Nipple Piercing - Partner Disapproves

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    Nov 21, 2012 3:13 PM GMT
    Some of you will know that I have wanted to get my nipples pierced for some time - I've mentioned it several times here before. Well in fact I've wanted to get them done for years and years, and just never felt like it was the 'right' time for whatever reason.

    So now I feel like I want to get them done finally, but my partner isn't keen - to be fair, he never has been but I thought he would warm to the idea since I have mentioned it many times. I wanted to get both of them done and just have a small bar in each, but he's said he doesn't like the idea of it and doesn't want to be tasting metal when he's sucking on my nipples.

    He's pretty much said he will never suck my nipples again if I get them done and he is totally against me doing it.

    I said it was unfair as it's something I've wanted to do for many years, before we even got together, and he said I should have done it before we did then. Not really much I can do about that!

    I thought as a compromise I could just get one done, even though I wanted both, as then I get what I want to some extent and he still has a regular nipple to suck on! But he's still pretty much saying no.

    I feel like it's my body and I should be able to do what I want with it, but at the same time I do see his point of view as well, I guess it's also not fair to force something on him that he didn't 'sign up' for.

    What can I do about this? Anyone had a similar situation?
  • sarmorgh

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    Nov 21, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    Get them pierced. He won't be able to touch them for a while because they will be too sensitive. Once they heal it will have been so long (maybe a month or two) since he had a chance to play with them he will be more than willing to give them a try.
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    Nov 21, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    sarmorgh saidGet them pierced. He won't be able to touch them for a while because they will be too sensitive. Once they heal it will have been so long (maybe a month or two) since he had a chance to play with them he will be more than willing to give them a try.


    Haha, do like the sound of that plan! I'm not sure I dare risk it though!!
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    Nov 22, 2012 8:36 AM GMT
    Don't go behind his back and do it, that'll just make him upset.

    It is your body though. . .


    But, it is unfair of him to not support you in wanting this. . .

    If y'all really like each other, nipple peircings shouldn't ruin that. I say you should go for it.

    Just remember your nips are gonna get awfully dry. . .
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    Nov 22, 2012 12:12 PM GMT
    I've got plenty of cocoa butter to keep them soft!
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    Nov 22, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    It's your body, your choice. I can understand why a bottom would be averse to having his top partner get a Prince Albert, Ampallang, Apadravya, frenum, Dydoe, and other cock-deforming piercings, but a nipple piercing is really nothing. My bf wanted a guiche piercing and I completely supported it, and I was even there to witness the piercing. I'd say do it.
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    Nov 22, 2012 2:52 PM GMT
    Get them done and when they heal just take out the jewelery when you want him to suck on your nipples. Everyone wins.

    I don't have my one anymore but it does change the way you nipples look. Without the ring now, my left (formerly pierced) nipple gets more erect than the right one and is a little darker and slightly larger too.
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    Nov 22, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    I cannot understand why anyone would want to mutilate themselves. Especially if it will turn off the most important person in your life. Not to mention the PAIN!
  • rnch

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    Nov 22, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    jim_e saidGet them done and when they heal just take out the jewelery when you want him to suck on your nipples...


    Be advised that nipple piercing holes close up quite quickly.


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  • jayatl56

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    Nov 24, 2012 3:54 PM GMT
    I wanted a PA for years but didn't do it because of my then BF. We talked about it - actually he began talking about getting a nipple pierced. I supported it 100% and brought up my wanting to get a PA. But it never happened until we broke up. I got my PA (don't know, don't care if he ever got his nipple pierced). I love my PA but I'm finding A LOT of guys don't like it. Not sure I know why. I'm a bottom so it shouldn't bother them but it does. If it interferes in me meeting someone - as in partner potential - I'll take it out.

  • great_scott

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    Nov 24, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    Withholding sex or a specific sexual activity because of a disagreement is one of the most controlling things a person can do in a relationship. Red flag.

    Get it done. He'll get over it. I dated a guy that had rings in both, and they were actually pretty fun. icon_biggrin.gif
  • whytehot

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    Nov 24, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    i've bailed mid-makeout a few times due to stuff like nipple piercings and tattoos
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:49 PM GMT
    Ultimately, the decision is yours. But if you were in his situation, not liking piercings, would you approve? (I don't know if you can be completely unbiased here)

    I would say, compromise with him, have him agree to at least have a trial period. You get 1 piercing done, and give him a few weeks to try comparing the two. If he doesn't like it, he can just stick to one. (And you can try to get the piercing undone if you want, that's up to you) And if he does like it, you can get the other piercing done, (unless you don't want to anymore)

    At least bring up the idea of compromise. I don't know how long you two've been together, but if you can't even get past this, you may be off to a rocky start.
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:49 PM GMT
    whytehot saidi've bailed mid-makeout a few times due to stuff like nipple piercings and tattoos


    Strange piercings I can understand, but tattoos? They won't really affect you in any way will they?
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    Nov 24, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    I think there is more at play here than just the piercings. How much does your partner trust you? Why are you getting this "upgrade" done? Are you trying to attract other men?

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    Nov 26, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidUltimately, the decision is yours. But if you were in his situation, not liking piercings, would you approve? (I don't know if you can be completely unbiased here)

    I would say, compromise with him, have him agree to at least have a trial period. You get 1 piercing done, and give him a few weeks to try comparing the two. If he doesn't like it, he can just stick to one. (And you can try to get the piercing undone if you want, that's up to you) And if he does like it, you can get the other piercing done, (unless you don't want to anymore)

    At least bring up the idea of compromise. I don't know how long you two've been together, but if you can't even get past this, you may be off to a rocky start.


    Yeah this is basically how it's going, he's warming to the idea of a 'try it and see' approach.

    It's not a rocky start though, we're coming up for 6 years together - been through much more than this!
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    Nov 26, 2012 2:50 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI think there is more at play here than just the piercings. How much does your partner trust you? Why are you getting this "upgrade" done? Are you trying to attract other men?



    Haha, I don't think that's anything to do with it - I've never heard of someone getting a piercing to attract other men, it's something for me, that I have wanted to do for many years.
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    Nov 26, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    Pure said
    bhp91126 saidI think there is more at play here than just the piercings. How much does your partner trust you? Why are you getting this "upgrade" done? Are you trying to attract other men?



    Haha, I don't think that's anything to do with it - I've never heard of someone getting a piercing to attract other men, it's something for me, that I have wanted to do for many years.


    I agree, nothing wrong with trying to look good just to look good! If you look good, you feel good, then you play good.

    That being said, there is a lot going on in this situation. As someone mentioned, withholding sex or an activity is a huge red flag. At the same time, sex is about pleasing each other, and maybe this is a huge no no for your boyfriend. If i was dating someone and he wanted to get a prince albert, that would be a deal breaker for me. This could be for him as well.

    You need to ask yourself, what do you love more, your boyfriend or the idea that you want your nipples pierced. I can tell already that if you do get them pierced it is gonna be the start of the end for you peeps. But also, you two are young and you may have outgrown each other. Maybe its a sign that you need to spread your wings and fly like the precious butterfly you are Pure?

    Just a thought.
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    Nov 26, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    jayatl56 said...I love my PA but I'm finding A LOT of guys don't like it. Not sure I know why. I'm a bottom so it shouldn't bother them but it does. If it interferes in me meeting someone - as in partner potential - I'll take it out.

    If they're oral like me I can think of a few reasons. For example, I love to suck dick, hard, but a PA can be awkward in the mouth, and hard against the teeth. Of course PA size is an important factor, and I had one FB with a PA I swear was the size of a shower curtain ring. Maybe he thought the dangling weight would stretch his dick over time. Giving him a BJ was not fun for me, as he wouldn't ever remove it. Thank gawd he wasn't a top, not sure what that would have felt like, or how a condom could have survived it.

    Plus if its through the urethra, as are most in the US, the urine stream can become a hard to aim spray. Not a guy you want in your bathroom, unless he's thoughtful enough to sit at all times. So that PAs are not a piercing I really understand or like.
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    Nov 26, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    jayatl56 said[...]
    [...] a PA I swear was the size of a shower curtain ring. [...]


    L...O...L
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    Nov 26, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    rnch said
    jim_e saidGet them done and when they heal just take out the jewelery when you want him to suck on your nipples...


    Be advised that nipple piercing holes close up quite quickly.


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    Like the majority says: it's your body so do you what you want. However, like the quote above, be aware of what comes with nipple piercings.

    1) They close up quickly, so if you take them out to clean them, you should put them back in as soon as the piercings are dry. When I had mine, I left them out for the whole day, and putting them back in was almost like reliving the actual piercing process.

    2) With that, the process is extremely painful, and takes a long time to heal. The smallest snag on them too soon can cause them to bleed.

    3) You're taking a gamble when you pierce your nipples. Either the pleasure that can come from it will be the same or enhanced, or it can be completely ruined and you won't feel much after it has been done.

    Think it through.
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    Nov 26, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
    Chainers saidI can tell already that if you do get them pierced it is gonna be the start of the end for you peeps.


    Wow I think that's a bit overboard! He's not going to dump me just because I get a tit pierced, I think we're a bit more solid than that - we've been together coming up 6 years and have a house and a dog together.

    I just want him to be into it the way I am, rather than not into it at all. But I can settle for him being just not fussed, which is where I think things will end up (using my powers of persuasion).
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    Nov 26, 2012 3:59 PM GMT
    Pure said
    Chainers saidI can tell already that if you do get them pierced it is gonna be the start of the end for you peeps.


    Wow I think that's a bit overboard! He's not going to dump me just because I get a tit pierced, I think we're a bit more solid than that - we've been together coming up 6 years and have a house and a dog together.

    I just want him to be into it the way I am, rather than not into it at all. But I can settle for him being just not fussed, which is where I think things will end up (using my powers of persuasion).




    I wouldn't take Chainers' reply seriously, Pure. He has a long habit of attention grabbing, "over the top","look at ME-ME-ME" threads and replies here on RJ.


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    Nov 26, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    Pure said
    Chainers saidI can tell already that if you do get them pierced it is gonna be the start of the end for you peeps.


    Wow I think that's a bit overboard! He's not going to dump me just because I get a tit pierced, I think we're a bit more solid than that - we've been together coming up 6 years and have a house and a dog together.

    I just want him to be into it the way I am, rather than not into it at all. But I can settle for him being just not fussed, which is where I think things will end up (using my powers of persuasion).


    I call em like I see em. Remember I'm just going off of your side of the story. Either way you should really talk to him about your concerns and not us.
  • Koaa2

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    Nov 26, 2012 7:17 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]jim_e said[/cite]Get them done and when they heal just take out the jewelery when you want him to suck on your nipples. Everyone wins.

    I think this is a good idea, shouldn't close up in 2-3 hours..