What's been your biggest epiphany in life thus far?

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    Nov 26, 2012 7:49 AM GMT
    I had many tonight. My nights can get exciting when God keeps me awake. I think the biggest one tonight is realizing i'm not a child, a teen anymore. I have molted into manhood. New Journey has just gotten more exciting.

    And yours?
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Nov 26, 2012 7:59 AM GMT
    Don't know if I'd call it an epiphany, but:

    If there were a button that would blow up the world, and everyone in the world had access to it, we'd be screwed. Someone, somewhere, for some inexplicable reason, would push it.

    That sounds depressing, but what it teaches us is that we can't always rely on people to act morally, rationally, or in their best interests. Adult humans are just big children, and most actions can be easily traced back to a simple, base desire. When we accept that fact, we don't feel the need to be as angry about our frustrations with others.
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    Nov 26, 2012 11:09 AM GMT
    That you can't please everyone, and that most people won't even think of trying to please me.
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    Nov 26, 2012 11:41 AM GMT
    It's not about me.
    It's not about you.
    It's the connection that makes us.

    -such a gross epiphany because it happens almost daily.
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    Nov 26, 2012 11:53 AM GMT
    FuriousGeorge saidDon't know if I'd call it an epiphany, but:

    If there were a button that would blow up the world, and everyone in the world had access to it, we'd be screwed. Someone, somewhere, for some inexplicable reason, would push it.

    That sounds depressing, but what it teaches us is that we can't always rely on people to act morally, rationally, or in their best interests. Adult humans are just big children, and most actions can be easily traced back to a simple, base desire. When we accept that fact, we don't feel the need to be as angry about our frustrations with others.



    As dark as it may sound, it's an interesting thought, especially when you consider your last point - why other peoples opinions shouldn't effect you.


    I don't know what it was, but my life changed this past April, i just realized a few things - not triggered by any one specific thought or action, but I won't question it. Literally, I've never even happier. I asked myself what changed between this year and the last few.. Me. That's it. At least, that was the catalyst to my change. My thought process, my perceptions of the world.. All of that.
    I use to be hung up on trying to change my mom or brother - I let that go. 'accept everything around you for exactly what it is' being the predominate thought there. I let go of the idea that a particular action or thought can be inherently better than another - after all, whose to say what IS right or wrong at any given moment? We all experience things for a reason, and they get us to where we need to be. I wrote a bit more about it in my profile , if anyone's interested haha.

    But yeah, back to your last point, i came to a similar conclusion - but my thought process was a little different. I realized a paradox existed - if I genuinely believe that everyone in the world is equal and their opinions matter, then how could I discredit any opinion? If an acquaintance thinks in selfish or spoiled or any of those things, how can I question it? The funny thing is, there's one world that we all share that can't be questioned -- the physical one one front of us. The tree outside of your house, the bed or couch you're lying on, the music that's playing- werre all connected to it in some way or form and it can't be discredited .

    But at the same time, there's a billion different 'worlds' existing too-- our thoughts shape the world around us. Simultaneously it's dark, happy, twisted, tragic, incredible, awful, etc etc - all of these things. The work literally is whatever we make it out to be, it's all about perspective - and we all share different perspectives on it. But anyways, because I believe every persons view point is valid, the world is a billion things at once, but at the same time, only one thing - whatever I make it out to be (or for you, whatever you make it out to be). If someone thinks I'm selfish then I AM that person, but at the same time i am only what I think I am.

    Best example is when I came out to my cousin. She was shocked, and was expecting me to change. To dress differently, talk differently, etc. it didn't matter how many times I tried to tell her that I've always acted and dressed exactly how I've wanted to- to her, her mind was made up. In her world I WAS going to change because of my orientation. So in the future if I start talking a little smoother or get more comfortable with myself or maybe wear a tighter shirt or shirtless outside on a hot day, to her it's because of my sexuality-- when in (my) reality its because I just started going to the gym. But in her world it doesn't matter, we make associations and connections all the time, so no matter what happens, whatever I do, she 'will' attribute it to me being bisexual.

    If any of that made sense haha. I could talk about this for hours on end but it looks like I've written a bit of an essay. Ya get the idea though icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 26, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
    I am not a hideous, unlovable monster.
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    Nov 26, 2012 1:05 PM GMT
    ConQuest saidI am not a hideous, unlovable monster.


    You never have been, nor will you be. icon_evil.gif

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    Nov 26, 2012 1:09 PM GMT
    n8698u said
    ConQuest saidI am not a hideous, unlovable monster.


    You never have been, nor will you be. icon_evil.gif



    Well, that's why it was my life changing epiphany. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 26, 2012 1:15 PM GMT
    ConQuest said
    n8698u said
    ConQuest saidI am not a hideous, unlovable monster.


    You never have been, nor will you be. icon_evil.gif



    Well, that's why it was my life changing epiphany. icon_biggrin.gif


    Hey! Don't you be getting all logical and shit on me. I haven't had my coffee. icon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 26, 2012 1:19 PM GMT
    Using the definition of "epiphany" as an instant revelation or insight, it would be my realization in a sudden flash 17 years ago that I am gay. Without doubt my most changing moment.
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    Nov 26, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    After i successfully found my childhood friend whose family disappeared after getting death threats from an earlier family brawl with some vicious people 12 years ago, I realized that I had what it took to be a detective icon_biggrin.gif

    From there I would do "favors for friends" like helping one find her baby daddy, helping another one serve a crazy ex girl with a criminal summons, and recently finding my other friends disappearing friend lol
  • hawkeye7

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    Nov 26, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    Never judge someone until you have walked a day in her pumps.
    Perception is 95% of reality.
    Only you can make you happy.

    Its the Journey, not the destination.

    I try to live by these, love the people who love me and be the man I want in my life.
  • rnch

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    Nov 26, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    The last one I can recall happened the morning after Thanksgiving, about 10-12 years ago.

    I slowly, gradually woke up after a wild, semi-drunken 3 way with my best friend (at the time) and his wife.

    She was curled up on the edge of the bed, snoring lightly, facing the wall.

    My best friend was all up against me, naked and hard (as was I), our arms and legs intertwined.

    "OHHHHHHHH", I thought, "This DOES explain a LOT of things".



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    Nov 26, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    I've proven this time and time again: People will self-destruct when given the right opportunity.
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    Nov 26, 2012 3:00 PM GMT
    We (people under 40) are very young and have a lot of time to get our shit together. Dont worry about having the perfect career, body or boyfriend, and realize that these things take time, and sometimes the sum of the whole is greater than the parts. Enjoy!
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    Nov 26, 2012 3:07 PM GMT
    In your twenties, you worry about what other people think about you.
    In your thirties, you STOP worrying what other people think about you.
    In your forties, you realize other people aren't thinking about you.


    Others:

    Nothing is forever.
    Emotions are not useless.
    The most important thing in life is our relationships with other people.
    The world is a swirling, chaotic interaction of forces physical, social, economic, political, biological, astronomical.... and it's all in balance and unfolding just as it should.

    And maybe the most important: I don't have to have all the answers. It's alright to say, "I don't know."
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    Nov 26, 2012 3:11 PM GMT
    "Don't judge a book by its' cover."
    Really.
  • kevmoran

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    Nov 26, 2012 3:14 PM GMT
    I've realized recently that no one has it all together at any age. I keep thinking the next age group will bring me to figuring my life out. Then I get there and realize everyone's been pretending this whole time and I still have no idea what I'm doing.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 26, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    Chainers saidWe (people under 40) are very young and have a lot of time to get our shit together. Dont worry about having the perfect career, body or boyfriend, and realize that these things take time, and sometimes the sum of the whole is greater than the parts. Enjoy!


    ^^ As someone in his mid sixties, I can validate that one!
  • MikeW

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    Nov 26, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    kevmoran saidI've realized recently that no one has it all together at any age. I keep thinking the next age group will bring me to figuring my life out. Then I get there and realize everyone's been pretending this whole time and I still have no idea what I'm doing.


    ^^ Yep! Everyone is just making shit up as they go along. Some of it works better than others for some people, but none of it works always for everyone.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 26, 2012 4:03 PM GMT
    jp_K said
    snip.... I realized a paradox existed - if I genuinely believe that everyone in the world is equal and their opinions matter, then how could I discredit any opinion? If an acquaintance thinks in selfish or spoiled or any of those things, how can I question it?

    Well, because fundamentally there are only TWO kinds of people: those who question and those who don't. Those who question, question themselves, question their own motives, believes, processes and so on. Those who don't, don't. They never even notice that they don't.

    The funny thing is, there's one world that we all share that can't be questioned -- the physical one one front of us. The tree outside of your house, the bed or couch you're lying on, the music that's playing- werre all connected to it in some way or form and it can't be discredited .

    But at the same time, there's a billion different 'worlds' existing too-- our thoughts shape the world around us. Simultaneously it's dark, happy, twisted, tragic, incredible, awful, etc etc - all of these things. The work literally is whatever we make it out to be, it's all about perspective - and we all share different perspectives on it. ...snip


    It's even more complicated than that. We can "say" 'the physical world can't be discredited or discounted' but it isn't quite so simple. Everything we know, or think we know, about the 'physical world--including our sense of ourselves in it--is, itself, a product of something occurring in our brain/body nervous system. Cf: Neurophenomenology.

    But anyways, because I believe every persons view point is valid, the world is a billion things at once, but at the same time, only one thing - whatever I make it out to be (or for you, whatever you make it out to be). If someone thinks I'm selfish then I AM that person, but at the same time i am only what I think I am.

    But try to see the paradox here: YOU (the "I")... who or what is that?

    I'll add my own epiphanies in a bit.
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    Nov 26, 2012 4:06 PM GMT
    Can't think of the greatest, but definitely the latest, which happened in a gas line.

    Most people in the world are in a rush to wait at the next red light, so don't engage crazies. They can think whatever they want of me, I'm just going to keep my doors locked, windows rolled up and eyes glued straight ahead.
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    Nov 26, 2012 4:11 PM GMT
    Life is as bad or as good as you perceive it, and often times your outlook matters more than the situation.

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    There is always more to learn giving a 100% in failure then giving 50% in success and the only things that stop us from giving 100% to our own desires is fear and insecurity.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 26, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    I have had many "epiphanies". Here are just a few:

    I am a figment of my own imagination.

    The brain is silent. It is only the pre-verbal imagination that won't shut up.

    The "Secret of Life" is Attention.

    There are varying qualities of attention.

    My life will be determined by what I pay attention to. The quality of my life will be determined by the quality of my attention to it.

    Every moment has an infinite potential; the limitation is "me".

    Lust is the arousing of desire for union with my own infinite potential projected outward onto the idealized 'other'.

  • thisguy023

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    Nov 26, 2012 4:48 PM GMT

    Mine:

    "I am not a loner, I actually thrive in a relationship".