I was on my way to my locker on one aisle when I saw a guy with an accidental erection. I doubled back to start a conversation with him so he wouldn't be embarrassed and so he would know I like naked men with erections.
We had a good Platonic conversation, but we exchanged sincerity points with one another.
A coach of gymnastics used to change in the same aisle as I do. He had a body I liked looking at. Obviously, I got to know a little bit about him over the months. One day he was in the Jacuzzi, beautiful as always, and I wanted someone to talk with. So, I did and left. On my way to my car, I remember I had a great article in Life Extension magazine, So, I got it, went back into the health club. went to the Jacuzzi and he was getting out. So, I told him, I wanted to show him something important in the magazine (it may have been the role of magnesium getting through a barrier to the brain to feed it this nutrient to prevent Alzheimer's). So, we sat down on the side of the Jacuzzi, him and his naked body (except for the swimming trunks) and me. The topic of conversation was cutting edge research for which Life Extension is known.
We had a good Platonic conversation, but we bonded.
I was in a Jacuzzi, and I started talking with someone who lived in my building. We had time in our lives to share self-exploration. So, we were sincere with each other as we got to know one another through conversation in the jacuzzi. We also were able to enjoy observing each other's Platonic motions in hot water (which includes getting out of the jacuzzi to turn it on for 5 more minutes).
One weekday morning, we were walking to the subway together back in a time when it wasn't unusual for a truck driver to hang out of the driver's window and call two guys faggots to show off his masculinity and humor his riding buddy in the passenger seat by insulting two guys on the street. With that public ceremony less than petty annoyance which we ignored because we were secure in ourselves, we, one evening, later in the week, made out when we watched a rented movie together at my place.
Watch a mixed martial arts class for a while and see if a guy wants you to take the class with him. That's an icebreaker to more loving isometric exercise with him and also recovery service and time together.
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So, be ready to be sincere. Establish sincere rapport. Make sure you put your underwear on without a bath towel around your waist hiding your hips, buttocks, and penis. Expose your belly, navel, hips, buttocks, penis, biceps, tattoo, pecs, lats, smile, voice: be a mild nudist in the locker room and nonchalant about your healthy nude body, or a nice looking torso at the sink with a towel around your waist. Stay away from guys who want to put on a show in the steam room. Be on guard with exhibitionists. Your attention will not satiate them. Have something inviting and be open to accept Platonic invitations yourself.
There are other things to look for if you want discreet edging, under-the-towel orgasms and edging until you're 100% sure no one is going to catch you shooting a load wherever that may be, solo or with another. I guess it once was fun to edge guys to the point they had to cum behind the shower curtain. That's sort of in-the-closet sort of stuff--a scene I haven't entertained for quite some time.