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I am sure this post has been done a million times already, but I just wanted to share my story.

I was a junior in college and one of my old roommates moved into a new apartment building She found on craigslist. Well, there was this really cute boy that she shared the flat with. His name was Brennan. He was in his early 20s, 5'8", white but with tan skin, and he had shoulderlength wavy brown hair. He Was a total surfer guy, the cutest face you've ever seen. I would go over to my friends apartment and hang out with all of them, barbecue, shoot the shit. He was a really cool guy to talk to, and we had many good conversations.
He ended up giving me his phone number, and we kept in touch through text message. A few months later he ended up moving out of my friends apartment into a new place. He invited me over, and we started watching a movie, I think it was psycho. We had a couple beers.
The subject came up of gay experiences. He knew that I was gay, and I asked him if he ever did anything with another guy. He told me he never did but that he was interested. My heart was racing like mad. This is the chance, the chance that every gay man dreams of!! I had to take that next step, one small step for man, one giant leap for gay mankind.
We started off by kissing. He was a really good kisser, very slow and sensual. Then he unzipped his pants really quickly, and, the story goes...
We were blowing each other, and, he got off in less than one minute. It was over before I knew it. I asked him how he liked it, and, he said that he still prefers girls and that he probably wouldn't do it again, but he was glad he experienced it.
So, I can proudly say, that I did hook up with a real live straight boy .


Just like my eating a drippy vag when I was 18 does not make me straight, this guy blowing me does not make him gay.

"Probably" wouldn't do it again? If you get enough beers in him, I'm sure he would have changed his mind.

Um ... sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but you still haven't been with a straight guy

The difference between a gay man a straight one is always ALWAYS! a six pack

AMoonHawk saidUm ... sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but you still haven't been with a straight guy

Stop trying to ruin my glory!!!

They can be convinced with money (the easiest way) or if you're their friend and they trust you they may be willing to experiment when drunk.

I'm not sure, OP, that you were with a straight guy though. They're usually not likely to suck cock...

It's easier in other cultures where guys are poorer and where there is an older understanding of manliness.

Yes. This has been a topic a million times. Your experience is unusual. Most guys have already messed around in some way with other guys. I was hooking up with a supposedly straight guy. Except now that he had sex with men he prefers men now. How can't stand women now. But he told me as he was growing up he had no interest in other guys until he had an experience around 40. He's a buff mid western guy but gaining quite a bit of weight now. Haven't seen him in 2 years though.

lol @ people who believe there are hard distinctions between gay and straight; you can convince a straight guy with some money. Easier done in some countries than others.

Who hasn't is the real question we should be asking!

He was curious, I was curious..It didn't do anything for him, It did something for me



We don't talk anymore

A straight friend of mine tries to make out with me a lot and intimately hugs me. I question his sexuality. He is a really good kisser. Nice lips

Oh yeah. I have. More than a few times

Im really curious to as why gay men like, or chase, or brag, about hooking up with a straight guy.

Technically, by definition, a guy who hooks up with guys is either bi or gay. Not straight.

Otherwise, I mean, wtf is a big deal? Who cares about hooking up with someone who isnt attracted too you? Thats a huge part of the turn on for me, if someone is experimenting or not into it, then it just isnt fun.

timshel saidI am sure this post has been done a million times already, but I just wanted to share my story.

not interested

calibro said

timshel saidI am sure this post has been done a million times already, but I just wanted to share my story.

not interested

Umm, right....yet you commented? The story is boring, though.

Supernova_ said

calibro said

timshel saidI am sure this post has been done a million times already, but I just wanted to share my story.

not interested

Umm, right....yet you commented? The story is boring, though.

didn't read the story. sucks for you, bro.

Yeah I did. Back when I was a paramedic, I was going through a rough spot after having lost my boyfriend to a drunk driver. A friend of mine, a cop, was very sympathetic and helped through a lot of it. He reminded me of a straight version of my late boyfriend. Well one night we were just sittin at his place, when I got an urge I didn't fight to start kissing him and it didn't stop there.

The guy is straight from my knowledge still, but hey, it was hot none the less. At the time, I felt like shit though.

Chainers saidIm really curious to as why gay men like, or chase, or brag, about hooking up with a straight guy.

Technically, by definition, a guy who hooks up with guys is either bi or gay. Not straight.

Otherwise, I mean, wtf is a big deal? Who cares about hooking up with someone who isnt attracted too you? Thats a huge part of the turn on for me, if someone is experimenting or not into it, then it just isnt fun.

I want to agree with you, but if you turn the situation around - a guy identifies as gay. Likes sex with men.
But, he ends up fooling around with a woman. They have sex.

Is he now straight or bi?

Probably not - he had sex with a woman but still identifies as gay.

Same with straight guys. They have sex with another guy - but they still identify as straight.

One or two sexual experiences with a member of the same sex does not mean you're gay or bi. It may mean that you're open minded or curious or will try something for the experience. I don't think it changes your sexual identity. If you continue to have sex with members of the same sex THEN you should re-consider your sexual identity.

I do believe that, technically, a guy can have a gay experience and be a straight guy. So, some gay men have had sex with straight men.

Hothouse said

I want to agree with you, but if you turn the situation around - a guy identifies as gay. Likes sex with men.
But, he ends up fooling around with a woman. They have sex.

Is he now straight or bi?

Probably not - he had sex with a woman but still identifies as gay.

Same with straight guys. They have sex with another guy - but they still identify as straight.

...

The reverse isn't a good analogy though. There are no social, political, or evolutionary forces that would cause someone who is straight to feel pressured into being gay. All forces are pushing in the other direction: towards heteronormativity.

I can buy that gay guys fooling around with a girl is just curiosity or something... But a "straight" guy is overcoming a world of pressure against any kind of curiosity to go through with that.

Larkin said

Hothouse said

I want to agree with you, but if you turn the situation around - a guy identifies as gay. Likes sex with men.
But, he ends up fooling around with a woman. They have sex.

Is he now straight or bi?

Probably not - he had sex with a woman but still identifies as gay.

Same with straight guys. They have sex with another guy - but they still identify as straight.

...

The reverse isn't a good analogy though. There are no social, political, or evolutionary forces that would cause someone who is straight to feel pressured into being gay. All forces are pushing in the other direction: towards heteronormativity.

I can buy that gay guys fooling around with a girl is just curiosity or something... But a "straight" guy is overcoming a world of pressure against any kind of curiosity to go through with that.

Agreed!

Larkin said

Hothouse said

I want to agree with you, but if you turn the situation around - a guy identifies as gay. Likes sex with men.
But, he ends up fooling around with a woman. They have sex.

Is he now straight or bi?

Probably not - he had sex with a woman but still identifies as gay.

Same with straight guys. They have sex with another guy - but they still identify as straight.

...

The reverse isn't a good analogy though. There are no social, political, or evolutionary forces that would cause someone who is straight to feel pressured into being gay. All forces are pushing in the other direction: towards heteronormativity.

I can buy that gay guys fooling around with a girl is just curiosity or something... But a "straight" guy is overcoming a world of pressure against any kind of curiosity to go through with that.

you're conflating sex with attraction though. there are men out there who have gay sex for reasons other than the guy. it's not unheard of for a straight man to love sucking cock because of the dominated aspect of it.

Yea in college one night of partying, my roommate and high school buddy walked out of his bedroom in his boxer and said to me, "fuck I am so fucking horny, I wish you like cock" and then went back into his room. I got up walked into his room, over to his bed, pulled the covers back and just took his dick in my mouth for a good bj. He got off, I left and went and jacked off and we never mentioned it. He got married, I got married and life went on. Still best friends.

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Chainers saidIm really curious to as why gay men like, or chase, or brag, about hooking up with a straight guy.

Technically, by definition, a guy who hooks up with guys is either bi or gay. Not straight.

Otherwise, I mean, wtf is a big deal? Who cares about hooking up with someone who isnt attracted too you? Thats a huge part of the turn on for me, if someone is experimenting or not into it, then it just isnt fun.

I ate a vag once. Didn't like it. I'm totes straight bro!

timshel said

Chainers saidIm really curious to as why gay men like, or chase, or brag, about hooking up with a straight guy.

Technically, by definition, a guy who hooks up with guys is either bi or gay. Not straight.

Otherwise, I mean, wtf is a big deal? Who cares about hooking up with someone who isnt attracted too you? Thats a huge part of the turn on for me, if someone is experimenting or not into it, then it just isnt fun.

I ate a vag once. Didn't like it. I'm totes straight bro!

hahah. Love the "totes" reference.