Nov 22, 2012 11:15 PM GMT
(Sorry, this is long)
The current thread entitled "Do you have more male or female friends?" prompted me to create this thread. As I stated in that thread, pretty much all my close friends are straight males. This is kind of by choice, as my experience with females has been that they are (generally) much more needy and play a lot of head-games, of which I want nothing to do with. However, that being said, I do have a couple of friends who are female and I'm currently having an issue with one of them.
I don't see this girl that much and don't even talk on the phone with her but maybe once every couple of months. But whenever I see her, she insists on hugging me and touching me more than I'm comfortable with. She has made comments about my eyes and told me in no uncertain terms that she wants to "have an affair" outside her marriage. She knows I'm 100% gay, so I've just written those comments off over the years. We normally call each other and wish each other happy birthday each year, and maybe a small gift. But last November she told me she wanted to take me out to lunch for my birthday. No big deal. But she has me meet her at a pretty expensive restaurant, which made me slightly uncomfortable. But then I see all these colorful bags next to the table. Each time I unwrapped one gift, she would put another gift on the table. It made me very very uncomfortable and seemed very inappropriate considering I don't ever even hang out with this girl. So her birthday rolled around this past summer and I still felt so weird about what she did for my birthday that I just called her and wished her a happy birthday and left it at that. I felt no matter what I did, it wouldn't compare to all the gifts she gave me, so I did nothing. And just as I predicted, on my birthday this year, no phone call or anything from her, which is the first time since I've known her. I'm glad she didn't repeat all the lavish gifts this year, but obviously she's miffed. I saw her at the parking meters last week and she had very little to say to me. I'm almost glad just to get some personal space from her when I see her. I don't think I handled this in the best fashion, but not sure what to do about it now. Any input?
The current thread entitled "Do you have more male or female friends?" prompted me to create this thread. As I stated in that thread, pretty much all my close friends are straight males. This is kind of by choice, as my experience with females has been that they are (generally) much more needy and play a lot of head-games, of which I want nothing to do with. However, that being said, I do have a couple of friends who are female and I'm currently having an issue with one of them.
I don't see this girl that much and don't even talk on the phone with her but maybe once every couple of months. But whenever I see her, she insists on hugging me and touching me more than I'm comfortable with. She has made comments about my eyes and told me in no uncertain terms that she wants to "have an affair" outside her marriage. She knows I'm 100% gay, so I've just written those comments off over the years. We normally call each other and wish each other happy birthday each year, and maybe a small gift. But last November she told me she wanted to take me out to lunch for my birthday. No big deal. But she has me meet her at a pretty expensive restaurant, which made me slightly uncomfortable. But then I see all these colorful bags next to the table. Each time I unwrapped one gift, she would put another gift on the table. It made me very very uncomfortable and seemed very inappropriate considering I don't ever even hang out with this girl. So her birthday rolled around this past summer and I still felt so weird about what she did for my birthday that I just called her and wished her a happy birthday and left it at that. I felt no matter what I did, it wouldn't compare to all the gifts she gave me, so I did nothing. And just as I predicted, on my birthday this year, no phone call or anything from her, which is the first time since I've known her. I'm glad she didn't repeat all the lavish gifts this year, but obviously she's miffed. I saw her at the parking meters last week and she had very little to say to me. I'm almost glad just to get some personal space from her when I see her. I don't think I handled this in the best fashion, but not sure what to do about it now. Any input?
