You want me to change my Name???

  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 24, 2012 10:13 AM GMT
    If your future husband asked you to change your last name to his would you?

    No, I feel as if my last name is part of my Identity and it's pretty cool. It means I live in Spanish and that's the way in which I feel that I live my life. I'd make my partner change it or he can just keep his.
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    Nov 24, 2012 10:40 AM GMT
    Hyphenate that shit! -------


    Would I outright change it? Probably not, out of respect for my dad - since he was pretty traditional guy, and it connects me to him/ my family in a way. But yeah, hypenatings the way to go
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    Nov 24, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    jp_K saidHyphenate that shit! -------


    Would I outright change it? Probably not, out of respect for my dad - since he was pretty traditional guy, and it connects me to him/ my family in a way. But yeah, hypenatings the way to go

    +1 Sounds like a good way to go!
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    Nov 24, 2012 2:16 PM GMT
    Here in Canada you can take his last name, he can take yours. You can also double your names like so:

    Jim Smith and John Jones can be Jim Smith Jones and John Jones Smith and you can switcheroo whenever you like. You can't hyphenate without going through the courts as that's considered to be creating a unique name.



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    Nov 24, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    UNLESS you plan to adopt children...why would either of you consider changing your last name? How archaic. Google the reason behind it.

    PS: Don't do that hyphen shit....can you imagine 4 generations of doing that? " Mr & Mrs. Thomas Smith-Jones-Truman-Phelps would like to announce the marriage of their daughter, Tracy Smith-Jones-Truman-Phelps to Andrew Johnson-Jones-Chin-Williams-Cutter-Bush...."
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  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 24, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]StudlyScrewRite said[/cite] UNLESS you plan to adopt children...why would either of you consider changing your last name? How archaic. Google the reason behind it.


    If it is archaic to change last names then why even get married at all except of course to be able to receive the same legal benefits as straight couples. Should we just be able to have the same legal rights and not get "married" but call it something else for us gays?
    I would think that in your line of thinking that marriage would also be considered to be archaic because is it not that one of the original reasons for marriage was so that through marriage women would become property of the man that they were to marry.
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    Nov 24, 2012 3:26 PM GMT
    I would probably go the hyphenation route, if he or I wanted to join names. I cant see a whole lot of point in losing my name. It's not like I'm becoming his property, like women of yore. Or we are going to have kids and need a single family name. Ok, if we adopt, then I can see a point. (but at my age we'd have to adopt 40-somethings.)
  • great_scott

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    Nov 24, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    No, that would make you the woman.
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    Nov 24, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said UNLESS you plan to adopt children...why would either of you consider changing your last name? How archaic. Google the reason behind it.

    PS: Don't do that hyphen shit....can you imagine 4 generations of doing that? " Mr & Mrs. Thomas Smith-Jones-Truman-Phelps would like to announce the marriage of their daughter, Tracy Smith-Jones-Truman-Phelps to Andrew Johnson-Jones-Chin-Williams-Cutter-Bush...."
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    hahaha...point it is !!
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:11 PM GMT
    I wouldn't mind , a name is just a name , but i would like to be sure he doesn't want me to take his name , in the sole purpose to own me !
  • Karl

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    Nov 24, 2012 5:17 PM GMT
    No , unless I want to.
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    What's in a name? Nada, just as long as it's mine. I do have four names so that might pose a bit of a problem for someone like John Smith.
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:21 PM GMT
    I don't think I would change my last name but I don't really think it's a big deal. Its just a name. You can do whatever makes you the happiest bro.
  • mikeeugene

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    Nov 24, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
    I wouldn't change my name. My sister didn't when she married her husband.
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    I can Manage Two Surnames lol
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:34 PM GMT
    When I get married, I'm keeping my own name! Wait, that should probably be 'If I choose to get married'...
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    I wouldn't be completely opposed to it.

    I would be fine with him changing his name, or both of us just keeping out current names. Maybe I'd change my middle name to his last name, and he could change his middle name to my last name.

    But if we have to change out last names, I'd rather that we both change our names to include both last names. Like Smith-Johnson. I know it's complicated that way, but I'd prefer that over one partner making all the changes.

    Professionally, I may need to keep my last name, so changing my last name may be a bit hard. Changing my middle name, or adding the last names together may be best.
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    Nov 24, 2012 5:39 PM GMT
    Absolutly not. I dont want my name on a piece of paper stating that i belong to someone like im their property and they own me.
  • stratavos

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    Nov 24, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    mikeeugene saidI wouldn't change my name. My sister didn't when she married her husband.


    starting with a "that's nice dear" before saying "no".
  • whytehot

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    Nov 24, 2012 5:47 PM GMT
    I prefer to keep just my name. Don't want to be referred to like Nancy's sister in Weeds "Jill-Price-Grey-With-The-Hyphen"
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 24, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    TheAlchemixt said[quote][cite]StudlyScrewRite said[/cite] UNLESS you plan to adopt children...why would either of you consider changing your last name? How archaic. Google the reason behind it.


    If it is archaic to change last names then why even get married at all except of course to be able to receive the same legal benefits as straight couples. Should we just be able to have the same legal rights and not get "married" but call it something else for us gays?
    I would think that in your line of thinking that marriage would also be considered to be archaic because is it not that one of the original reasons for marriage was so that through marriage women would become property of the man that they were to marry.

    You're overthinking this, Mix. All Studly means is that there's no necessity or advantage to having a common surname unless there are children involved. I am sure he didn't mean anything about the relative value of the marriages.


    Got it, I am known to over think things at times! icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 24, 2012 7:13 PM GMT
    my last name wouldn't sound good with any another name. Though I think combining two surnames is cute.
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    Nov 24, 2012 9:11 PM GMT
    TheAlchemixt said
    Aristoshark said
    TheAlchemixt said[quote][cite]StudlyScrewRite said[/cite] UNLESS you plan to adopt children...why would either of you consider changing your last name? How archaic. Google the reason behind it.


    If it is archaic to change last names then why even get married at all except of course to be able to receive the same legal benefits as straight couples. Should we just be able to have the same legal rights and not get "married" but call it something else for us gays?
    I would think that in your line of thinking that marriage would also be considered to be archaic because is it not that one of the original reasons for marriage was so that through marriage women would become property of the man that they were to marry.

    You're overthinking this, Mix. All Studly means is that there's no necessity or advantage to having a common surname unless there are children involved. I am sure he didn't mean anything about the relative value of the marriages.


    Got it, I am known to over think things at times! icon_smile.gif


    We do it this way and no I'm not going to post our real surnames on here. icon_wink.gificon_wink.gif

    I'm Doug Jones Smith and Bill is Bill Smith Jones. It's a reminder to ourselves of the magnificent thing (to us) that we did. Just like the wedding rings we wear. icon_wink.gif There's also a public/social recognition to this in the straight world, which let's face it, we live in.
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    Nov 24, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    Yes, I would.
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    Nov 24, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    Is his last name Awesome-Sauce?
    Because if it is I am totally on board.