Is It Harder For Straight Guys To Understand Transgender Issues?

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    Nov 25, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    I know the obvious answer is "yes" but I'm not too sure. This comes from a heated discussion I had with my very conservative brother about a certain transgender character on a show. First off he called her a "freak" and was disgusted by her. I basically said that you don't understand her issue and if you were in her position you wouldn't want people calling you a freak or wanting you to just go away, but rather people trying to understand and accept you. Cue rant on the liberal media's agenda, "identifying as a female" when you're born a boy is just the liberals way of saying you can be anything you want and their strategy to destroy the Bible's teachings.

    Now that was one straight guy's reaction. A mutual family friend was over when that happened and my brother immediately questioned him about what he thought of the transgender character. The friend didn't seem to care and was basically in a "let people be who they are" type of attitude, which appalled my brother. My other brother also just called the character a transvestite (I guess not knowing the right word) and didn't care either. The conservative brother was rather shocked by how everyone around him seemingly didn't care about "the liberal agenda" and the fact that there was a boy dressed as a girl on screen.

    This is where I'd like you guys to weigh in and maybe share some experiences of your own. Do you find it hard for straight people to understand, or at least, accept transgenders and their issues? Do you find it hard for yourself to understand their issues? Personally I still am a little confused by it, but I know that it must be hard and I try to understand it.
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    Nov 25, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    I have never had a situation even close to yours. I will say in regards to yours, I do not think it's a "straight" issue, rather it's a "conservative" issue. Change has come and many have accepted it, some reluctantly. People who do not accept it will eventually hit the brick wall called reality. Just like your brother did when confronted with fact that other straight men no longer have issues with this sort of thing.

    Kudos to your friend and the other brother and thanks for sharing.
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    Nov 25, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    I personally relate and feel for transgender people. If people really thought about it everyone sometimes has felt at one point who they are supposed to be isn't who they wanna be.

    Most of the straight men I know are disgusted by transgender women and still call them men. I rarely meet one who understands.
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    Nov 25, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    dudewithabeard saidI have never had a situation even close to yours. I will say in regards to yours, I do not think it's a "straight" issue, rather it's a "conservative" issue. Change has come and many have accepted it, some reluctantly. People who do not accept it will eventually hit the brick wall called reality. Just like your brother did when confronted with fact that other straight men no longer have issues with this sort of thing.

    Kudos to your friend and the other brother and thanks for sharing.


    Well this was just 3 people, I'm sure there are straight people out there who will just find it disgusting but are OK with gays. Hopefully this is a sign that maybe what people constantly say about the younger generation being more accepting is true.

    @MashogaNubian: I wish people understood that transgender people actually feel that they are the opposite gender. The way that most people opposed make it seem is that transgender people are just people that like to dress in the opposite sex's clothes and pretend to be that sex and trick people into having sex with them icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 25, 2012 7:10 AM GMT
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    dudewithabeard saidI have never had a situation even close to yours. I will say in regards to yours, I do not think it's a "straight" issue, rather it's a "conservative" issue. Change has come and many have accepted it, some reluctantly. People who do not accept it will eventually hit the brick wall called reality. Just like your brother did when confronted with fact that other straight men no longer have issues with this sort of thing.

    Kudos to your friend and the other brother and thanks for sharing.


    Well this was just 3 people, I'm sure there are straight people out there who will just find it disgusting but are OK with gays. Hopefully this is a sign that maybe what people constantly say about the younger generation being more accepting is true.

    @MashogaNubian: I wish people understood that transgender people actually feel that they are the opposite gender. The way that most people opposed make it seem is that transgender people are just people that like to dress in the opposite sex's clothes and pretend to be that sex and trick people into having sex with them icon_neutral.gif


    Some people will never understand. I understand it but for some people who are so close minded and one tract something only exists in the way they think of it and everything else is patently wrong.
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    Nov 25, 2012 3:15 PM GMT
    I don't even understand transgender issues so I'm pretty sure a straight guy could possibly have the same problem.
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    Nov 25, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    TheAlchemixt saidI don't even understand transgender issues so I'm pretty sure a straight guy could possibly have the same problem.


    What is there to understand? Trans people are humans just like we are. Being judgmental prick is easy, but wrong. Live and let live, I say.
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    Nov 25, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    TheAlchemixt saidI don't even understand transgender issues so I'm pretty sure a straight guy could possibly have the same problem.


    I think this is pretty true of most people, not just heterosexuals. I have trouble understanding it, but I know that these exist. Unless you've either experienced it, or know someone who has, it's not the easiest concept to grasp. Education and exposure are the keys.
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    Nov 25, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    At least once in your life try to walk in someone else's shoes. Being transgender in this planet must be of the hardest roads to walk on. I am glad that more and more of them are 'coming out'; they are just as beautiful as everyone else and deserve to be happy! I don't think many gays understand them either,so it's not only hetero issue.

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    Nov 25, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    A lot of gay people have a hard time of understanding it as well. I had trouble understanding it before I became educated on the issue. I used to think that being transgendered is related to sexual orientation, but it actually has nothing to do with that.
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    Nov 25, 2012 4:11 PM GMT
    Why is it difficult to understand transgenders and transgender issues? Transgenders (and by that I don't mean "drag queens for profit") feel that they're born in the wrong body, and some of them feel compelled ultimately to change that body to more properly align with the way they view themselves. That's not a difficult concept to understand. I met a post-op transsexual in Europe early in my life and went out with her several times. She was one of the smartest and most genuine people I have ever met, bar none.
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    Nov 25, 2012 6:41 PM GMT
    It's a mind bender for sure. I know a couple ( a gay guy taking drugs to be a girl but still has his junk). He she fooled a friend who met he she recently but he she has a boyfriend that is married ( separated with kids ) . So is he she not gay anymore and is the str8 guy now gay?
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    Nov 25, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidIt's a mind bender for sure. I know a couple ( a gay guy taking drugs to be a girl but still has his junk). He she fooled a friend who met he she recently but he she has a boyfriend that is married ( separated with kids ) . So is he she not gay anymore and is the str8 guy now gay?


    I'm confused.

    Is it a couple of two gay men taking hormones to be women or just one guy? And is the guy in transition the one with a boyfriend that is married but she also fooled another guy?