourself by now? I've tried everything to get them to do their part. Since I'm not on the lease, I don't have much say. I'm outtie.

    Sorry just needed to rant. Use this space to bitch out your shitty housemates.
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    Nov 20, 2012 5:12 PM GMT
    bcoz everybody are waiting for u to clean.
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    Nov 20, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    Well for one thing, you have to let them know that its not acceptable at all for you to be treated as a house cleaner. Doesn't matter if you're not on the lease.


    Also find a new boarding because you need to find people who keep collectively keep their place clean.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 20, 2012 5:20 PM GMT
    Being clean and taking the initiative to clean up isn't linked to age, it is linked to your personality and how one lives their lives.... look at hoarders..

    It is all about being responsible for your own actions.. they don't want to be and you do. I'd make it clear what you expect and if it doesn't improve, you have a choice to make.
  • wellwell

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    Nov 20, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    Do what I did. Get a house near the University; rent out the extra rooms & be the Ship's Captain . . .
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    Nov 20, 2012 5:39 PM GMT
    There's not a lot you can do other than refuse to clean up after them.

    It probably wouldn't be effective, but if it were me I'd consider just picking up the limited amount of crap from common areas where it is really, truly in your way - including dirty dishes, etc. - and piling it on their beds in a big mess.
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    Nov 20, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    Lol yeah you must talk to them about it and see what happens. I currently have horrible roommates that are closet drug addicts, FML. I left for a vacation for a week and a half and came back to purple stuff in the dishwasher, dirty living room, burnt spoons and trash overflowing. I have talked to them and they have tried to clean and keep things behind closed doors, but I still am not renewing their lease. As of Jan 2013, I'm moving back into SF.
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    Nov 20, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    It's time to have a house meeting and request that the house set down some mutually agreed upon ground rules. Share your feelings about the current situation. Don't make it personal. For example, "When there are dirty dishes left in the sink for more than a day, I feel sad/angry and like I am living in squalor."

    Since your name is not on the lease, the only leverage you have is to pose the reality that if there are no ground rules that you may consider moving out. And, you have to be prepared to make that choice if the other roommates choose not to have ground rules. A stable home environment is critical to personal happiness.

    Try to start the conversation from points of agreement.
    Does everybody like to live in peace, or in a party zone?
    Does everybody like to live in sanitary conditions, or in squalor?

    Depending upon the answers, you may have to make the tough decision to move out. Or, there may be hope that the situation can be salvaged.

    From some basic questions (look to Maslow's hierarchy for some guidance), you can then ask specific questions about what might be some ground rules that everybody agrees to follow so that peace and other agreed upon aspects of the living condition are maintained.

    When you get agreement. WRITE THE GROUND RULES DOWN. Then, EVERYBODY SIGNS the ground rules and they get posted in a conspicuous place, like the refrigerator. Make extra copies just in case the original "gets lost".

    When somebody violates a ground rule, it is the responsibility of everybody to "call it out". It is the responsibility of the offending party to "make right" AND possibly do something extra.

    In this way, the group establishes the "cultural norms" by which the group agrees to abide. It makes it easy for everybody to understand what is the minimum expected.

    There is a myth regarding communication. And, that myth is that it has happened.

    Make communication happen and document the results with mutual agreement.
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    Nov 20, 2012 7:04 PM GMT
    wellwell saidDo what I did. Get a house near the University; rent out the extra rooms & be the Ship's Captain . . .


    This is the ideal situation. In this way, the Ship's Captain has the authority to set the ground rules for the living situation.
  • FitGwynedd

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    Nov 20, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
    Mine are all a bunch of racists from continental Europe. They get really drunk and start problems. Last night they got into a fight with a warden.
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    Nov 20, 2012 7:16 PM GMT
    RAWyalty saidYou would think that by the time someone graduates from college they know how to be considerate and sweep and mop the floors every once in a while. I come home to piles of dirty dishes that nobody is going to clean up except for myself and their belongings are strewn about everywhere. They make huge meals for themselves and never clean up afterwards and then they have that fucking cat! Don't get me started on that fucker. They're also 30 years old! How do you not know how to clean up after yourself by now? I've tried everything to get them to do their part. Since I'm not on the lease, I don't have much say. I'm outtie.

    Sorry just needed to rant. Use this space to bitch out your shitty housemates.


    If your not on the lease can't you just leave?
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    Nov 20, 2012 8:31 PM GMT
    How hung are they?

    I'm a lot more tolerant of someone who's swinging pipe.
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    Nov 20, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    Put rotting potatoes in their pillow cases.
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    Nov 20, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    Whose name is on the lease?
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    Nov 20, 2012 8:56 PM GMT
    whateveryo saidPut rotting potatoes in their pillow cases.


    That's just mean haha

    My one housemate is on the lease and she's the worst at it. Just leaves things everywhere and then complains about how everyone is so dirty. Ugh! I'll take all your advice...besides being shady and leaving rotting potatoes in pillow cases.
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    Nov 20, 2012 9:09 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidHaha. Hahaha. Hahahahahahahaha.

    Are you a messy flat mate Trolli? :p
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    Nov 20, 2012 9:24 PM GMT
    When it comes to dishes I just wash anything that I use and leave whatever my roomie used where he left it, he cleans it.
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    Nov 20, 2012 9:51 PM GMT
    This is exactly why I live by myself. The luxury of creating and cleaning up my own mess.


    "That fucking cat" lmao!!!!~ too fucking bad. The cat is here to stay, unless u kill it icon_twisted.gif like, put some bleach in it's water .....anti-freeze? lol
    jk

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    Nov 20, 2012 9:56 PM GMT
    In the past week looking for a new roommate to replace the alcoholic that finally left, I've had a chick that hasn't shown to pay as she said she would, a guy who wanted to use the walk-in closet to store chainsaw parts from China to sell on ebay, a guy who Definitely wants room but did not retxt and I found out online he offers free rides to people at night (not kidding). There are so many shady people out there be thankful if they make a mess now and then.
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    Nov 20, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidIn the past week looking for a new roommate to replace the alcoholic that finally left, I've had a chick that hasn't shown to pay as she said she would, a guy who wanted to use the walk-in closet to store chainsaw parts from China to sell on ebay, a guy who Definitely wants room but did not retxt and I found out online he offers free rides to people at night (not kidding). There are so many shady people out there be thankful if they make a mess now and then.

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    Nov 20, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    Your situation isn't going to change. Move.
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    Nov 20, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    Until you find your own place:
    Keep your own things in your room - including plates etc
    Do your share of the work but no more, keep a diary of what you do

    If you have somewhere else to go, maybe a quiet word with the property owner, particularly when the lease is up for renewing...
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    Nov 20, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    Clean out your vagina. Jesus, you make choices and sometimes you make stupid ones. Quit whining and move.
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    Nov 20, 2012 10:25 PM GMT
    kill the cat, cook it, and leave all the dirty dishes... icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 20, 2012 10:26 PM GMT
    RAWyalty saidYou would think that by the time someone graduates from college they know how to be considerate and sweep and mop the floors every once in a while. I come home to piles of dirty dishes that nobody is going to clean up except for myself and their belongings are strewn about everywhere. They make huge meals for themselves and never clean up afterwards and then they have that fucking cat! Don't get me started on that fucker. They're also 30 years old! How do you not know how to clean up after yourself by now? I've tried everything to get them to do their part. Since I'm not on the lease, I don't have much say. I'm outtie.

    Sorry just needed to rant. Use this space to bitch out your shitty housemates.



    This sounds just like my roommates.. except for the age and the cat.
    I'll proly rent my own place next school year, i don't think i want to continue living in the same filth.