Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word


  • Nov 27, 2012 7:51 AM GMT
    Yeah i don't usually do this, but shits been bugging me lately, and would very much like some advice.

    Met this really hot jock in my gym. Worked out with him together after I stroke up the courage to go and say hi to him. He is absolutely divine. Always smiling, a good body didn't do any harm either.

    I asked him out the 2nd time I met him to watch SKYFALL as a "friends thing" and he agreed, and we exchanged numbers. After I checked out his facebook, I see how he is 'in an open relationship with a chick' and got rather disappointed. Didn't really know straight people do open relationships. Thing is he's literally one in a million.

    I give him signs that I like him, a touch, a pat, compliments etc, and he doesn't seem uneasy except he hardly reciprocates.

    We swap workout routines and he's one of those dudes who knows what hes doing, and we've been gym partners for the past week.

    Thing is he's a foreigner and doesn't speak English well, and hes going back to Italy June next year. Im also leaving Australia monday week for 3 months to New York.

    Should I confess my feelings to him?
  • Amira

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    Nov 27, 2012 1:28 PM GMT
    If you were to confess your feelings I'm not sure what you would get out of it.. Sure he's in an open relationship, but it doesn't mean he's open to men. Chances are it's an open relationship since he probably has a girlfriend back in Italy. So if you confess to him what outcome are you expecting?
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:18 PM GMT
    Lovehidemelody saidYeah i don't usually do this, but shits been bugging me lately, and would very much like some advice.

    Met this really hot jock in my gym. Worked out with him together after I stroke up the courage to go and say hi to him. He is absolutely divine. Always smiling, a good body didn't do any harm either.

    I asked him out the 2nd time I met him to watch SKYFALL as a "friends thing" and he agreed, and we exchanged numbers. After I checked out his facebook, I see how he is 'in an open relationship with a chick' and got rather disappointed. Didn't really know straight people do open relationships. Thing is he's literally one in a million.

    I give him signs that I like him, a touch, a pat, compliments etc, and he doesn't seem uneasy except he hardly reciprocates.

    We swap workout routines and he's one of those dudes who knows what hes doing, and we've been gym partners for the past week.

    Thing is he's a foreigner and doesn't speak English well, and hes going back to Italy June next year. Im also leaving Australia monday week for 3 months to New York.

    Should I confess my feelings to him?





    You find dating a chick in open relationships one in a million? There are two for the price of one in my block.

    Dont confess you will loose.
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    Lovehidemelody saidYeah i don't usually do this, but shits been bugging me lately, and would very much like some advice.

    Met this really hot jock in my gym. Worked out with him together after I stroke up the courage to go and say hi to him. He is absolutely divine. Always smiling, a good body didn't do any harm either.

    I asked him out the 2nd time I met him to watch SKYFALL as a "friends thing" and he agreed, and we exchanged numbers. After I checked out his facebook, I see how he is 'in an open relationship with a chick' and got rather disappointed. Didn't really know straight people do open relationships. Thing is he's literally one in a million.

    I give him signs that I like him, a touch, a pat, compliments etc, and he doesn't seem uneasy except he hardly reciprocates.

    We swap workout routines and he's one of those dudes who knows what hes doing, and we've been gym partners for the past week.

    Thing is he's a foreigner and doesn't speak English well, and hes going back to Italy June next year. Im also leaving Australia monday week for 3 months to New York.

    Should I confess my feelings to him?


    Oh shug I wouldn't even waste my time. It sounds more like you're trying to invent feelings and a situation in which those feelings would be justified. From the sound of it he gave you no indication that he likes men or that he likes you like that. That should of been your first sign.

    Secondly there are a great many heterosexuals in open relationships. But that doesn't mean he's open to men and unless his profile said interested in men and women you have no reason to think otherwise.
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    Nov 27, 2012 2:59 PM GMT
    Just get it done already. What have you got to lose? He's going back to Italy and you're moving to NYC temporarily, so it's not like you're screwing up a potential long-term relationship.
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    Nov 27, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    bottomasianboy20 said
    Lovehidemelody saidYeah i don't usually do this, but shits been bugging me lately, and would very much like some advice.

    Met this really hot jock in my gym. Worked out with him together after I stroke up the courage to go and say hi to him. He is absolutely divine. Always smiling, a good body didn't do any harm either.

    I asked him out the 2nd time I met him to watch SKYFALL as a "friends thing" and he agreed, and we exchanged numbers. After I checked out his facebook, I see how he is 'in an open relationship with a chick' and got rather disappointed. Didn't really know straight people do open relationships. Thing is he's literally one in a million.

    I give him signs that I like him, a touch, a pat, compliments etc, and he doesn't seem uneasy except he hardly reciprocates.

    We swap workout routines and he's one of those dudes who knows what hes doing, and we've been gym partners for the past week.

    Thing is he's a foreigner and doesn't speak English well, and hes going back to Italy June next year. Im also leaving Australia monday week for 3 months to New York.

    Should I confess my feelings to him?





    You find dating a chick in open relationships one in a million? There are two for the price of one in my block.

    Dont confess you will loose.


    My thoughts exactly.
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    Nov 27, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    He's Italian. Get him now. He has a limited time of being hot. If you leave for 3 months, when you next see him he will be 300 pounds, have hair on his back and 15 children and toe nails the color of the Caspian.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 27, 2012 5:52 PM GMT
    1. It sounds like you've only known this guy for a short time.
    2. You're not even sure if he is gay

    Sounds like a quick way to scare a guy off. You should get to know him better before you drop the bomb.

  • Nov 27, 2012 8:10 PM GMT
    TheAlchemixt said1. It sounds like you've only known this guy for a short time.
    2. You're not even sure if he is gay

    Sounds like a quick way to scare a guy off. You should get to know him better before you drop the bomb.


    Yeah you're right. I seem to get quite attached easily, especially when the guy is jaw droppingly hot.

    Sucks, but looking back and reading what all of you said, he's really not giving me any signs for me to think otherwise of his sexual orientation.

    Angers!!
  • kevmoran

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    Nov 27, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidHe's Italian. Get him now. He has a limited time of being hot. If you leave for 3 months, when you next see him he will be 300 pounds, have hair on his back and 15 children and toe nails the color of the Caspian.


    The asian and italian age cycle eludes me.