Is this happening to anyone else?

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    Nov 28, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    I've only been here a little while but I've been meeting guys I really liked but as soon as I started to get close to them and get past the small talk stuff I find their profile is hidden or deleted. This has happened to me like two times already and I've barely been here a week, lol.

    Idk it just makes me feel like I'm saying or doing something wrong. Because they seemed perfectly fine before they met me.

    Am I just being Nuerotic?
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    Nov 28, 2012 3:15 AM GMT
    I dont know. I have not talked to anyone in here except sending a very few of them some messages about their posts on some of the forum posts. But I never had any other intentions behind those messages, and so no one blocked me or hid their profile from me.
    I am also relatively new here (because right now I have zero friends in the city I am in, so I joined realjock to have some sort of some gay connection).
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    Nov 28, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    whatever3009 saidI dont know. I have not talked to anyone in here except sending a very few of them some messages about their posts on some of the forum posts. But I never had any other intentions behind those messages, and so no one blocked me or hid their profile from me.
    I am also relatively new here (because right now I have zero friends in the city I am in, so I joined realjock to have some sort of some gay connection).


    Well I wasn't coming off as sleazy. I just followed their lead. Idk I'm just very sensitive so I guess I tend to take things personally. I signed off and then looked at comments he wrote and they are still hidden so I think he just went underground. But I just feel like I came off too strong.
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    Nov 28, 2012 6:04 AM GMT
    If you are sensitive and take things personally, you should really reconsider if RJ is the place for you man........

    You have to have a thick skin to stay here. I've met some of the most amazing gays I know on this site.....but they are dwarfed by the number of self absorbed gym bunnies you will have to sift through to find the few good ones. You have to understand that there isn't much mercy around these parts. People on the forums can be pretty nice, but out in the mysterious beyond......well....
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    Nov 28, 2012 8:18 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidI've only been here a little while but I've been meeting guys I really liked but as soon as I started to get close to them and get past the small talk stuff I find their profile is hidden or deleted. This has happened to me like two times already and I've barely been here a week, lol.

    Idk it just makes me feel like I'm saying or doing something wrong. Because they seemed perfectly fine before they met me.

    Am I just being Nuerotic?
    Yes, you are. And I would wager that you haven't actually "met" them - only had online contact with them. If so, hiding their profile would be a good way for them to to avoid you until you lose interest also.
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    Nov 28, 2012 11:19 AM GMT
    If you have barely been here a week, I think you are drawing conclusions a little too quickly. Just give it time, and take the advice DEKIRUMAN.
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    Nov 28, 2012 11:39 AM GMT
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    whatever3009 saidI dont know. I have not talked to anyone in here except sending a very few of them some messages about their posts on some of the forum posts. But I never had any other intentions behind those messages, and so no one blocked me or hid their profile from me.
    I am also relatively new here (because right now I have zero friends in the city I am in, so I joined realjock to have some sort of some gay connection).


    Well I wasn't coming off as sleazy. I just followed their lead. Idk I'm just very sensitive so I guess I tend to take things personally. I signed off and then looked at comments he wrote and they are still hidden so I think he just went underground. But I just feel like I came off too strong.



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    Nov 28, 2012 1:15 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN saidIf you are sensitive and take things personally, you should really reconsider if RJ is the place for you man........

    You have to have a thick skin to stay here. I've met some of the most amazing gays I know on this site.....but they are dwarfed by the number of self absorbed gym bunnies you will have to sift through to find the few good ones. You have to understand that there isn't much mercy around these parts. People on the forums can be pretty nice, but out in the mysterious beyond......well....


    You have a point. I'm easily fooled by people so this is probably going to happen a lot.
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    Nov 28, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    It is neurotic.

    Online communication is ultimately just a fantasy. I'm confident gay men know and love fantasy more than anyone else. You get a couple of pictures, a brief synopsis, and one conversation to make your ideal conclusion that you 'like' that person. It's like ordering a car through the mail with no test drive-- no one realistically can do that.

    It's fun and romantic to get excited for something that hasn't happened yet-- tomorrow. When you live in tomorrow you'll always lose site of today-- reality.
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    Nov 28, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    deltalimen saidIt is neurotic.

    Online communication is ultimately just a fantasy. I'm confident gay men know and love fantasy more than anyone else. You get a couple of pictures, a brief synopsis, and one conversation to make your ideal conclusion that you 'like' that person. It's like ordering a car through the mail with no test drive-- no one realistically can do that.

    It's fun and romantic to get excited for something that hasn't happened yet-- tomorrow. When you live in tomorrow you'll always lose site of today-- reality.


    Yeah you have a point. Everybody is making such good points. It's not smart to get tied up in one person so quickly especially someone you haven't met in person yet.