What do you do to attract hot/muscular men between the time you begin working to the time you are finally buff?

  • MadeinMich

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    Nov 25, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    Most of us on here workout and get big because we want to attract the big muscular dudes we know we want. But it takes years to get that kind of body. So what do you all do in between those years of muscle pergatory (for example, the halfway point between your starting point and when you first became noticably muscular)?

    Do you date/screw/relationship whatever you can get at that time and then move on to hotter guys as your body develops in a few years, or do you just stay out of the game and focus on getting bigger until you're able to attract the kind of guy you really want?

    This is not a troll, its a real question seeking truthful and informative responses
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    Nov 25, 2012 6:47 PM GMT
    personally..... and I don't want to sound conceited in anyway cause there are plenty of muscle guys who think I'm too lean... but I find that being even relatively muscular opens up a lot of doors
  • MadeinMich

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    Nov 25, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    homastj saidpersonally..... and I don't want to sound conceited in anyway cause there are plenty of muscle guys who think I'm too lean... but I find that being even relatively muscular opens up a lot of doors


    Yes dude, I agree, you do lok good and are very muscular in my eyes. But the question to be addressed is what did you do in between the years of you starting and where you are now? Say like the midway point between when you first stated lifting and now?
  • jim_sf

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    Nov 25, 2012 6:58 PM GMT
    OK, so it can take years to develop the physical body into something intensely attractive. What are you doing to develop your other attributes in the meantime?
  • MadeinMich

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:02 PM GMT
    jim_stl saidOK, so it can take years to develop the physical body into something intensely attractive. What are you doing to develop your other attributes in the meantime?


    Thats all nice jim_stl, but we all know that gay men initially pay attention to the inside before the outside. There are very few men (gay or straight) that can look beyond physicality and be attracted other attributes first.
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    Nov 25, 2012 7:04 PM GMT
    Have an amazing personality icon_razz.gif
  • jim_sf

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:05 PM GMT
    MadeinMich said
    jim_stl saidOK, so it can take years to develop the physical body into something intensely attractive. What are you doing to develop your other attributes in the meantime?


    Thats all nice jim_stl, but we all know that gay men initially pay attention to the inside before the outside. There are very few men (gay or straight) that can look beyond physicality and be attracted other attributes first.


    True, but do you really want to be scorching hot and crushingly dull? The physicality only gets you in the door; if you want anything more than a series of quick hook-ups, then you'd better have something else to offer than a great body.
  • Tritimium

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:05 PM GMT
    It's possible to make significant improvements in physique within 3-12 months (I know guys who have - my jaw dropped!), with some knowledge and a lot of determination and hard work - and ideally the guidance of a trainer. It's not easy, but it is possible.

    In the meantime (and 3-12 months isn't a long time!), you can work on the other aspects of yourself that make up the whole package (you want to attract a guy who's fit AND with a nice personality, right?), and just concentrate on enjoying life. After all, even the hot guys on here will tell you it's no easy thing to find someone you really click with, so try to keep dating etc. in perspective along side living your life to the full. icon_smile.gif
  • thatirishbast...

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:05 PM GMT
    homastj saidpersonally..... and I don't want to sound conceited in anyway cause there are plenty of muscle guys who think I'm too lean... but I find that being even relatively muscular opens up a lot of doors


    Good to know. More motivation for me to lose the half starved look I've been stuck with for the past 25 years.
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    Nov 25, 2012 7:08 PM GMT
    MadeinMich saidMost of us on here workout and get big because we want to attract the big muscular dudes we know we want. But it takes years to get that kind of body. So what do you all do in between those years of muscle pergatory (for example, the halfway point between your starting point and when you first became noticably muscular)?

    Do you date/screw/relationship whatever you can get at that time and then move on to hotter guys as your body develops in a few years, or do you just stay out of the game and focus on getting bigger until you're able to attract the kind of guy you really want?

    This is not a troll, its a real question seeking truthful and informative responses


    It takes like forever to get to look like you belong in a copy of Black Inches. In between that time like work on other stuff or find other things about you that you know people could find attractive. I've seen guys the size of a Mack Track (and not in a good way) pull men that look liked they could work on Michael Jefferies jet.

    So don't sweat it. Just focus on being the best you for YOU and the men will come. I make no claim on what kind of quality they will be of but hey at least they'll be coming right?
  • FireDoor211

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    homastj saidpersonally..... and I don't want to sound conceited in anyway cause there are plenty of muscle guys who think I'm too lean... but I find that being even relatively muscular opens up a lot of doors


    Yeah, it's true. I used to attract guys way out of my league before, but since getting more muscular I attract at least 10times more guys than before.
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    Nov 25, 2012 7:11 PM GMT
    Tritimium saidIt's possible to make significant improvements in physique within 3-12 months (I know guys who have - my jaw dropped!), with some knowledge and a lot of determination and hard work - and ideally the guidance of a trainer. It's not easy, but it is possible.

    In the meantime (and 3-12 months isn't a long time!), you can work on the other aspects of yourself that make up the whole package (you want to attract a guy who's fit AND with a nice personality, right?), and just concentrate on enjoying life. After all, even the hot guys on here will tell you it's no easy thing to find someone you really click with, so try to keep dating etc. in perspective along side living your life to the full. icon_smile.gif


    That's true! I just started working out in August and I've seen significant changes in my body. Granted I work out almost every night but still it can be done.You just have to finally decide about what is best for YOU and not whether you can pull dick with how you look or hope to look.
  • MadeinMich

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:13 PM GMT
    Tritimium saidIt's possible to make significant improvements in physique within 3-12 months (I know guys who have - my jaw dropped!), with some knowledge and a lot of determination and hard work - and ideally the guidance of a trainer. It's not easy, but it is possible.

    In the meantime (and 3-12 months isn't a long time!), you can work on the other aspects of yourself that make up the whole package (you want to attract a guy who's fit AND with a nice personality, right?), and just concentrate on enjoying life. After all, even the hot guys on here will tell you it's no easy thing to find someone you really click with, so try to keep dating etc. in perspective along side living your life to the full. icon_smile.gif


    Well, from what I hear from the guys I contact on here it took them 4 + years to get a muscular body. I've been at it for 2 yrs and still don't have the result I want. I'm suspecting it'll take me around 4 yrs total to get there.

    And I already feel most of everything else is in line. I'm kind, nice, thoughtful, polite, humble, smart, and handsome (all of this coming from other gay men, not me). I could be a bit happier in my career and have a better job though.
  • MadeinMich

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:16 PM GMT
    FireDoor211 said
    homastj saidpersonally..... and I don't want to sound conceited in anyway cause there are plenty of muscle guys who think I'm too lean... but I find that being even relatively muscular opens up a lot of doors


    Yeah, it's true. I used to attract guys way out of my league before, but since getting more muscular I attract at least 10times more guys than before.


    FireDoor211, how did you attract guys outside your league before you got buff?
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:18 PM GMT
    Personality has a greater influence than looks.
  • FireDoor211

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:18 PM GMT
    I have no idea, a friend if mine says its my personality. I don't question it, I'm just thankful.
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    Nov 25, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    MadeinMich said
    homastj saidpersonally..... and I don't want to sound conceited in anyway cause there are plenty of muscle guys who think I'm too lean... but I find that being even relatively muscular opens up a lot of doors


    Yes dude, I agree, you do lok good and are very muscular in my eyes. But the question to be addressed is what did you do in between the years of you starting and where you are now? Say like the midway point between when you first stated lifting and now?


    nope not my point. I'm saying I'm one of those people in the process of becoming a noticeably fit guy. the progress is proportional to the attention you get

    there's also a difference between hookups and dates... for a hookup a guy might have higher physical standards (barf, sorry I hate putting it that way), but on a date if you're somewhat fit and work out regularly, that's a turn on itself.
  • MadeinMich

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:23 PM GMT
    FireDoor211 saidI have no idea, a friend if mine says its my personality. I don't question it, I'm just thankful.


    One thing that could hurt me pulling guys out of my league is that i am very shy and withdrawn.

    Another problem with me is that I have a very hard timekeeping my fat off while gaining muscle. I mean, I'll gain 5lbs of muscle with 20lbs of fat and have to spend 3-6 months loosing the fat while compromising my muscle gains. So I have to go through bulking and cutting cycles which prolongs the time I am not muscular.
  • chris_hasting...

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:23 PM GMT
    i want to know the answer to this, i've been working out and i'm still skinny and can't attract any buff guys, just fatties, femmes and old guys, but... all three are instant boner killers. i guess i'm just biding my time, with the occasional blowjob from twinks here and there.
  • FireDoor211

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:29 PM GMT
    MadeinMich said
    FireDoor211 saidI have no idea, a friend if mine says its my personality. I don't question it, I'm just thankful.


    One thing that could hurt me pulling guys out of my league is that i am very shy and withdrawn.

    Another problem with me is that I have a very hard timekeeping my fat off while gaining muscle. I mean, I'll gain 5lbs of muscle with 20lbs of fat and have to spend 3-6 months loosing the fat while compromising my muscle gains. So I have to go through bulking and cutting cycles which prolongs the time I am not muscular.


    I think u need to build more muscle first. When I started building muscle, I started gaining fat too, but stay the course. The muscle will eventually overcome the fat. Leaning up is easier with more muscle.
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    Nov 25, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    I actually like the "in-between" guys. Super muscular dudes are gross to me. Like in Magic Mike (I know, gayest example ever) Tarzan was really unattractive, other than just his face. He was too buff. But I was going crazy for Alex Pettyfer and Channing's bodies, although Channing's already pretty buff as it is. I like muscle, just not an abundance of it. So I'm satisfied with those guys who are in between the muscular scale (5-8 on a 10-point scale). With my body, I'm just trying to get bigger pecks and then I'll be satisfied.
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    Nov 25, 2012 7:33 PM GMT
    Not everyone gets buff for the reason of attracting muscle dudes. I know plenty of muscle dudes who like twinks.

    Personally, my journey was because if I didn't make it a commitment to take care of my health, I'd probably waste away. It basically forces me to keep myself moving and eating when some days psychologically I don't want to.
  • muscletruk

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    Nov 25, 2012 7:37 PM GMT
    the answer is a simple one. you live life if you met someone see where it goes.
    in my mind if your working out just to attract the "muscle guy" do you stop when you get him? it's like going on a diet when you reach your goal do you go back to your old crappy habits?
    if your serious about getting the body you really want you have to do it for yourself. my taste has changed with my body and I really am attracted to big muscular guys . that being said I recently fell in love with a man with a beautifully toned body not "big" by any standards. but there's a lot more to love then just a body, at least for me. it's the way I feel when I'm around him. and the way I think of him when where apart.
    for me as long as a guy takes care of himself and dosen't try to get between me and my gym it's good
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    Nov 25, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    I feel EXACTLY the same way about this man. I think it has to do with where you live, where you workout, and age.

    As long as you are in the gym consistently and you go month after month slowly making progress, all anyone sees is that you are fit, only you really notice changes.

    You may find a muscular man who likes you the way you are, aka smaller than him, but again that depends on the guy.

    Please let us know if you find someone in the mean time!
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    Nov 25, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
    Play to your strengths. I have a very difficult time building muscle, but I drop fat really quickly, so being the hot buff guy just isn't an option for me. At best I can be lean and toned. My personality and physical appearance means that I can easily look like your quintessential best friend's cute, nerdy little brother. Luckily for me, some guys find this attractive. It's all about capitalizing on what you have.