I had no idea how screwed up Asians were until I came here, lol

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    Nov 23, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    Of course I have seen the more rational ones here as well but I went in the search history and honestly I died laughing. I mean seriously I get that it's hard to be a minority within a minority.....dear lord I know it first hand.....but in like the ninety threads I read on it I swear a good half of them seemed to act like the only race of man there was white. I have issues too but if I saw that the white men weren't biting instead of trying to get the Caucasian holy grail I'd try and force myself to be attracted to a different kind of man.

    And what's worse is that I have seen so many people almost damn near apologizing for their race. It's just sad. Be Asian! Be white! Be black! Be from the Planet Omicron Persei 8 but place don't act like its something to be ashamed of. I think Asian guys are cute. I don't fawn or worship them but for the most part they're alright. Maybe some of y'all (and I use this in the sense to address whoever may have made such threads) need to stop acting some damn geisha boys and spread out and try something else.

    Man this is a fun site!
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    Nov 23, 2012 7:41 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidOf course I have seen the more rational ones here as well but I went in the search history and honestly I died laughing. I mean seriously I get that it's hard to be a minority within a minority.....dear lord I know it first hand.....but in like the ninety threads I read on it I swear a good half of them seemed to act like the only race of man there was white. I have issues too but if I saw that the white men weren't biting instead of trying to get the Caucasian holy grail I'd try and force myself to be attracted to a different kind of man.


    Man this is a fun site!


    I have mixed feelings about this one. On the one hand, it's a very practical approach to take in terms of dating. The bigger your potential pool of mates, the more likely you are to snag a partner. Although for some, it may not be as easy in practice, especially if you're living in an area where most, if not all, of your dating pool is White.

    On the other hand, there's the question about the malleability of our sexual preferences. Since we didn't choose to be attracted to other men, many gay men also think that our particular tastes in men are something that can't (and shouldn't) be helped either. After all, we gay men vehemently fight for our right to love whomever we wish, and that staunchness carries over into our individual tastes in men.

    Which of the two paths an Asian guy takes depends on his ego. He can remain zealous in his pursuit of that ever elusive White guy - which usually ends up being a White guy twice the age of the Asian guy. Or he can swallow his pride and open up to other races of men .
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    Nov 23, 2012 10:00 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidOf course I have seen the more rational ones here as well but I went in the search history and honestly I died laughing. I mean seriously I get that it's hard to be a minority within a minority.....dear lord I know it first hand.....but in like the ninety threads I read on it I swear a good half of them seemed to act like the only race of man there was white. I have issues too but if I saw that the white men weren't biting instead of trying to get the Caucasian holy grail I'd try and force myself to be attracted to a different kind of man.

    And what's worse is that I have seen so many people almost damn near apologizing for their race. It's just sad. Be Asian! Be white! Be black! Be from the Planet Omicron Persei 8 but place don't act like its something to be ashamed of. I think Asian guys are cute. I don't fawn or worship them but for the most part they're alright. Maybe some of y'all (and I use this in the sense to address whoever may have made such threads) need to stop acting some damn geisha boys and spread out and try something else.

    Man this is a fun site!


    I dated different type of guys, obviously for the purpose of finding the right person to be with. I'm not the one who only look for white guys. But when you are being shut down for something you didn't do, obviously you're curious to find out the reasons and the solutions. Another aspect is that human often desire things or people that are hard for us to reach. The further they are, the more we want.
    Another thing, It's just not that simple to "be this, be that" like you said. Environment is the most important impact on everyone. Doing something to fit in doesn't mean we are "sell out". I cooked both Korean, Vietnamese, Japanese and Italian- does that make me less of an "Asian" that I am? Everyone here wants to be part of something (otherwise why joined the forum?), and that's when we subconsciously start changing ourselves, including being attracted to certain type of people. Being black is different than being Asian, being 6 feet tall is different than being 5 feet tall, being an American is different than being a foreigner- you don't know how different people feel and what they are drawn to, so why do you try to dictate them?
    And just to be clear: what's exactly "being Asian" to you anyway? Speaking "chink chong", eating Chinese and being "good at Math"? Obviously your perception about Asian is limited (geisha boys, really?) And frankly, I find your comment condescending and ignorant. You are the one who needs to read more about this topic before put such blatant opinion like that.
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    Nov 23, 2012 10:18 AM GMT
    Not all Asians are like this and seeking approval of white men, it's just a tiny minority so not ALL Asians are "screwed up" as you put it.
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    Nov 23, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    Ya I agree, the "screwed up" thing is a bit harsh.... Take a look at half these threads and you will see that guys have issues.... weather it is race, or height, or weight, or sexual desires...
    It's not easy being gay, it's even harder being gay and a minority (as you know).... it's a matter of figuring out how to live comfortably within yourself and your environment. No you can not choose who you are attracted to, but trying new things don't hurt either.
    Oh, and not all asians end up with white guys twice their age.....I ended up marrying a French one 6 years younger then me....so we may want to stop with the generalizations.

    Young gays are trying to figure things out, and it takes time, and they are going to get frustrated, and they are going to vent on threads on this site.... let them do it.....it's all part of the growing process that we all had to go through... I know I did....
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    Nov 23, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    Yet another Asian thread saying nothing that's not been said already icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 23, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    beneful1 saidYet another Asian thread saying nothing that's not been said already icon_rolleyes.gif


    Yet another snarky white guy in the Asian thread contributing nothing to the conversation icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 23, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    beneful1 saidYet another Asian thread saying nothing that's not been said already icon_rolleyes.gif


    Agreed, no one is asking you to read this thread.....or to contribute...
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    Nov 23, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    beneful1 saidYet another Asian thread saying nothing that's not been said already icon_rolleyes.gif


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    Another condescending douchbag. What a surprise....
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    Nov 23, 2012 9:55 PM GMT
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    MashogaNubianPrince saidOf course I have seen the more rational ones here as well but I went in the search history and honestly I died laughing. I mean seriously I get that it's hard to be a minority within a minority.....dear lord I know it first hand.....but in like the ninety threads I read on it I swear a good half of them seemed to act like the only race of man there was white. I have issues too but if I saw that the white men weren't biting instead of trying to get the Caucasian holy grail I'd try and force myself to be attracted to a different kind of man.


    Man this is a fun site!


    I have mixed feelings about this one. On the one hand, it's a very practical approach to take in terms of dating. The bigger your potential pool of mates, the more likely you are to snag a partner. Although for some, it may not be as easy in practice, especially if you're living in an area where most, if not all, of your dating pool is White.

    On the other hand, there's the question about the malleability of our sexual preferences. Since we didn't choose to be attracted to other men, many gay men also think that our particular tastes in men are something that can't (and shouldn't) be helped either. After all, we gay men vehemently fight for our right to love whomever we wish, and that staunchness carries over into our individual tastes in men.

    Which of the two paths an Asian guy takes depends on his ego. He can remain zealous in his pursuit of that ever elusive White guy - which usually ends up being a White guy twice the age of the Asian guy. Or he can swallow his pride and open up to other races of men .


    I like your last paragraph. It's like one of those old choose your adventure games. If you don't want to die alone you're gonna have to bite the bullet sometimes. I hope some of these Asian guys realize sometimes what you need isn't always what you want.
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    Nov 23, 2012 9:57 PM GMT
    beneful1 saidYet another Asian thread saying nothing that's not been said already icon_rolleyes.gif


    Hey at least I'm trying to keep people from slitting the wrists of their personal lives for much longer. I know how it feels to have white adoration (not personally but ive seen it with other people) and I'm trying to help somebody.
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    Nov 23, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidDamn, this OP is a prolific new troll. icon_neutral.gif


    Lol I'm not trolling. I'm just intense. I can see how you can get the two confused though.
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    Nov 24, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
    I honestly had no idea Asians had this inferiority complex either until coming to RJ. . .

    quite sad actually
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    Nov 24, 2012 8:09 PM GMT


    Hmmm...be careful of generalizations. While SOME Asian fellows have issues I think a vast majority don't.

    See Hypnotico's very apt post.
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    Nov 24, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    meninlove said

    Hmmm...be careful of generalizations. While SOME Asian fellows have issues I think a vast majority don't.

    See Hypnotico's very apt post.


    Yes and I get that but I thought I said in my thread there were others who were regular ones who neutralized the odd ones. Although my point was that I had had no clear that this was even an issue in their community.
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    Nov 24, 2012 8:50 PM GMT
    Asians have it better than Blacks at least. At least they can date equally-attractive members of most other races except for white (that's why most of their threads seem to focus on white people I think)

    Black guys on the other hand can only date their own, aside from size queens, or less attractive members of other races.
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    Nov 24, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    mashedpotatoes saidAsians have it better than Blacks at least. At least they can date equally-attractive members of most other races except for white (that's why most of their threads seem to focus on white people I think)

    Black guys on the other hand can only date their own, aside from size queens, or less attractive members of other races.


    Well I usually attract attractive white men when I do get them. Usually they only want me for some kind of weird fetish and they tend to be a lot older than me. But hey that's life. I get men from all races to express attraction to me. It's after I open my mouth that they head for the door, lol.
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    Nov 24, 2012 10:14 PM GMT
    Why are Latinos never taken into consideration in these threads! Haha! You guys crack me up. I wouldn't change my Latino Americano roots for the world!!!!
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    Nov 25, 2012 1:45 PM GMT
    Import saidI honestly had no idea Asians had this inferiority complex either until coming to RJ. . .

    quite sad actually


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    Seriously though, that's why topics like this should not be shut down. Of course it could be quite heavy for some people (and to be honest, mostly to non-Asian) but lots of time it goes beyond the "sexual attraction" issue. These kind of discussion isn't trying to "force" white guys to like Asian but to help non-Asian people have an insight about how different each of us can be, from physique to emotional strength, sexual attraction and everything else. Maybe at the end of the day, there is still someone says: "I still don't find Asian attractive." I mean that's fine. But their reasons may no longer be "Oh, b/c they are so clingy/emotional unstable/weak, etc." I have no issue with people find me unattractive, but it's really frustrating when someone think of me must be so and so just because I'm Asian.
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    Nov 29, 2012 12:43 AM GMT
    Yeah, I kinda see where OP's coming here with his point. But I really pity the people who's only attracted to 1 particular group. Like only white guys, or only asians, or only black guys. It's like you're at a restaurant - Sorry, I can only have the chicken. Same thing, everything time.

    Then you get those, "I'm normally not into _____ (insert ethnic group), but somehow I'm attracted to you." It's like, what do I not seem/look/act like everyone in this group?

    Meh, ramblings.