Was that a ton of bricks that just fell on me?

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    Nov 21, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    Long story short...

    I met this guy over a year ago. We had a brief casual relationship that I enjoyed. It ended abruptly for no reason, just as it had started. I began having feelings for him after this, but knew there was no chance of a relationship.

    Fast forward to today when I find out he's dating a mutual friend. Good for them and I wouldn't want to take anything away from them but....

    I feel like I've been hit by an emotional bus. I don't know why. I guess I do have feelings afterallicon_rolleyes.gif My head hurts and my stomach is twisted. This is odd and very new for me. Just wanted to vent.

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    Nov 21, 2012 11:10 PM GMT
    vent recognized......
  • KarlosSuave

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    Nov 22, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    Sleep with his friend only way <3
  • Kel_

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    Nov 22, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    KarlosSuave saidSleep with his friend only way <3


    Yes, if you're into ruining relationships... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 22, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    You 'guess u have feelings"... what is it with gay men...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 22, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    Be happy for them. Live your life. Move on.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Nov 22, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    Call the friend and tell him what you've told us. Then take it from there. We're just random gay guys on the internet. Those people are in your life and matter to you.
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    Nov 22, 2012 2:00 AM GMT
    aww hang in there bud you'll realize the world is much bigger than you think, there will be others guys in your future
  • wpc56

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    Nov 22, 2012 2:18 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidCall the friend and tell him what you've told us. Then take it from there. We're just random gay guys on the internet. Those people are in your life and matter to you.


    Why would you want to ruin other people, or in this case, a friend's relationship?

    How is making the friend feeling guilty going to help the OP other than, "Gee thanks, you're making me feel guilty going out with your ex or gee someone's jealous?"

    Back to the OP, its part of growing pain, it'll heal over time. It takes two to tango and it really sucks when someone else does not reciprocate your affection but relationship takes TWO... you can't force it... you can only move on and keep looking.
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    Nov 22, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    This post was a spur of the moment thing. I'm fine, and will be quite capable with moving on. Thanks for the replies.

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    Nov 22, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    Bud, don't feel tooo lonely- you sure are only three hours away from Houston?!
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    Nov 22, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    It's sad seeing someone you like/love move on without you, but it's life. I'm sure you will break a few hearts too.

    I wouldn't call the other guy though. It will probably only make things awkward and won't have the fairy tale ending you hoped for.
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    Nov 22, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    I know this feeling. Definitely one of the worst things I've ever felt icon_sad.gif

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    Nov 22, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    You had a year to act on your feelings for this guy. Doesn't seem like they were/are that strong. I think you just have a case of the "what if's". They hit harder the longer you are single.
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    Nov 22, 2012 6:48 AM GMT
    I'm definitely not going to mess with their relationship. I know I'm not the guy for him. I also don't know how I can go hang out with either of them at this point. It was a new feeling and I felt like sharing. I guess I'm starting to reach a point where a companion would be nice. I've lost a couple close friends the past few months so maybe that's part of it.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 22, 2012 7:32 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidBe happy for them. Live your life. Move on.


    ^This +1