Gay fraternities boys and budgets

  • RogerW19

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    Sep 08, 2008 11:27 PM GMT
    Hey everyone,
    So recently I have spent well more than i can afford on clothes because i'm in college and all my frat friends are extremely superficial ( go figure, a bunch of "straight boys" being superficial). I am spending so much money on ralph lauren polos, vineyard vines and Lacoste. My parents are not rich. hahaha. I need to put myself on a budget. I was wondering how much is a reasonable amount per week for a college student? Also how many people know gay fraternity boys?
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    Sep 08, 2008 11:38 PM GMT
    reasonable is how much you can afford..

    You work it out by how much you get paid, to how much you need to live (food, bills, rent) and then go from there..

    Why not get your own sense of style instead of something from a label..
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    Sep 08, 2008 11:49 PM GMT
    thrift store man...if you really have an eye for fashion. Invent a look before it is "off the shelf" The yellow or pink polo shirt with the collar up.. that was the thing a few seasons ago ..was originally all thrift store finds..they were thrift store lacoste shirts from the '80's.
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    Sep 09, 2008 5:04 AM GMT
    I was in a fraternity in college...

    I think you can definitely find some fun clothes at thrift shops (at least in Tallahassee you could)... Make up your own style... I had plenty of fraternity bro's who had a few "name brand" shirts, but cycled them through with regular inexpensive options. Another option... are there stores like Marshals, TJMax, etc... name brand clothes for cheap! Granted usually "last season", but when it comes to polos, jeans, etc... can you really tell? And if any says "dude, that is so last season"... just smack him, lol.
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    Sep 09, 2008 5:13 AM GMT
    I know how you feel, I am in a fraternity and definitely on a budget but I also have expensive tastes like any other frat boy. My advice is to shop on e-bay. you can get great name-brand clothes, all new, for next to nothing. One of my frat bro turned me on to ebay last year. He couldn't believe I was still shopping at department stores and polo.com
  • styrgan

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    Sep 09, 2008 5:17 AM GMT
    When you pay $500 dues plus $100 initiation fee plus whatever else to have a social life, you should not be complaining about the investment you're making in some of the best polo shirts on the market.
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    Sep 09, 2008 5:21 AM GMT
    None of those brands stand up any better than others on the markets, they look almost the exact same, and you should get the fuck over it... you should have had a good idea that frat life would be superficial before you joined... and never make a "weekly" budget for clothes... maybe a monthly... and even then it shouldnt be more than $100 if you have a normal college job. more than 10 or 20% of your income to your clothes is absolutely ludicrous.
  • styrgan

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    Sep 09, 2008 5:28 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]cosguy said[/cite]None of those brands stand up any better than others on the markets, they look almost the exact same, and you should get the fuck over it...

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    That's an outright lie. My dad has this really disgusting Lacoste striped polo from the early 80's, and I'm sad to report that it's held up quite well over the years.
  • gumbosolo

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    Sep 09, 2008 5:33 AM GMT
    Buy things you like the look of, not the name of. Set trends instead of following them-- in New Orleans, at least, the expensive stores in the mall are modeling guys' clothes with two collars at a time . . . some crazy fool started that.

    Ebay is also a good idea.

    I've known some gay frat guys, but not many. Only two were out and proud. At the opposite extreme, a very scared frat guy propositioned me via email one time. Some guys are real cool with it, but the environment and the tradition aren't really conducive. You out to your bros?
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    Sep 09, 2008 5:39 AM GMT
    GEEEZ. This was MY college life. I actually just ended up working.
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    Sep 09, 2008 5:41 AM GMT
    That post actually did NOT help at all. EBAY. work, save money then go to Florida and spend it at the outlets. LOL. Those were THEE best way for me!
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Sep 09, 2008 6:20 AM GMT
    Go to Nordtroms Rack, Mervyns, and the not to be forgotten "Ross Dress For Less" to get the same things for half the price. Regardless, don't fall in the trap of the pretentiousness of label whores. You're a cute guy, and true friends will like you even if you're dripping in Wal-mart -- and those are the people you want around you at the end of the day anyway. Ralph Lauren can't make you any hotter, he just costs more.
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    Sep 09, 2008 8:18 AM GMT
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  • RogerW19

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    Sep 09, 2008 10:41 PM GMT
    No actually i'm not out and I know the dues are expensive but my parents pay those, cause there is no way i could pay the $2500.00 myself but they are not all about the clothes. So thanks for the advice and maybe i can find some stuff.
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    Sep 14, 2008 7:45 AM GMT
    here's a better idea....quit that idiotic fraternity, stop dressing like you're trying too hard, and spend all that energy studying. That way YOUR kids won't have to pretend they have money. icon_biggrin.gif


  • scothman

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    Sep 14, 2008 9:07 AM GMT
    I am in a fraternity also. Which one are you in? Your bros shouldn't care what you wear. You are all brothers and they shouldn't have a problem with you wearing non-name brand clothes. I do not have an issue with money at all but I know that if I did, my bros could care less.

    In terms of how much to spend in a week, that is up to you. Everyone has different amounts of money. My budget will be different than yours. Just write down how much you have in a month, and then decide how much is absolutely necessary to spend. Take the remaining and save some and spend the rest. I would be more than happy to help you. I do a lot of budgeting for people so just send me a message if you need any kind of help.
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    Sep 14, 2008 5:52 PM GMT
    RogerW19 saidHey everyone,
    So recently I have spent well more than i can afford on clothes because i'm in college and all my frat friends are extremely superficial ( go figure, a bunch of "straight boys" being superficial). I am spending so much money on ralph lauren polos, vineyard vines and Lacoste. My parents are not rich. hahaha. I need to put myself on a budget. I was wondering how much is a reasonable amount per week for a college student? Also how many people know gay fraternity boys?


    Work for Polo Ralph Laurenicon_lol.gif

    That way you can get them for $7 plus you can wreak them with no concern, nothing makes people squirm more than rolling round in dirt in the clothes that cost them 10 times as much as you
  • DanBasil

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    Sep 15, 2008 8:06 PM GMT
    Please- I wore whatever I pleased and dues were the only expense for fraternity. I was told I would never make the fraternity, and I didn't listen and I even ended up as an officer within a year of pledging, so be yourself and follow a plan that speaks of yourself, not conformity to an ideal you are not into.
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    Sep 15, 2008 8:29 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidGo to Nordtroms Rack, Mervyns, and the not to be forgotten "Ross Dress For Less" to get the same things for half the price. Regardless, don't fall in the trap of the pretentiousness of label whores. You're a cute guy, and true friends will like you even if you're dripping in Wal-mart -- and those are the people you want around you at the end of the day anyway. Ralph Lauren can't make you any hotter, he just costs more.


    DO NOT BUY CLOTHES AT WALMART!

    curious is just trying to get you blackballed.

    I had a younger brother and he was poor...I let him borrow my stuff. I think by the end of the year he was wearing my clothes almost exclusively. the added bonus was I got to watch him try all the stuff on...
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    Sep 16, 2008 12:25 AM GMT
    I was in Phi Kappa Psi at Brown. My fraternity brother roommate, and great friend, was my same clothes size. We didn't mind sharing each others clothes. So, we each "doubled" our wardrobe just by rooming together.

    So, one option - room with a sharer who is your same clothes size.
  • Salubrious

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    Sep 16, 2008 12:30 AM GMT
    bryanedwardclark saidI was in Phi Kappa Psi at Brown. My fraternity brother roommate, and great friend, was my same clothes size. We didn't mind sharing each others clothes. So, we each "doubled" our wardrobe just by rooming together.

    So, one option - room with a sharer who is your same clothes size.


    Live Ever, Die Never!

    I think you're the only other Phi Psi I've found on this site. I'm at Ohio Epsilon (Case Western Reserve University), always nice to meet another brother.


    As for the OP, I'd say bargin hunt and thrift store shop, but it shouldn't mean that much to you. I know my school's fraternity system is a lot different from most, but why would you want to be a brother of guys that won't accept you wearing something less than Ralph Lauren?
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    Sep 16, 2008 12:42 AM GMT
    Hit the second hand stores, or your frat bro's closets. Ebay is good as well, and take it from me, no matter how much you pay for the Burberry polo, if it doesn't look good, it's not doing any good.

    Make up your own style, or date someone that can do it for you.
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    Sep 16, 2008 5:13 AM GMT
    RogerW19 saidHey everyone,
    So recently I have spent well more than i can afford on clothes because i'm in college and all my frat friends are extremely superficial ( go figure, a bunch of "straight boys" being superficial). I am spending so much money on ralph lauren polos, vineyard vines and Lacoste. My parents are not rich. hahaha. I need to put myself on a budget. I was wondering how much is a reasonable amount per week for a college student? Also how many people know gay fraternity boys?


    LOL. Idiot. Become the "PROTEIN SHAKE" frat guy. So then all you have to wear is a beater and shorts. That's what I did when I was in the frat (and just gym shorts during the summer). I fit in well at my frat and in fact was looked up to because I was a gym freak and a chick magnet (guys like that). ;) I won top 5 during the dee gee Anchor man. WHERE IS YOUR GOD NOW?????

    p.s. Date another frat guy = double your wardrobe.
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    Sep 16, 2008 10:40 PM GMT
    mmm....DG's are yummy...