Does your role in the bedroom define you role in the relationship?

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    Nov 23, 2012 12:43 AM GMT
    As we all know on sex there is tops and bottoms but do you feel as if these roles also apply to other aspects of the relationship? Do you feel like one has to be the dominant?

    Personally I am a bottom completely in all aspects of my life. One of us has to be dominant and it ain't gonna be me, I would feelmasmif there is a lack of balance if one of us wasn't the submissive one.

    What about you?
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    Nov 23, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidAre you kidding? icon_eek.gif Do you see this in hetro relationships? ("She wears the pants in that family", "pussy-whipped", etc) --why would you think gays would do it, lol? icon_lol.gif

    Oh, and a lot of us bottoms aren't quite as "submissive" as we like to pretend to be....your comment "One of us has to be dominant and it ain't gonna be me" is pretty decisive....if you're making unilateral decisions for both of you that you're not willing to budge on, you're hardly being submissive. icon_wink.gif


    Yes but even in those heterosexual relationships someone is still in control.

    For me the other man has to be in control. He has to be dominant and the top and he has to be the father. I am the woman like submissive one but I demand that any man who gets with me always be the masculine one even though I'm not uner feminine myself.
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    Nov 23, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
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    MashogaNubianPrince said
    yourname2000 saidAre you kidding? icon_eek.gif Do you see this in hetro relationships? ("She wears the pants in that family", "pussy-whipped", etc) --why would you think gays would do it, lol? icon_lol.gif

    Oh, and a lot of us bottoms aren't quite as "submissive" as we like to pretend to be....your comment "One of us has to be dominant and it ain't gonna be me" is pretty decisive....if you're making unilateral decisions for both of you that you're not willing to budge on, you're hardly being submissive. icon_wink.gif


    Yes but even in those heterosexual relationships someone is still in control.

    For me the other man has to be in control. He has to be dominant and the top and he has to be the father. I am the woman like submissive one but I demand that any man who gets with me always be the masculine one even though I'm not uner feminine myself.

    Again, you seem pretty bossy....I think you're misunderstanding what "submissive" is all about, lol.

    Just because you take it up the butt in bed doesn't mean you have to walk 3 feet behind "your man" in public or have a martini ready for him when he walks in the door. And this role playing you're talking about is gonna get pretty tedious for your top pretty quick....sometimes when someone says "what do you want for dinner?" they just want you to decide, not throw it back at them "I dunno...whadda YOU want?"

    You're having a gay relationship....as in two men. Presumably your man is sleeping with you because he likes men. So be a man (and believe me, I take up the ass like a man, but I can shovel the walk, fix the car or order wine when the situation calls for it.)


    Well I guess I gotta find someone who is really into the sort of thing I'm into. I'm open minded and willing to step out of my comfort zone but I honestly would not be able to function unless I was like the woman and he was the boss.