Oral Skills

  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 22, 2012 8:30 AM GMT
    I have this introverted friend and while talking to him he asked me how he could possibly learn how to speak to people better. He is quite reserved and whenever we go to a party he just usually talks to me or someone that he knows and feels comfortable with. He told me that he wants be able to learn how to work a room.
    I told him that he should read books so that he'll be able to develop better oral communication skills and to just get out of his comfort zone and to just start practicing on people. The thing is I cannot actually picture him being able to work a room, he is introverted to a high degree.
    Did I give him hopeless advice?
    Do you think a naturally introverted person could actually develop these types of skills?
    Do you know of any introverted person that were able to conquer their introverted traits? *I don't think there is anything wrong with being introverted*
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    Nov 22, 2012 11:45 AM GMT
    How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
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  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 22, 2012 3:03 PM GMT
    It is important to watch the news and read newspapers and magazines in order to keep current. The more you know the easier it will be to carry on a conversation. However, for some, no amount of knowledge will help them through their introvertedness. Your friend has a desire,so that is the first step.
  • stratavos

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    Nov 22, 2012 3:32 PM GMT
    If he Wants to be able to work a room, he's got to work at least one of many angles. Interesting is easily one of them.

    Can he Act? If he can can he act like someone more outgoing for a party's duration? (hopefully he'll realize that he's better off being himself)
  • baclofen

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    Nov 22, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    Im like your friend. David archuleta said 'you'll never be lonely if you learn to befriend yourself'
    kelly clarkson says 'doesnt mean im lonely when im alone'
  • NorthChinaLi

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    Nov 22, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    what a title!!!
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    Nov 22, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    Maybe the solution is to get him into some formal (e.g. book club) or semi-formal (e.g. dinner party) discussion groups. There is a structure to those that draws people into conversation. That's sort of how they train naturally introverted dweeb scientists to speak in grad school.

    One could also get involved in a club where everyone has the same interest in a particular topic. So there is naturally something to talk about.

    I knew one unbelievably sociable guy who would organize parties around activities and chores. Anything from making beer, to planting a garden, or painting the garage, he would turn into a party. They were actually a lot of fun and everybody had something to do and something to talk about. But I don't know if anybody except that guy could pull it off.

    Personally, I still take it in small doses. If I make the rounds at a party and no sustainable conversation sparks up, I just finish my drink, smile, and leave before things get awkward.
  • Kel_

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    Nov 22, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    not_superman said
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    Haha, Exactly what I thought this thread was about.

    Hmm, I wonder if Jensen Ackles (Dean from Supernatural) has ever gotten a blowjob before.
    Who am I kidding, of course he has!
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    Nov 22, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    I thought of something different also after reading the title. Haha! Dirty me! icon_twisted.gif
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 23, 2012 12:41 AM GMT
    Thanks for the input guys, I will definitely give him some of the advice that you have given me. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 23, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    Anyone can be what they aspire to be. The most important thing is that they overcome the road-blocks in their own mind. Practice makes perfect.

    Answers to your questions
    I guess? I've overcome some of my fears, though I still have some road-blocks to overcome.