since when do gays call instead of text?

  • whytehot

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    Nov 22, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    I mean for first contact (the progression beyond online messaging). A cute guy gave me his number online, and I texted him a couple days later. Later I was kinda caught off guard when I saw a missed call from him along with 2 texts, the second of which said "wow, you take long to repy huh"

    There's gotta be a good reason for this, and he's still a normal person, right? I want him to be!

    Disclaimer: I'm not a fan of texting either, especially idle texting with a guy I haven't met yet; usually I prefer the first voice conversation with them to be in person, and the texting is only a means to arrange it.
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    Nov 22, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    Honestly, I don't understand the obsession with texting. I think it's great for a quick information exchange. But it just boggles my mind that people will have lengthy rapid fire text "conversations".

    So yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong if a guy calls instead of text. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 22, 2012 3:58 AM GMT
    Texting is fine for chatting back and forth when you can't focus on the conversation, but talking on the phone is much better. It's a little strange that he's already impatient with you, but it's not the end of the world.
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    Nov 22, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
    texting is overated.....it is only for when ur unable to talk....if you are you should be talking....he is normal in my opinion. You can't judge someone just because they text you a message, but he seems impatient.
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    Nov 22, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    Texting is especially useful for business people, whose tight schedules and activities, such as taking meetings, don't lend themselves to voice communication. A text that says "Mtg on for 3" is easy to discretely see in the middle of your ongoing meeting at 1. For other less constrained messaging I prefer traditional voice, and voicemail.

    The OP shouldn't be too concerned about this being his own failing. Some people assume others check their mobile devices for text & voice messages every couple of minutes, as is more common in the business world. As some RJ guys have learned with me, however, a few of us don't look at our text messages for days & days on end. icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 22, 2012 5:10 PM GMT
    I actually hate talking on the phone. I hate the way my voice sounds on it so I opt to text unless I feel inclined otherwise.
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    Nov 22, 2012 5:20 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidI actually hate talking on the phone. I hate the way my voice sounds on it so I opt to text unless I feel inclined otherwise.

    Might I suggest speech therapy? You're not talking to hear yourself - your talking to communicate with another human being in real-time. icon_biggrin.gif
    Speech also communicates FAR more to another person than any text(s) can convey. I think this is especially important when getting to know people.

    I won't go on a date with anyone that doesn't know how to have a quick/fun conversation on the phone. Voices and how one communicates are important to me.
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    Nov 22, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    ART_DECO saidTexting is especially useful for business people, whose tight schedules and activities, such as taking meetings, don't lend themselves to voice communication. A text that says "Mtg on for 3" is easy to discretely see in the middle of your ongoing meeting at 1. For other less constrained messaging I prefer traditional voice, and voicemail.

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    Nov 22, 2012 5:35 PM GMT
    manboynyc said
    Fivealive saidI actually hate talking on the phone. I hate the way my voice sounds on it so I opt to text unless I feel inclined otherwise.

    Might I suggest speech therapy? You're not talking to hear yourself - your talking to communicate with another human being in real-time. icon_biggrin.gif
    Speech also communicates FAR more to another person than any text(s) can convey. I think this is especially important when getting to know people.

    I won't go on a date with anyone that doesn't know how to have a quick/fun conversation on the phone. Voices and how one communicates are important to me.



    I know I am not talking to hear myself but the hollowness via phone makes me sound girly. I actually do alter my speech pattern by deepening it more. Otherwise people have been known to mistaken me for being a woman over the phone.

    I did mention I am inclined to talk, if its with a guy I seem to have a connection with. Plus I warn them that I don't sound great on the phone.

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    Nov 22, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    homosexuals have discovered speech11? we're in trouble now.
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    Nov 22, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    There was a time in the not so distant past when we did not have the luxury of texting people. We (GASP!) actually had to talk to someone over the phone!!! Some people do prefer the more personal communication method of speaking to someone else instead of just sending a text. So, don't take it personally if someone's communication style is different from yours and don't look at it as being right or wrong, that's just the way they are.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 22, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    Texting is fine when you don't want others to listen on on a conversation
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    Nov 22, 2012 6:47 PM GMT
    I think its great to text, as it gives an opportunity for guys that are shy to break the ice, that would never contact you in the first place
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    Nov 22, 2012 7:02 PM GMT
    manboynyc said
    Fivealive saidI actually hate talking on the phone. I hate the way my voice sounds on it so I opt to text unless I feel inclined otherwise.

    Might I suggest speech therapy? You're not talking to hear yourself - your talking to communicate with another human being in real-time. icon_biggrin.gif
    Speech also communicates FAR more to another person than any text(s) can convey. I think this is especially important when getting to know people.

    I won't go on a date with anyone that doesn't know how to have a quick/fun conversation on the phone. Voices and how one communicates are important to me.


    Agree. Sometimes it's not what you say, but how you say it. We have five senses to use, and I like to use as many as possible prior to meeting someone to ensure I don't get a "it puts the lotion on its skin" vibe from them. Gotta talk, even if for just 5 minutes to confirm a meet up.
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    Nov 22, 2012 7:07 PM GMT
    If you can't handle a phone conversation...you sure as HELL can't handle a relationship.

    Or a date.

    Or the world beyond your room.

    In yer Mom's house.

    period.

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  • FitGwynedd

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    Nov 22, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    Welsh wizard David Lloyd George has brought us the wonder of telephone service. ALL HAIL

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  • FitGwynedd

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    Nov 22, 2012 7:17 PM GMT
    not_superman said^Huh?


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  • DanOmatic

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    Nov 22, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
    Cash saidIf you can't handle a phone conversation...you sure as HELL can't handle a relationship.

    Or a date.

    Or the world beyond your room.

    In yer Mom's house.

    period.

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  • FireDoor211

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    Nov 22, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    I hate talking on the phone with a passion. I generally won't continue to talk to someone if they call me. Especially with out notice. Unless your house is on fire or you're dieing in a ditch somewhere and 'NEED' immediate attention then fine, call, but otherwise text and I'll get back to you when I can.
  • FitGwynedd

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    Nov 22, 2012 10:50 PM GMT
    not_superman said
    FitGwynedd said
    not_superman said^Huh?


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    But what does he have to do with the telephone?


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    Nov 22, 2012 10:50 PM GMT
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  • runnermtl

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    Nov 22, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    People hide behind text messages the same way they hide behind a computer screen. If a guy isn't man enough to want to actually speak to me, then I probably won't waste my time with him.
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    Nov 23, 2012 10:55 AM GMT
    FireDoor211 saidI hate talking on the phone with a passion. I generally won't continue to talk to someone if they call me. Especially with out notice. Unless your house is on fire or you're dieing in a ditch somewhere and 'NEED' immediate attention then fine, call, but otherwise text and I'll get back to you when I can.


    wow- you sound like a real Catch... a dream come true!!!!

    AMAZING no one has scooped you up.

    I have no doubt you and yer i-device will be very happy together.

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    Nov 23, 2012 11:08 AM GMT
    If my friend wasn't kind enough to call me last night to make sure I wasn't spending Thanksgiving alone I wouldn't have had the pleasure of having Cash yell at me from across the room.
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    Nov 23, 2012 5:35 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    Coach_Mike saidIf my friend wasn't kind enough to call me last night to make sure I wasn't spending Thanksgiving alone I wouldn't have had the pleasure of having Cash yell at me from across the room.

    Was he in the grip of turkey-induced psychosis?


    I had to yell from across the room.

    At that point I was too fat to walk.