Finding a bi or gay guy at the gym?

  • tallguy_69

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    Nov 27, 2012 11:03 PM GMT
    Newly bi curious and find a lot of guys attractive at the gym? How do you know they are Bi or Gay? Is there something I can look for? Of course it's obvious sometimes. Also, how can I give a sign that I might be interested or looking?
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    Nov 28, 2012 1:40 AM GMT
    This is tricky! If he is spending more time checking you out than doing his weights, he is probably interested. If he has the shortest shorts in the gym, that MIGHT be a sign too.

    Getting to know and make friends with the guys around you is probably the safest way to gradually find out. It can be really surprising when you find out who is really gay!
  • Medjai

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    Nov 28, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    Grab their crotch and see how they react.
  • calibro

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    Nov 28, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    step 1: grab a kitchen knife.
    step 2: sit on it.
    step 3: repeat as necessary.
  • Medjai

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    Nov 28, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    Is there a weight room section in bathhouses? If so, that's a perfect place to start.
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    Nov 28, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    tallguy_69 saidNewly bi curious and find a lot of guys attractive at the gym? How do you know they are Bi or Gay? Is there something I can look for? Of course it's obvious sometimes. Also, how can I give a sign that I might be interested or looking?


    Wear you new shirt that proudly proclaims "Newly Bi-Curious" that should help right there.

    By the way, how did you discover that you were newly bi-curious? I am thinking of becoming Newly Mormon Curious and I am wondering how I should approach my fellow magic underwear wearing friends.
  • wellwell

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    Nov 28, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    ...It's a good place to go looking. The totally-str8 ones are never "looking around" in the locker room; the not-so-str8 ones stare & check things out a little too much and there is much to be said about direct eye contact.

  • wdbroadus

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    Nov 28, 2012 1:58 AM GMT
    icon_biggrin.gif Good question... lol
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    Nov 28, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    YCYL
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    Nov 28, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    Upon entering the gym there should be a sign like this

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    Nov 28, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    Finally an original thread. Lol

    It's probably been a topic before, but it's actually not a bad question. It seems that at my gym, men (young ones especially/gay or not) give other guys stares constantly, but there's an awkward tension about approaching others out of their comfort zone. After all, it IS a gym, not a bar.

  • 1blind_dog

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    Nov 28, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    There's always the Missed Connections section on Craigslist
  • onefortified

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    Nov 28, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    My Gaydar is probably broken because I can never spot things like this in the gym. I just go and work out.
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    Nov 28, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    calibro saidstep 1: grab a kitchen knife.
    step 2: sit on it.
    step 3: repeat as necessary.


    Ain't nothin more fun than sword swallowing. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 28, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    Incident #1
    I was on my way to my locker on one aisle when I saw a guy with an accidental erection. I doubled back to start a conversation with him so he wouldn't be embarrassed and so he would know I like naked men with erections.

    We had a good Platonic conversation, but we exchanged sincerity points with one another.

    Incident #2
    A coach of gymnastics used to change in the same aisle as I do. He had a body I liked looking at. Obviously, I got to know a little bit about him over the months. One day he was in the Jacuzzi, beautiful as always, and I wanted someone to talk with. So, I did and left. On my way to my car, I remember I had a great article in Life Extension magazine, So, I got it, went back into the health club. went to the Jacuzzi and he was getting out. So, I told him, I wanted to show him something important in the magazine (it may have been the role of magnesium getting through a barrier to the brain to feed it this nutrient to prevent Alzheimer's). So, we sat down on the side of the Jacuzzi, him and his naked body (except for the swimming trunks) and me. The topic of conversation was cutting edge research for which Life Extension is known.

    We had a good Platonic conversation, but we bonded.

    Incident #3
    I was in a Jacuzzi, and I started talking with someone who lived in my building. We had time in our lives to share self-exploration. So, we were sincere with each other as we got to know one another through conversation in the jacuzzi. We also were able to enjoy observing each other's Platonic motions in hot water (which includes getting out of the jacuzzi to turn it on for 5 more minutes).

    One weekday morning, we were walking to the subway together back in a time when it wasn't unusual for a truck driver to hang out of the driver's window and call two guys faggots to show off his masculinity and humor his riding buddy in the passenger seat by insulting two guys on the street. With that public ceremony less than petty annoyance which we ignored because we were secure in ourselves, we, one evening, later in the week, made out when we watched a rented movie together at my place.

    Incident #4
    Watch a mixed martial arts class for a while and see if a guy wants you to take the class with him. That's an icebreaker to more loving isometric exercise with him and also recovery service and time together.

    ~ ~ ~

    So, be ready to be sincere. Establish sincere rapport. Make sure you put your underwear on without a bath towel around your waist hiding your hips, buttocks, and penis. Expose your belly, navel, hips, buttocks, penis, biceps, tattoo, pecs, lats, smile, voice: be a mild nudist in the locker room and nonchalant about your healthy nude body, or a nice looking torso at the sink with a towel around your waist. Stay away from guys who want to put on a show in the steam room. Be on guard with exhibitionists. Your attention will not satiate them. Have something inviting and be open to accept Platonic invitations yourself.

    There are other things to look for if you want discreet edging, under-the-towel orgasms and edging until you're 100% sure no one is going to catch you shooting a load wherever that may be, solo or with another. I guess it once was fun to edge guys to the point they had to cum behind the shower curtain. That's sort of in-the-closet sort of stuff--a scene I haven't entertained for quite some time.

  • tallguy_69

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    Nov 28, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
    so i usually go to the sauna and never have any luck....usually wear a towel and nothing underneath, however today i wore some black calvin klein boxer briefs, nothing too revealing like the underarmour i usually wear....got a few looks but no eye contact.....maybenext time i will wear some white ones with a semi boner
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    Nov 28, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    wellwell said...It's a good place to go looking. The totally-str8 ones are never "looking around" in the locker room; the not-so-str8 ones stare & check things out a little too much and there is much to be said about direct eye contact.


    Uhh I'm gay and I'm not looking the locker room... does that make me partly gay then!?
  • Medjai

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    Nov 28, 2012 4:22 AM GMT
    Steduo said
    wellwell said...It's a good place to go looking. The totally-str8 ones are never "looking around" in the locker room; the not-so-str8 ones stare & check things out a little too much and there is much to be said about direct eye contact.


    Uhh I'm gay and I'm not looking the locker room... does that make me partly gay then!?


    Careful, you're walking a fine line of becoming a breeder.
  • TennisJock10

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    Nov 28, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    You didnt get your ring? Man, whoever sends out these new member packets is slacking!

    You get a ring that flashes in rainbow colors and plays Lady Gaga whenever in the presence of another bi/gay guy. Never go out without mine. Super handy.

    OR

    Actually workout at the gym and NOT troll? icon_eek.gif

    It'll happen if it's gonna happen.
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    Nov 28, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    The easiest way to meet a gay guy at the gym is to tell the guy you're gay. It works most times. They say, "Dude, I am, too." Or, they'll say..."Oh, that's cool, I'm straight, but..no biggy."

    Fags are everywhere in gyms. That's a fact of life.

    It's hard not to cruise at the gym, but, you really need to pay attention to your decorum.

    Many many times, the best solution is the obvious one. Case in point above.

    Many, many, many guys at the gym have hung with guys in the bedroom.

    You're over thinking it.

    Get a face. Shake a hand, or two. Be proud of who you are, and it'll work out just fine.

    Another way (again, this involves getting a face...fuck..you're 28...time to wear your big boy pants) and fire up Grindr, Scruff, Jack'd, Hornet, etc...at the gym. You'll see gay guys all around you.

    Finally....cruising at the gym is creepy. Don't go there.

    No reason in the world you can't develop some social skills, get to know some folks, and, just tell them you're gay. It really is just that simple.
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    Nov 28, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    Medjai said
    Steduo said
    wellwell said...It's a good place to go looking. The totally-str8 ones are never "looking around" in the locker room; the not-so-str8 ones stare & check things out a little too much and there is much to be said about direct eye contact.


    Uhh I'm gay and I'm not looking the locker room... does that make me partly gay then!?


    Careful, you're walking a fine line of becoming a breeder.


    What does even mean?
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    Nov 28, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    I know what it means
  • braynes77

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    Nov 28, 2012 4:44 AM GMT
    After going to the gym one afternoon I received an email from one of the sites I am on. I was surprised to find it was from another member of my gym. We have met up at the gym a few times and gone for coffee , but that is about it.
  • Medjai

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    Nov 28, 2012 4:47 AM GMT
    Steduo said
    Medjai said
    Steduo said
    wellwell said...It's a good place to go looking. The totally-str8 ones are never "looking around" in the locker room; the not-so-str8 ones stare & check things out a little too much and there is much to be said about direct eye contact.


    Uhh I'm gay and I'm not looking the locker room... does that make me partly gay then!?


    Careful, you're walking a fine line of becoming a breeder.


    What does even mean?


    You'll turn straight if you're not carful.
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    Nov 28, 2012 7:43 AM GMT
    tallguy_69 saidNewly bi curious and find a lot of guys attractive at the gym? How do you know they are Bi or Gay? Is there something I can look for?
    Get your gaydar tuned up by a professional, and be sure it's turned on when you go to the gym.