Depressed after a great time!

  • Nayro

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    Sep 08, 2008 5:32 PM GMT
    hello everyone.

    I am a very social being. I can spend a lot of time by myself and I'm fine but whenever something social comes up I enjoy it very much.
    Last weekend we had a get together of our whole family. I see people there i only see once a year. I had a great time. But everytime since my youth I feel SOOO bad after very good times like that. Like today. I lived in a kinda of mist. I just did everything I had to do but I was thinking about the weekend and about all the people there. Whenever I do something on a day I'll be like. Oh I wonder what he/she is doing right now. The depressed feeling leaves after a day or 2-3. Though in the beginning I dont even want it to go away cause it is my only thing I still have from the good time i experienced. I was just wondering if I am the only one or if there are any more people like me feeling it like that.
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    Sep 08, 2008 6:05 PM GMT
    Yea, I think there's always a letdown after special events. I get like that after vacations, and good times but I try to keep my perspective and know that there will be more vacations and good times ahead in the future.
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    Sep 08, 2008 6:09 PM GMT
    Youngguy24 saidhello everyone.

    I am a very social being. I can spend a lot of time by myself and I'm fine but whenever something social comes up I enjoy it very much.
    Last weekend we had a get together of our whole family. I see people there i only see once a year. I had a great time. But everytime since my youth I feel SOOO bad after very good times like that. Like today. I lived in a kinda of mist. I just did everything I had to do but I was thinking about the weekend and about all the people there. Whenever I do something on a day I'll be like. Oh I wonder what he/she is doing right now. The depressed feeling leaves after a day or 2-3. Though in the beginning I dont even want it to go away cause it is my only thing I still have from the good time i experienced. I was just wondering if I am the only one or if there are any more people like me feeling it like that.


    Sounds like an up and down pattern in your moods. I would get it checked out.
  • Nayro

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    Sep 08, 2008 6:48 PM GMT
    you think its that serious? i thought more ppl would have the same like me.
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    Sep 09, 2008 1:11 AM GMT
    I'm like that all the time as well.
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    Sep 09, 2008 1:35 AM GMT
    Youngguy24 saidyou think its that serious? i thought more ppl would have the same like me.


    Bah! It seems perfectly normal! Mondays have been "down days" for decades. Weekends are for fun. If you have a lot of fun, then saying goodbye to a good time and hello to routine is a bit of a downer. Kind of like a small version of the days after Christmas.

    Now if the good times included a lot of drinking, then the down period is magnified. If you can't handle it, drink less on the weekend.

    To turn it into a pathology without more information is silly.

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    Sep 09, 2008 1:49 AM GMT
    It sounds normal to me too. People have ups and downs all the time, often over the course of a single day.

    I live alone and I'm fine with it, but sometimes I'll really notice that I'm alone right after I've spent a weekend with friends or have had company for a few days. When I come home, or when the company leaves, I'll have a "so, now what?" feeling, and I'm aware of the fact that it's just me and the hum of the refrigerator in the house. It makes me feel a bit blue, but in a day or so I'm fine.
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    Sep 09, 2008 3:22 AM GMT
    I feel very similar after family get-togethers. I think it's totally normal. The comfort we experience from having loving people all around us leaves us feeling kind of empty once we go back to our daily routine. I don't worry about it. In fact, it just makes me appreciate those times even more.
  • Nayro

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    Sep 09, 2008 3:29 PM GMT
    Its getting better now... but still not totally gone. Usually takes a while for me.. icon_sad.gif
  • DJZ77

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    Nov 28, 2009 5:23 AM GMT
    Friggin' A!!! I am soooooo feeling like this right now. Went out bar hopping with friends on Thanksgiving eve and had a blast. Then I spent Thanksgiving with the family... tons of people over. I think I OD'd on happy and now I'm left feeling like there is something missing. I absofuckinloutly hate feeling needy, but I need a hug... icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 28, 2009 11:18 PM GMT

    What you describe sounds like a normal sort of rebound from having a really good time with other people. Perhaps it would help if, when you know you're going to be in a situation that might leave you prone to feeling down afterwards, you planned to some things that you really like in the days following the social event.

    In case you're concerned that you are suffering from clinical depression (or some other mood disorder) I would urge you to contact your doctor or a licensed mental health specialist (psychiatrist, psychologist, LCSW, etc) for an assessment.

    Here's a link to information on depression from the US National Institute of Mental Health: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression/complete-index.shtml#pub3
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    Nov 28, 2009 11:44 PM GMT
    MikeOnMain saidIt sounds normal to me too. People have ups and downs all the time, often over the course of a single day.

    I live alone and I'm fine with it, but sometimes I'll really notice that I'm alone right after I've spent a weekend with friends or have had company for a few days. When I come home, or when the company leaves, I'll have a "so, now what?" feeling, and I'm aware of the fact that it's just me and the hum of the refrigerator in the house. It makes me feel a bit blue, but in a day or so I'm fine.


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  • gumbosolo

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    Nov 29, 2009 12:19 AM GMT
    It's normal. But dwelling on the memory of the good time you had will only prolong it. Let the memory pass-- write it down if you feel a need to honor it-- and find something new happening.