Is it silly?

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:52 AM GMT
    Is it silly to hope and dream for that stereotypical 6'3 muscled beefcake style guy- the jock or military guy or police officer or etc man in uniform who sweeps you off your feel like in all the gay romances which seems to be every gay guy's top drool magnet? Do they actually exist Are there people genuine enough to want average people such as myself (I am special but I am me, you have to accept that)*



    *NOTE* THIS IS NOT A PITY THREAD OR A TROLLING FOR DATES THREAD(Although, if you happen to be interested hit me up icon_razz.gif ) I want honest thought
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    No, it's not silly. Everyone can dream.

    I'm sure they do exist, though the numbers are probably few. And the ones who look for love over perfection are probably even less, but they are out there.

    Don't ever give up on love though.

    For the record, your definitely not average, at least to me. Trust me, you'll be fine.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    I just... it's hard to hope because only certain classes of people are desirable? maybe if that makes sense.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    Nope. Without dreams there is no hope. Without hope then we'd have a much higher suicide rate...thats probably a piss poor analogy but go watch a Disney movie. This thread is reminding me of one.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    graniteknighte saidI just... it's hard to hope because only certain classes of people are desirable? maybe if that makes sense.


    I'm not sure what you mean by classes. Level of income (societal class)?Race? Body class?

    The 2/3 of those can be obtained with hard work. The last ... trust me, you already got it.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidNope. Without dreams there is no hope. Without hope then we'd have a much higher suicide rate.


    +1

    Hope and fantasies are all we have sometimes.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    graniteknighte saidI just... it's hard to hope because only certain classes of people are desirable? maybe if that makes sense.


    Just be the best you that you can be. Become the man you wish to attract.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    Nothing silly about having high expectations, we're typically conditioned to want and expect more. After all, don't most straight guys dream about dating supermodels?

    Unfortunately, the law of averages is working against people who want to date up since they far, far, far exceed the number of people willing to compromise.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    The difference is I don't care who I date as long as I have someone caring icon_razz.gif I was speaking of the stereotypical ideal of the 6'3 beefcake.

    WtD- What I mean by classes is that in society only certain people are desirable, and its true of the gay community too-- You have to be a certain age or body type or so forth, no one gives a damn if you are an average joe with the heart of a teddy bear. but thats whinging icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    Personally I'm not into the beefcakes. I don't care that much about bodies. As long as the person is healthy, has moderately good looks and is a nice person I'm OK with them.
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    Nov 30, 2012 6:25 AM GMT
    graniteknighte saidThe difference is I don't care who I date as long as I have someone caring icon_razz.gif I was speaking of the stereotypical ideal of the 6'3 beefcake.

    WtD- What I mean by classes is that in society only certain people are desirable, and its true of the gay community too-- You have to be a certain age or body type or so forth, no one gives a damn if you are an average joe with the heart of a teddy bear. but thats whinging icon_razz.gif


    Thanks for clearing that up. I know what you mean, and it's not just true of the gay community. Everyone looks for the desirable people.

    You may be a little young, but obviously you'll age into the "desirable class." Most men don't really bloom till their 25s to 30s anyways. As I said before, with hard work, you can get the "desirable" body type too.

    You are a pretty good height too with good eyes and good hair color, so if you ask me, with a little hard work, you'll be pretty sought after in a couple of years. And with a "heart of a teddy bear" you'll probably be pretty wanted.
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    Nov 30, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    I hope so... and I think I need to get to a bigger gay area haha
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    Nov 30, 2012 7:23 AM GMT
    screw being swept off my feet!

    I just wanna meet someone that's decent. Who actually gives a shit about more then what they get out of life and can take a moment to smile about random crap that everyone seems complacent about.

    Today I wore a bright coloured shirt to work for casual day cause it was cool and fun to wear, yes lots of people looked and I bet a lot of people probably went "Oh dear god" But I had fun wearing it.

    Yesterday I laughed randomly because I had a funny thought.

    The day before that I enjoyed te conversation with the lady (joe) who makes my coffee.

    Day before I had a random sad moment because I realised I miss my little brothers. Then I got all cheery when my boss gave me christmas off and I Could go down to Sydney icon_biggrin.gif

    all I seem to find are people who are more intent of being a certain way or having certain things or are very angry or upset about life.

    Gimme a man who's equally happy with enjoying life and the little things that make it good.

    Life is incredible when its good but so many seem to not realise it's the tiny little things that all go together to make it incredible not lots of big things!

    Now, to you... there are lots of guys who are going to look at you and see something that isn't average and they will let you know it.. but sometimes they are going to be very subtle and slow about it. So, take notice of the small things and appreciate them for it.
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    Nov 30, 2012 12:49 PM GMT
    yes
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:09 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidscrew being swept off my feet!

    I just wanna meet someone that's decent. Who actually gives a shit about more then what they get out of life and can take a moment to smile about random crap that everyone seems complacent about.

    Today I wore a bright coloured shirt to work for casual day cause it was cool and fun to wear, yes lots of people looked and I bet a lot of people probably went "Oh dear god" But I had fun wearing it.

    Yesterday I laughed randomly because I had a funny thought.

    The day before that I enjoyed te conversation with the lady (joe) who makes my coffee.

    Day before I had a random sad moment because I realised I miss my little brothers. Then I got all cheery when my boss gave me christmas off and I Could go down to Sydney icon_biggrin.gif

    all I seem to find are people who are more intent of being a certain way or having certain things or are very angry or upset about life.

    Gimme a man who's equally happy with enjoying life and the little things that make it good.

    Life is incredible when its good but so many seem to not realise it's the tiny little things that all go together to make it incredible not lots of big things!

    Now, to you... there are lots of guys who are going to look at you and see something that isn't average and they will let you know it.. but sometimes they are going to be very subtle and slow about it. So, take notice of the small things and appreciate them for it.


    +1
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    Why not just be the hunky guy who sweeps another guy off his feet? Be the rescuer....
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:19 PM GMT
    Myol saidWhy not just be the hunky guy who sweeps another guy off his feet?
    +1

    Works for me. icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:30 PM GMT
    Myol saidWhy not just be the hunky guy who sweeps another guy off his feet? Be the rescuer....


    Yep. There are a lot of openings for that position.

    Haha! Two double entendres in one sentence. It's going to be a great day!
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:57 PM GMT
    Myol saidWhy not just be the hunky guy who sweeps another guy off his feet? Be the rescuer....


    People don't wear signs I wish they did it would make life easier I dont have gaydar icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 30, 2012 6:12 PM GMT
    It's probably the reason I'm still single to be honest.

    He doesn't need to sweep me off my feet or be a supermodel, but I secretly want to be a 50's housewife and do a guy's laundry and cook for him and be delicate. And maybe be a secretary if we need extra money, and crochet EVERYTHING.

    But unfortunately that's not an option in 2012 so I'll just stick to being lonely and having lots of cats.
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    Nov 30, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    LOL @post above me. #precious #toocute Funny I want to be a stay at home dad. #lifegoal when im in my 30's I hope. And to the OP, I don't think that will happen often, maybe once a year maybe to some lucky person. But I too will stay happy alone but not with cats but with my future pig #porkchop
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    Nov 30, 2012 7:13 PM GMT
    Well one you aren't average looking. You've got a nice body.

    And secondly gay fiction is fiction for a reason. Don't hope for a fantasy but rather just aim for something more attainable.
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    Nov 30, 2012 7:13 PM GMT
    kevmoran saidIt's probably the reason I'm still single to be honest.

    He doesn't need to sweep me off my feet or be a supermodel, but I secretly want to be a 50's housewife and do a guy's laundry and cook for him and be delicate. And maybe be a secretary if we need extra money, and crochet EVERYTHING.

    But unfortunately that's not an option in 2012 so I'll just stick to being lonely and having lots of cats.


    You'd look good in some pearls and high heels.
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    Nov 30, 2012 7:30 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidYou'd look good in some pearls and high heels.

    For real! Rubber gloves and a housecoat is pretty much my uniform as it is.
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    Nov 30, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
    You can dream about anything but what's more important is that you can differentiate between your dream and reality. There's nothing to say that your 'perfect' man won't happen but if you box yourself into a very narrow stereotypical type (or even not stereotypical) you're most likely setting yourself up for a big disappointment when the man in shining armor never rides in on his white horse!

    You should instead widen your parameters to include your dream man but with boundaries beyond that are acceptable. As you mature, you'll learn that there are characteristics and mannerisms in a person that are non-negotiable for you but there are others that, although they aren't in sync with your dream man, you find less of an issue because you've learned that emotions such as caring, loving, supporting and the like, trump the exterior package and create a dream man that will remain for a life time.

    You're not being silly in your dream, you're being pretty 'normal' for a guy your age, I think. I think we all had that perfect man in mind but the problem some guys have is that when reality comes to be, the person(s) they date can never meet the high expectations set and so they're continually rejected and the dream man is just that....the dream of a very lonely single man with no one to love icon_sad.gif