Exhanging phone numbers on Manhunt type sites.

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    Sep 09, 2008 3:16 PM GMT
    Recently on Manhunt, I sent a message to a guy I found very interesting. He responded in kind and expressed interest. My next email to him was asking if we could exchange phoe numbers.

    His reply was "too scary, first let's talk a more by email" I said no problem, let's keep in touch. I wasn't pressuring hm for sex, in fact, I prefer to meet and talk first. The he disapeared.

    I will never understand internet dating "rules". I thought the whole point was to actually meet someone. Talkoing by phone cuts to the chase.

    I've never been harassed or bothered by a guy I gave my phone number too if the meeting didn't go well.

    Why would someone think it's to scary to talk?

    Why do guys disappear after very positive and encouraging dialogue?

    Why do guys chicken out?


  • vindog

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    Sep 09, 2008 3:25 PM GMT
    You may not have had a bad experience, but he may have.

    I never have either. But I have hooked up with a couple guys with, in my opinion, no self respect. Those people I just never see again.

  • D972

    Posts: 125

    Sep 09, 2008 7:45 PM GMT
    This is just my opinion ...

    Everyone gets lonely once in a while, and while the idea of manhunt is really nice and gratifying in a very easy way. A lot of things can go wrong...

    After catching stds, and couple of instance where the sex just wasn't good or great, false advertisements, etc. In the end you sometimes figure: You know what, this just isn't worth it.

    Cause honestly hooking up on websites can really be hit or miss. You just can't gauge chemistry on these sites and atleast for me, its important. Things like voice, smell and pheromones just aren't digital (well voice can be).

    It only takes a few trip to the docs for antibiotics or a couple of messed up sex acts for you to be apprehensive of the sites.

    That said, I've had tons of good experiences and actually reaped "that fruit" pretty heavily before. Maybe its a maturity thing.

    People chicken out because they get lonely, try it thinking : its going to be different and then remember ... those bad experiences and move along.

    What are other peoples experiences?
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    Sep 09, 2008 8:03 PM GMT
    I think there are lots of reasons that guys "chicken" out of real meetings:

    1. They are not what they are pretending to be - their profile pics don't match the real person;

    2. They may think that you will reject them when they see the real person;

    3. They may not have the confidence or bottle to meet a real, live "gay"

    4. They may have a boyfriend and so can't meet

    5. They may be using the internet site such as Manhunt purely as entertainment.

    6. They may have just been polite and not really liked you but didn't know how to say it.

    7. They may be completely bonkers

    8. They may be in the closet.

    I could go on and on and on. Really there are tonnes of reasons why guys don't move on from internet chatting.