Could you date a transgender man? Or someone who wasn't male in the traditional sense?

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    Nov 25, 2012 8:47 PM GMT
    Could have a relationship with a man who previously was a woman? I have seen some who are very convincing and attractive. I've also seen some women of lesbian orientation who gave off a very strong male energy and personality trait that I found attractive. In fact the only thing holding me back from going after one (besides the fact that she liked women) was that I myself could not get past that she was not packing down south. But other wise I found myself very interested in her.

    Could you date or have a relationship with someone who was not traditionally male?
  • newyorkcanon

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    Nov 25, 2012 9:07 PM GMT
    I could picture myself dating a transgender (a man who was previously a woman) as long as they give off that "male" vibe. The very reason I'm attracted to guys is because I like some of the traits that are characteristic of males- things that come to mind such as: the body type, etc. As long as they mostly have what I want, then yeah, I wouldn't mind.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:12 PM GMT
    newyorkcanon saidI could picture myself dating a transgender (a man who was previously a woman) as long as they give off that "male" vibe. The very reason I'm attracted to guys is because I like some of the traits that are characteristic of males- things that come to mind such as: the body type, etc. As long as they mostly have what I want, then yeah, I wouldn't mind.


    I agree with you and I would probably be able to be with one too. What about sexually though? Would that be a hurdle or no issue for you?
  • newyorkcanon

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    Nov 25, 2012 9:38 PM GMT
    For me, I don't think it would be an issue. If you're a top I would believe that it's not much of an issue, considering that some total tops aren't really into giving head, but rather eating ass instead. But that's just my assumption.

    I once saw a picture of a very masculine and muscular guy with a cunt. That didn't seem to turn me off, though.
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    Nov 25, 2012 9:43 PM GMT
    newyorkcanon saidFor me, I don't think it would be an issue. If you're a top I would believe that it's not much of an issue, considering that some total tops aren't really into giving head, but rather eating ass instead. But that's just my assumption.

    I once saw a picture of a very masculine and muscular guy with a cunt. That didn't seem to turn me off, though.


    Oh it's nice to meet people like you who are so open minded.

    The thing with me is that sex would probably be a thing we never do. I wouldn't be into them sexually because vaginas do nothing for me but I could live without that if we had a strong mental and spiritual connection.
  • newyorkcanon

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    Nov 26, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    Yup, that connection's important. Aside from getting physical, sex is also a mental thing considering that arousal starts in the mind. And just like role play, you can imagine that your partner has a penis when they're actually wearing a strap-on. That would help in theory.
  • Medjai

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    Nov 26, 2012 1:22 AM GMT
    I don't think do.

    Nothing against them. They have every right to be who they are, but they just aren't a group I'm attracted to.
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    Nov 26, 2012 1:27 AM GMT
    This is something I've thought about.

    I'd be hard for me, because I prefer to have the bottom bunk bed

    if he hasn't fully transitioned and I'd really love him, then maybe I'd be able to settle for a strap on ? It's hard to tell and I wouldn't be able to just say yes or no.

    I wouldn't mind him being transgendered.
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    Nov 26, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    bedtimestories saidThis is something I've thought about.

    I'd be hard for me, because I prefer to have the bottom bunk bed

    if he hasn't fully transitioned and I'd really love him, then maybe I'd be able to settle for a strap on ? It's hard to tell and I wouldn't be able to just say yes or no.

    I wouldn't mind him being transgendered.


    Yeah see a strap on doesn't do it for me. But you know sex isn't everything. I would just have to live with it. If I really connected with him in that way I would be willing to give up sex or try something he might like.
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    Nov 26, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    bedtimestories saidThis is something I've thought about.

    I'd be hard for me, because I prefer to have the bottom bunk bed

    if he hasn't fully transitioned and I'd really love him, then maybe I'd be able to settle for a strap on ? It's hard to tell and I wouldn't be able to just say yes or no.

    I wouldn't mind him being transgendered.


    Yeah see a strap on doesn't do it for me. But you know sex isn't everything. I would just have to live with it. If I really connected with him in that way I would be willing to give up sex or try something he might like.


    I get that, sex is important. I guess another solution would be to go down the open relationship route if you'd love each other and didn't want to split up, yet couldn't be satisfied sexually.

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    Nov 26, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    bedtimestories said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    bedtimestories saidThis is something I've thought about.

    I'd be hard for me, because I prefer to have the bottom bunk bed

    if he hasn't fully transitioned and I'd really love him, then maybe I'd be able to settle for a strap on ? It's hard to tell and I wouldn't be able to just say yes or no.

    I wouldn't mind him being transgendered.


    Yeah see a strap on doesn't do it for me. But you know sex isn't everything. I would just have to live with it. If I really connected with him in that way I would be willing to give up sex or try something he might like.


    I get that, sex is important. I guess another solution would be to go down the open relationship route if you'd love each other and didn't want to split up, yet couldn't be satisfied sexually.



    I could easily do that but it would feel like I'm doing it only because he doesnt have a penis and that I wouldn't do this if he were a biological man.
  • agro

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    Nov 26, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    Wouldn't matter to me one bit icon_smile.gif apart from obvious anatomical issues, but people have worked around worse.
  • account_92

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    Nov 26, 2012 5:54 AM GMT
    This is going to sound a bit perverted but I would LOVE IT! I like dude and chicks and would love to fuck his vagina though it'd take some time to get used to the absense of cock.
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    Nov 26, 2012 6:02 AM GMT
    I would yes.
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    Nov 26, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    I would have to say no, but then again love works in mysterious ways haha you can't control who you fall in love with.
  • stee99

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    Nov 26, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    account_92 saidThis is going to sound a bit perverted but I would LOVE IT! I like dude and chicks and would love to fuck his vagina though it'd take some time to get used to the absense of cock.


    Technically a trans man would want to have a penis not a vagina so you might not be allowed near it.. I've known M to F trans people and they hated having penises/didn't like looking at them.
  • matthieu17

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    Nov 29, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    stee99 said
    account_92 saidThis is going to sound a bit perverted but I would LOVE IT! I like dude and chicks and would love to fuck his vagina though it'd take some time to get used to the absense of cock.


    Technically a trans man would want to have a penis not a vagina so you might not be allowed near it.. I've known M to F trans people and they hated having penises/didn't like looking at them.


    I can't' represent all trans people with a single answer but I would like to give an opinion a bit counter to the one outlined above.

    I'm in the use what you've got and enjoy it camp. I opted for chest reconstruction because that was important to me and was not a surgery with a huge amount of risk.

    (If genital surgery resulted in fully functioning equipment as you guys have then I'd go for it. Since that's not the case... and I know some might argue with me but I'm not talking about the rough approximation of a penis, I'd take it. Until then, I'm cool.)

    Also there are many transgendered guys who are no-op and plan to remain so - including chest surgery... so being transgendered isn't all about physical transition and surgical intervention. Sorry to muddy the waters - just sayin'
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    Nov 29, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    I dont think I could.
  • braynes77

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    Nov 29, 2012 4:17 PM GMT
    I have known quite a few trans gendered people over the years and have never found them attractive. While they might be very good looking it is impossible to get over the fact that I am attracted to guys and would want just that.
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    Nov 29, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    account_92 saidThis is going to sound a bit perverted but I would LOVE IT! I like dude and chicks and would love to fuck his vagina though it'd take some time to get used to the absense of cock.


    Well that was unexpected lol.

    But thank you for being honest.
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    Nov 29, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    account_92 saidThis is going to sound a bit perverted but I would LOVE IT! I like dude and chicks and would love to fuck his vagina though it'd take some time to get used to the absense of cock.


    I'm with you. I'd want a female to male who still has the vag. but all the other attributes of a man.
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    Nov 29, 2012 6:31 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    account_92 saidThis is going to sound a bit perverted but I would LOVE IT! I like dude and chicks and would love to fuck his vagina though it'd take some time to get used to the absense of cock.


    I'm with you. I'd want a female to male who still has the vag. but all the other attributes of a man.


    Doesn't that technically make you bisexual if you found the vagina attractive? Of course you never said you weren't bisexual in the first place so this isn't to accuse you of anything but I'm just asking.
  • Muscles25

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    Nov 29, 2012 6:31 PM GMT
    NO NO NO NO NO NO NO
    Isn't male in the traditional sense? We used to call that a chick.
  • Suetonius

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    Nov 29, 2012 8:49 PM GMT
    No, I'm just not that open minded . My understanding is that the docs have not got it all down yet, to the point where those male plumbing parts actually work . I've been gay for a very long time, and wouldn't even date a guy who had the problem of having been married to that bobbit woman . Maybe if we were both going to be marooned on a desert island for a few years . . .
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    Nov 29, 2012 9:55 PM GMT
    Muscles25 saidNO NO NO NO NO NO NO
    Isn't male in the traditional sense? We used to call that a chick.


    There are different shades to gender identity.