Talking to a guy your interested in and who you have never met

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    Nov 28, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    Alright so I definitely am not a shy dude when you get to know me but right now there are two really attractive guys that I think are gay and are hot. One of them is in my beginners weightlifting class and the other works at another department in the same building that I work in. The guy who works downstairs below me is definitely gay and he lives in the same apartment complex as me. I am not a shy person at all but I AM HORRIBLE at striking conversations with people that I have never met. One time i gave my number to this gay guy who was checking my groceries out and he called back but my friends dared me to do that and for me it was awkward. give me some advice guys because I dont have any game when it comes to this.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 28, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
    The one in the beginners weight lifting class - Just go work out on the bench and say excuse me can I get a spot. That's is how I end up talking to people at the gym.

    For your neighbor, just continue to say hi everyday that you see him until he gets used to it and then one day say how's your day going or say something about the weather or ask him if he knows the pool hours.
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    Nov 28, 2012 11:30 PM GMT
    Just saying Hi would be a good start. (Kinda obvious, but hear me out)

    For your neighbor (or whatever you call it) Any time you see him, make a point to just say hi, and wave. Maybe add "How're you doing?" Just start by having short casual conversations. Eventually, you're bound to find something to talk about with him. Maybe if you see him going out for sports, strike up a conversation and casually say "we should play some time" or invite him to get a drink with you. Even try inviting him to your place for a beer. If you work in the same building you may even be able to use that as a way to become aquaintences then friends.

    I recommend TheAlchemixt's advice for the gym, since I honestly have no idea otherwise. Maybe just make small talk again?

    Good Luck.
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    Nov 28, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    93stunner saidAlright so I definitely am not a shy dude when you get to know me but right now there are two really attractive guys that I think are gay and are hot. One of them is in my beginners weightlifting class and the other works at another department in the same building that I work in. The guy who works downstairs below me is definitely gay and he lives in the same apartment complex as me. I am not a shy person at all but I AM HORRIBLE at striking conversations with people that I have never met. One time i gave my number to this gay guy who was checking my groceries out and he called back but my friends dared me to do that and for me it was awkward. give me some advice guys because I dont have any game when it comes to this.


    Well, for the one whose sexuality you are not sure about just be sure not to invite him out for drinks at the pub, have great conversation about sports, travel, movies, books, LIFE, click with him on every level, get a bit too drunk, walk him out to his car after the pub, give him a huge hug and whisper in his ear "there's a new star in the sky for us...", and have him respond in your ear. "Dude, I'm straight.", only to have you try to laugh it off as a joke as your world fractures a little bit and you turn red from embarrassment (which is hard for a dark fellow to do, btw).... Not that it's ever happened or anything. I'm just saying if that is your plan then DON'T DO IT!