Does anyone else ever feel guilty about eating?

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    Nov 27, 2012 7:19 AM GMT
    Let it be known that despite working out on a frequent basis and caring about how I look I eat like I just got out of prison after doing twenty years, LOL. But many times after eating I feel a really deep shame. Its like I feel bad about eating and I've curtailed how often I eat. Usually its only once a day and occasion I may have a snack. Now the largeness of these meals varies but still I work out a lot to try and cancel it out. After I eat I go and check themirror to see what my body looks like after eating. How I feel about hoe my body is often. Doesn't really match what I see. I try to stop eating as much as I do because it feels counter productive to my fittness goals but I can't help it that I love food. However I truly and utterly despise this sense of deep shame I feel after eating.

    Does anyone else ever feel like this?
  • MikeW

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    Nov 27, 2012 7:46 AM GMT
    I have an eating disorder, too, but it isn't exactly the same as yours. I do feel some disappointment with myself when I over indulge, but not "shame" exactly.

    A little over two years ago I weighed over 250lbs. I smoked. I was over 60yo. I didn't work out. I was (and still am) a sugar addict. It wasn't pretty.

    But there came a very major upheaval in my life (actually the last in a whole series of them but that's another story). I had to begin "re-inventing" myself and I decided to see just how far I could take that concept.

    I'm still a work in progress but I've made big changes in the past two+ years.

    I'm an "anxious eater." I eat when I feel insecure on some level. I have managed to change my diet and I eat far more healthily now than I ever have in my life. Still, I'm not a fanatic about it. I don't want my healthy eating to become yet another compulsion!

    So, the way I look at it is if I have a food aim for the day and I get, say, 80 to 90% of that, that's WAY better than if I'd not tried at all. When I fall off the wagon and binge (which I do on occasion), well, that's the way it goes. It slows down my fat loss but I know if I "beat myself up" about it, it will only make the situation worse. So I tell myself, "Ok, you f*ed up. So tomorrow, keep trying. Just don't give up trying no matter how many times you fall off the wagon."

    And that's what I do.
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    Nov 27, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    n o
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    Nov 27, 2012 9:06 AM GMT
    Yeah, I usually feel this. I just try to use it to avoid over-eating. Other than holdiays, it works really well for me.
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    Nov 27, 2012 1:19 PM GMT
    I have never weighed over 150 lbs in my life. I weigh 138 lbs right now. It is hard for me to gain weight and if I try to gain some mass, unfortunately it always ends up in my waist; if my arms get 10% bigger, my waist becomes 30% bigger. So now I have learned that I should stay less than 140 lbs to look decent in a swimming costume.
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    Nov 27, 2012 1:21 PM GMT
    I do feel bad but not guilty if I eat dinner after 8 pm, or if I eat anything after 8 pm. I also feel guilty if I eat to a full a stomach on any meal - that makes me feel bloated. So now I try to eat small meals.
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    Nov 27, 2012 1:31 PM GMT
    Considering I'm bulking, not really. If something has protein and its in my sight, I'm eating it! icon_smile.gif
  • ffc87

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    Nov 27, 2012 1:32 PM GMT
    I do when I eat unhealthy food for an entire weekend (which seems to happen all the time lately). But like MikeW said, don't take it too hard, don't give up. One cheat meal a week can actually be beneficial.

    What I got from that is you only eat one major meal a day. Maybe that's why you are binging when you eat icon_wink.gif Try to eat at least 3-4 smaller meals/snacks throughout the day. That way, even if you don't eat the healthiest food, at least you won't starve yourself and cause yourself to binge when you do eat icon_smile.gif

    I hope that helps!
  • braynes77

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    Nov 27, 2012 1:37 PM GMT
    I've never felt guilty about eating.
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    Nov 27, 2012 1:38 PM GMT
    ffc87 saidI do when I eat unhealthy food for an entire weekend (which seems to happen all the time lately). But like MikeW said, don't take it too hard, don't give up. One cheat meal a week can actually be beneficial.

    What I got from that is you only eat one major meal a day. Maybe that's why you are binging when you eat icon_wink.gif Try to eat at least 3-4 smaller meals/snacks throughout the day. That way, even if you don't eat the healthiest food, at least you won't starve yourself and cause yourself to binge when you do eat icon_smile.gif

    I hope that helps!


    I used to do that and those little snacks throughout the day quickly became meals. I don't know why I've been eating so much. I was able cut down on my emotional eating by doing what my therapist said and never keeping quick food in the house. But that hasn't fixed the rest of my binge eating. Sometimes I just tryto avoid food altogether and of course that doesn't work either.

    But thank you very much for the advice.
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    Nov 27, 2012 1:42 PM GMT
    You can always eat and hide below a napkin to hide your sins~

    *GUILTY*
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 27, 2012 1:43 PM GMT
    I believe you just have to "think in advance" before you start in eating. Eating is important, it is a mainstay in your health...... it is eating in proper propotions and eating the right things that most have issues with.

    Never feel guilty about eating.. it is "what" and "how much".

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    Nov 27, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
    The only thing I feel after eating a lot of junk is initialy good...then bloated and sugar high.....a little guilty I guess. Don't beat myself up for it though.
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    I can't speak to the emotional issues, and I'm glad you have a therapist to talk to.

    Even though I wasn't drastically overweight (more "skinny fat") I can speak, however, to how I got my eating patterns under my control. It may not work for everyone.

    I looked around for a diet plan that kind of went with the eating patterns I was comfortable with. Those were - biggish dinner with the BF every night, wanted to get away from hugely fattening snacks (think a 1000 calorie plate of nachos) just before bed, and I don't care much about breakfast. For me, that was intermittent fasting - I figured out the calories I wanted to consume daily and limit them to an eating window of about 1 pm to 9 pm.

    Then I signed up for Fitday - not sure that's the best, there are plenty of calorie tracking sites/apps out there now - and started logging in what I was eating. I'm not completely anal about it, I don't weigh my food, but I've cooked for years and I'm pretty good at guesstimating quantities. Even if I'm off I'm probably off in the same direction all the time so it all works out.

    I thought I was nutrition savvy but was shocked at what was calorie dense and what wasn't. Those tortilla chips were the first thing to go by the wayside. If I ate a bunch there was no room for any real meals during the day, so no protein or healthy fats. It's eye opening to track what you eat.

    After a while it became more second nature. Even if I don't track so closely forever, the learning experience was invaluable.

    Best of luck.
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Mindful awareness- look it up, its the idea of slowing down your eating, thinking about where it came from, the effect its going to have on your body....

    Also, theres a 15 minute lag time between your stomach and your brain... typically we are full way before our stomach communicates with our brain to cut the "hunger" feeling..

    I would say try to slow it down and see if this helps.
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    showme saidI can't speak to the emotional issues, and I'm glad you have a therapist to talk to.

    Even though I wasn't drastically overweight (more "skinny fat") I can speak, however, to how I got my eating patterns under my control. It may not work for everyone.

    I looked around for a diet plan that kind of went with the eating patterns I was comfortable with. Those were - biggish dinner with the BF every night, wanted to get away from hugely fattening snacks (think a 1000 calorie plate of nachos) just before bed, and I don't care much about breakfast. For me, that was intermittent fasting - I figured out the calories I wanted to consume daily and limit them to an eating window of about 1 pm to 9 pm.

    Then I signed up for Fitday - not sure that's the best, there are plenty of calorie tracking sites/apps out there now - and started logging in what I was eating. I'm not completely anal about it, I don't weigh my food, but I've cooked for years and I'm pretty good at guesstimating quantities. Even if I'm off I'm probably off in the same direction all the time so it all works out.

    I thought I was nutrition savvy but was shocked at what was calorie dense and what wasn't. Those tortilla chips were the first thing to go by the wayside. If I ate a bunch there was no room for any real meals during the day, so no protein or healthy fats. It's eye opening to track what you eat.

    After a while it became more second nature. Even if I don't track so closely forever, the learning experience was invaluable.

    Best of luck.


    That tracking idea isn't a bad idea. I've always been turned off by people who counted calories and carbs because I assumed it was being too organized for nothing. But you know it might be a good way for me to watch what I eat. I like making charts so that might work for me.
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:41 PM GMT
    Only when the children constantly scream: "IT HURTS"...but I just stuff an apple in their mouth and continue where I left off...
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    No, i love eating.
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:53 PM GMT
    If you are going to do a calorie journal app try out myfitnesspal. Instead of typing everything in you can use the barcode on the food product and it should pull it up. So far its been pretty accurate and the only information you have to manually input will be those meals that you dine out for.

    I know where you are coming from though. I used to feel guilty about eating anything. I think it was worse when my thought process was "well I ate something bad so might as well make the rest of the day bad." Currently there are days that I do slip back into that mentality. Now I look at food like gas for a car. It's needed, however the quality of food equals that of the grade of gas. the better the grade of gas the better your car runs. I know it sounds dumb to some people but to me it makes sense.
  • calibro

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    Nov 27, 2012 3:17 PM GMT
    that's like asking if i feel guilty about breathing
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    Nov 27, 2012 3:33 PM GMT
    Right now, I'm sick of eating 6 meals a day!
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    Nov 27, 2012 3:35 PM GMT
    I tend to eat mostly healthy foods out of habit, so I don't feel bad about it when I don't eat healthy foods. I've also always had the problem of gaining weight and keeping it on, so I never feel bad about how much I eat.
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    Nov 27, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    In all seriousness...it's probably WHAT you are eating instead of HOW much you are eating. Yes you can't be eating huge portions but I believe the main issue for most people is WHAT they are eating.

    Most medical professionals (I have taken classes on this, as I am one) will say you should eat 6 small meals throughout the day and light snacks. It helps boost the metabolism. Eating a big dinner also is a no no, which most people do.

    I would say write a food journal of what you are eating. You should try to stick with lean meats (high in protein) such as fish and broiled/grilled chicken with vegetables. Also portion wise, meat should be no bigger than your palm. For snacks eat almonds, celery, and other veggies.

    One thing I did when I gained all the weight from my surgery was I did a 2 weeks Juice Fast. I ate nothing, just juiced veggies and I lost 15 lbs. I don't recommend it for a long period of time, I just was so sick of being overweight after my surgery and my doctor said I could finally get off "bed rest"..so I did something dramatic..
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    Nov 27, 2012 3:54 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidIn all seriousness...it's probably WHAT you are eating instead of HOW much you are eating. Yes you can't be eating huge portions but I believe the main issue for most people is WHAT they are eating.

    Most medical professionals (I have taken classes on this, as I am one) will say you should eat 6 small meals throughout the day and light snacks. It helps boost the metabolism. Eating a big dinner also is a no no, which most people do.

    I would say write a food journal of what you are eating. You should try to stick with lean meats (high in protein) such as fish and broiled/grilled chicken with vegetables. Also portion wise, meat should be no bigger than your palm. For snacks eat almonds, celery, and other veggies.

    One thing I did when I gained all the weight from my surgery was I did a 2 weeks Juice Fast. I ate nothing, just juiced veggies and I lost 15 lbs. I don't recommend it for a long period of time, I just was so sick of being overweight after my surgery and my doctor said I could finally get off "bed rest"..so I did something dramatic..


    The 6 small meals a day thing is going by the wayside. If that's a natural eating pattern for you, great, but there's not any real evidence behind it.

    http://www.nytimes.com/2010/03/23/health/23really.html
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    Nov 27, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    showme said

    The 6 small meals a day thing is going by the wayside. If that's a natural eating pattern for you, great, but there's not any real evidence behind it.

    http://www.nytimes.com/2010/03/23/health/23really.html
    You are right, for me personally it works, but, I drink a protein shake after workouts which I consider meal 2 and then I eat a handful lettuce with veggies between lunch and dinner...and I consider that meal number 4