I'm confuses. Need some dating advice.

  • raymondwong36

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    Nov 21, 2012 7:08 AM GMT
    Hey Realjock

    So a day ago, I met this really cute guy who's two years older than me at a rehearsal we were in. At the end of the rehearsal, he offered to drive us home and so he did, and I was the last one. We talked on the way and found that we had a lot of things in common. I found he was gay, had some dating experiences (I don't) and just wants a guy who are themselves (not cocky/egotistical) and happens to be gay. He's a very chill guy and had many experiences that we easily relate to.

    I offered to have him over at my parents place as it was getting real late and so we hanged out, played some video games, watched some movies, etc. Eventually we hooked up and it was a lot of fun.

    The next day, we had to film the stuff so we did and it was kind of awkward. I felt like I was trying to get his attention but it felt like we were both trying to ignore what had happened last night. He left early as his part was done and so after I was done, I gave him a call/text and had no reply.

    I'm just hoping its not what I think it is, a one night stand as we do have many things in common and we went along great.

    I've asked around for advice and most of my friends have recommended me not to talk to him for a couple of days and then to message him (to take it slow). I really dont want to move on as it felt like finding a diamond in an ocean but I also dont want to come off as a creep or weirdo. What's your advice?

    Tdlr; Met guy at local film production, we got tons of things in common, hooked up, next day awkward, no reply. Advice?
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    Nov 21, 2012 9:19 AM GMT
    Not gonna lie here. After having something very primal with someone, things get awkward very fast. Sometimes it depends on the person, but like any other guy on the block it seems to me that he is "weirded" out by how fast you guys got intimate.

    It may seem to late to have a healthy relationship with this guy (trust me I know from moving to fast) and the best and most logical way is to listen to your friends. They give some good advice; let him think about what happened and figure out what he wants, because it seems like you know what you want.

    Time shall reveal all secrets.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 21, 2012 9:27 AM GMT
    if you wanted more than sex you shouldn't have put "the cart before the horse."
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    Nov 21, 2012 11:45 AM GMT
    Maybe it's because I'm old and don't understand how young people work these days; but whatever happened to manners? You would think after getting nekkid with somebody, even if there's no intention of a repeat, a courtesy "Thanks for a nice time." the day after would be in order?

    /rant off

    OP, you've contacted him already, the ball's in his court now. And if he's not interested in anything more, he's not "the diamond in the ocean." There will be other guys.

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    Nov 21, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    One night stand or something about you that didn't fit his "criteria" but he was way too horny and into it to stop it.

    If that bothers you then build the will to say no to sex even if every fiber in you says otherwise.

    You will miss some opportunities with guys that you may find hot, or super hot, but it will pay off in the long term.

    Sex it is part of a relationship, but sex itself doesn't lead to a relationship.
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    Nov 21, 2012 5:39 PM GMT
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    Nov 21, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    He was just horny. It's that simple. Once he shot his load he lost interest.
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    Nov 21, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    Poor thing. It was a one nighter, and he's less than 30 and doesn't have the emotional maturity, nor do you, to understand it was a one nighter, nor the manners / maturity to handle it in a nice way. I.e., another clueless queer. Sad, but....reality.

    Time to put on your big boys pants and move ahead.

    Be nice. Lead by example. ACCEPT that it was a one nighter, and get on with your life.

    Save the drama for the theater.

    You had a one night stand.

    Welcome to Gay America / or Gay Canada, or wherever it is.
  • calibro

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    Nov 21, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    i thought confucius gave advice, not sought it
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    Nov 21, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    calibro saidi thought confucius gave advice, not sought it


    who the fuck is that??
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    Nov 21, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    I would agree to what your friends say and what has been said above. Give him time, but don't beat yourself up over it. Recently two sayings crossed my path that I found to be very painfully true when it comes to dating:

    Never make someone a priority that considers you only an option.

    We accept the love we think we deserve.

    Sex doesn't necessarily lead to a relationship. It may have been the one time thing. It may have not, and that is something that someone that is so new to the dating life as you are still has to learn. Do not assume that such sexual contacts with feelings are actually meaning interest in something deeper, however be open to seize the chance when it is there.

    Good luck to you
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    Nov 21, 2012 7:33 PM GMT
    Give it some time. If he returns your call or text, then take it from there. Otherwise, the next time you see him, have some small talk. You'll get a better idea about his intentions.
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    Nov 21, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    I have a feeling *he's just not that into you, buddy. He just blows and go!! Give it time and let him come to you if he's interested, otherwise, move on.