Coming out on Thanksgiving?

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    Nov 22, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    I was just wondering how many of you have come out to your family on Thanksgiving or other holidays?
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    Nov 22, 2012 6:11 PM GMT
    Thanksgiving Day 1998-- announced to my whole family.

    Happy Anniversary to me!

    There is a life after coming out for those still waiting.
  • PR_GMR

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    Nov 22, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    If you do, let us know how it goes. It could be alright.. or it could be a massive, wrenched-up trainwreck.
  • Just_Tim

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    Nov 22, 2012 6:27 PM GMT
    I would be great as far as telling your whole family at once. It would save a lot of time, definitely. I wouldn't be able to do it, personally. I went the one on one route.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 22, 2012 6:51 PM GMT
    Personally I think coming out on a holiday is a bad idea. While there is the possibility that every thing will be fine, it might also backfire and make for a shitty holiday for some ... and leave a bad memory for that holiday.
  • Robert_NYC

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    Nov 22, 2012 6:57 PM GMT
    I came out to my parents on a phone call a few days before Thanksgiving. I was just feeling this building pressure of having a secret, even though I wasn't even going to be at the family meal later in the week. I didn't start to tell other members of my family until after the Holidays. I was lucky, in that every member of my family has been supportive. I guess, based on what happened for me, I found the one-on-ones to be better, and the holiday timing was just about feeling the pressure of not wanting to keep secrets from my family any more.

    Best wishes in whichever path you take.

    p.s. I like having Thanksgiving as a reminder/anniversary of coming out! icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 22, 2012 9:07 PM GMT
    IMO, coming out before or during a festive event is not good idea. It will probably leave them with unpleasant feelings.
    I think it's better to come out the day after Thanksgiving than the day before, so that your family can deal with your information in a more pressure-free atmosphere after the festivities are over.
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    Nov 22, 2012 10:01 PM GMT
    I think it would have worked well at one of our typical family holidays. Just after the point where everybody is screaming at each other, someone's brat has just broken (what passes for) a valuable heirloom, and the dog has caught on fire. Stand up and and announce.
  • Medjai

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    Nov 22, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    Why do gays feel the need to come out? Straights don't, they just date who they want. Imposing the need to come out is just supporting the assertion that we're different.
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    Nov 22, 2012 10:09 PM GMT
    Not completely true. Rich teenage girls have "coming out" parties.
  • Medjai

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    Nov 22, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidNot completely true. Rich teenage girls have "coming out" parties.


    Rich teenage girls are not people. Have you seen the TV she's they're on?
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    Nov 22, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    Medjai said
    mindgarden saidNot completely true. Rich teenage girls have "coming out" parties.


    Rich teenage girls are not people. Have you seen the TV she's they're on?


    Point conceded.
  • FRE0

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    Nov 22, 2012 10:41 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidNot completely true. Rich teenage girls have "coming out" parties.


    I think that debutant parties, like finishing schools, are a bit old fashioned.
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    Nov 22, 2012 11:30 PM GMT
    Nah, women always announce that they're pregnant at holiday dinners. It's just one more thing.
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    Nov 22, 2012 11:42 PM GMT
    why would someone come out on a holiday unless you want to give your family a surprise xmas gift?
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    Nov 22, 2012 11:52 PM GMT
    don't think coming to terms with yourself needs a special day....rather it's a special day when you come to terms with yourself....right?
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    Nov 23, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    Oh what a great way to make Thanksgiving forever memorable!

    Let's just announce that we like to fuck guys in the ass...right at the table!!!

  • Asmodeus

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    Nov 23, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    i didn't but please don't do it! you will regret it!
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    Nov 23, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidOh what a great way to make Thanksgiving forever memorable!

    Let's just announce that we like to fuck guys in the ass...right at the table!!!




    geez alan....your language has become so much more 'colorful' these days....time to move to new england...