Holiday Blues

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    Nov 23, 2012 3:18 AM GMT
    Yes - obligatory thread on the holiday blues.

    Anyway, maybe it's just some drinks talking right now but, does anybody else get excited for Thanksgiving and then Christmas. Or even bloody Easter. And then...realize how utterly alone they really are?
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    Nov 23, 2012 3:29 AM GMT
    Sometimes when I'm alone I remember how kick ass I am and how I'm going to pave my own path. I don't have time to sit around and drink my sorrows away as life is constantly on the move with or without me.

    I get excited during the holidays because the atmosphere is awesome. My family and I are poor as fuck but we have it a lot better than most. I try to remember that from time to time and realize my self worth. You should try too.

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    Nov 23, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidYes - obligatory thread on the holiday blues.

    Anyway, maybe it's just some drinks talking right now but, does anybody else get excited for Thanksgiving and then Christmas. Or even bloody Easter. And then...realize how utterly alone they really are?


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    Nov 23, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    I may be lonely at times and that may be a valid feeling, but feelings are like kleenex-- you pull one out and out comes another. Frost said, "The best way out is always through."

    Going through the torment and torture of my own loneliness I was able to get to the other side and see I am never alone. The idea of being unique had to be smashed.
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    Nov 23, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    Holidays just remind me of how many people love me because I get to spend time with all of them unlike the rest of the year when everybody is busy. (◕‿◕✿)
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    Nov 23, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    I really USE to enjoy the Holidays. Working in retail kinda takes it out of you, the crazy hours and little pay. Not having that special someone also doesn't help. Having said that, I try to always count my blessings and remind myself that there are others that have it a lot worse than me.
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    Nov 23, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    I have always loved the holidays, but I reminisce about Christmases in my childhood when things were much simpler...and how complicated things are for me now. I also miss my simple family holiday moments. Christmas music playing in the background, setting up a train set with my dad, reading the opening of Luke with my mom or sledding with my sister.

    I get a bit down knowing those days are gone...so are my parents, and my sister is kept at arms length. Sigh.
  • Pontifex

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    Nov 23, 2012 4:00 PM GMT
    Nope. This time of year I try to stay busy. I spend time with my family. Do some shopping. Decorate. Invite some friends over once in a while. Do some favors for the people I work with so they can have some time with their families. I also totally enjoy the time I get alone where I can sit down, make some hot chocolate and enjoy a movie or a book.

    It is a good time of year to spoil yourself a little if you can. Remember that things really could be worse. If you are lonely there are a lot of things you can do or get involved in. There are hundreds of charities looking for volunteers right now. Go out and help someone if you can. It is a great way to meet new people.
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    Yes, yes, a thousand times yes.

    Holidays always bum me out. They are made out to be so magical and wonderful, but it's always so plain.

    Being alone (in the closet) and in a strange family situation doesn't help either.
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidYes - obligatory thread on the holiday blues.

    Anyway, maybe it's just some drinks talking right now but, does anybody else get excited for Thanksgiving and then Christmas. Or even bloody Easter. And then...realize how utterly alone they really are?


    Yes.

    Growing up, I loved every single holiday. But the past few years haven't been as enjoyable for me. I've never been in a serious relationship, but my main problem is that I really don't have any friends.

    Thanksgiving and Christmas are supposed to spent with family, which I thankfully have plenty of, although it would be nice to be in a relationship with someone. But my Grandmother (who was suffering from pancreatic cancer at the time) died in a car accident a few weeks before Christmas in 2009. So the holidays haven't been the same without her...

    The holiday that I think is going to depress me the most is New Year's. I'm 22 and should be going out drinking with a bunch of buddies and having fun. Except I only have one (female) friend. icon_sad.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 24, 2012 5:50 AM GMT
    When I was younger, I seemed to always work holidays, so now they don't seem to be such a big deal. I do enjoy decorating for them because I like looking at the decorations. I definitely don't drink for the holidays because it alters your ability to think rationally. But I'm weird because I don't mind being alone. I grew up alone,so I guess I learned from early to be comfortable with it.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 24, 2012 5:57 AM GMT
    I can't wait for the "Holidays" to be fucking over. I've been working retail management for most of my adult life (38 years to be precise) and THAT long ago ruined the "Holidays" for me.

    I have had a few WONDROUS Winter Solstice events (I do not do "Christmas" or "New Years," the former being ridiculous and the latter being arbitrary -- the SOLSTICE is an actual, observable, celestial event that deserves to be celebrated), complete with 14' Blue Spruce decorated with lights and toys, rafters hung with lights and swag, yule log in the fire place, the room decorated with feux snow and antique carousel animals, 30 guys sitting down to dinner (at one table made of 4 sheets of 4x8 plywood arranged in a +), serving borsch, dark rye, salad, roast beef (or pork) and baked potatoes. But those events were ALWAYS rare and truly appreciated by those invited.

    The rest of the time, mostly I just HIDE as much as possible until it is ALL OVER.

    Bah humbug and all that, TYVM.

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    Nov 24, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    indeed, holidays can be a chore, but as long as we have amusements like the Schmenge Brothers' Christmas ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MqvFYXybtgA) we can face and endure anything . . .
  • RaggedyMan

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    Nov 24, 2012 6:12 AM GMT
    i know what you mean. i try to stay busy with work. i also go shopping. nothing like retail therapy
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    Nov 24, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    I usually leave the country and go somewhere non-Christian, but this year I may have to stay. I am still going for Chinese food and a movie on Christmas Day. like half of New York does
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    Nov 24, 2012 6:50 AM GMT
    Royal and Midnight...
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    Nov 24, 2012 7:09 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidYes - obligatory thread on the holiday blues.

    Anyway, maybe it's just some drinks talking right now but, does anybody else get excited for Thanksgiving and then Christmas. Or even bloody Easter. And then...realize how utterly alone they really are?



    I didn't until you just pointed it out to me. icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 24, 2012 7:14 AM GMT
    Yup and WORD! I hate this time of year! I wish I had someone to share it with. So lonely and Depressing! But I am glad there is plenty of depressing Christmas music out there.
  • Just_Tim

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    Nov 24, 2012 8:16 AM GMT
    The holidays can suck for a lot of reasons.

    For me (and most of the American population) I wouldn't know what to do if everything went off without a hitch during the holidays.
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    Nov 24, 2012 8:49 AM GMT
    Just came from downtown where they had a Lights festival and there were so many couples there, I was like aww I want to be one. But the I was like Eh.

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    Nov 24, 2012 10:04 AM GMT
    It's chic these days to denegrate the holidays. I've noticed it's usually by people who like to whine and wallow in self pity.

    If you are alone, instead of bemoaning your loneliness why not volunteer at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter, retirement home, etc. See what real loneliness and dispair looks like.

    I for one suspect, that for most not all, the lonely an bitter are in a situation of their own making. Who wants to be with Ebenezer Scrooge whether it's during the holidays or not.

    Life truly is what YOU make it.