Wow, never expected this to happen!

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    Nov 30, 2012 7:37 AM GMT
    Around last summer, I came out to my group of friends. It was a big first step for me, since I was very secretive about it before.

    Now flash forward to today and something really unexpected happened. Not one, not two, but three of the people in my group of friends came out and told me they were also gay. They all knew beforehand and wanted to meet up to tell me. This completely caught me off guard. I always thought of them as my "straight buddies" that I chill, drink, and play video games with. I thought they were joking at first, but then the conversation got more serious so I knew they were telling the truth.

    Has anything like this ever happened to you guys? I'm just thinking, what are the chances that I randomly meet these guys and become friends with, who also happen to be gay?

    So much for being the token gay person in the group haha
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 30, 2012 7:43 AM GMT
    LOL ... sounds like you found yourself some good friends.
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    Nov 30, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    The funny thing is that two of them were dating each other, so I guess they both already told each other a long time ago??

    I don't think I can ever hook up with my friends even though I know they're gay. We've known each other for a really long time and it'll just be too weird if something like that happened.
  • kevmoran

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    Nov 30, 2012 7:59 AM GMT
    I've had a similar thing recently with high school friends. Turns out my main beard was a lesbian...
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    Nov 30, 2012 8:19 AM GMT
    not_superman saidYour main beard was a lesbian? I'm too basic to understand what that means.
    It means two gay people of opposite gender posed as a couple to convince people they were straight.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 30, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    Sounds like you made being gay popular in your clique, your unknowingly converting them each one by one!
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    Just proves the old adage that "Birds of a feather flock together." That's all.
  • Latenight30

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    Nov 30, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    It is catching, it rubbed off from you to your friends.

    Congrats. Glad you have a good circle to rely on.
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    TheAlchemixt saidSounds like you made being gay popular in your clique, your unknowingly converting them each one by one!

    That's the gay super power!

    I think you became friends because you shared this big thing, even though you weren't ready to admit it to each other (or yourselves) and had no gaydar yet.
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    bhp91126 said
    TheAlchemixt saidSounds like you made being gay popular in your clique, your unknowingly converting them each one by one!

    That's the gay super power!

    I think you became friends because you shared this big thing, even though you weren't ready to admit it to each other (or yourselves) and had no gaydar yet.


    Correction. It's not that they didn't have gaydar it's just that they didn't recognize that they had gaydar.
  • mybud

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    Nov 30, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    Sometimes it takes a guy with some courage to help others realize themselves...You were that courage...you were that force...All the best man.
  • ATXnative

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    Nov 30, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    you turned them gay! ITS CONTAGIOUS!!
  • mr_bijae

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
    mybud saidSometimes it takes a guy with some courage to help others realize themselves...You were that courage...you were that force...All the best man.


    +1
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:27 PM GMT
    ATXnative saidyou turned them gay! ITS CONTAGIOUS!!


    They should add that to the Pandemic App - Gay Disease

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:29 PM GMT
    Lol wow that's great for you. I wish I had a support group of gay friends like that. For one there would be attractive men of my orientation who I know for a fact arent assholes.
  • PR_GMR

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    Did you give 'it' to them or something? It must be a gay epidemic!! icon_razz.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:37 PM GMT
    Well good for you... now you have more to talk about, which can be helpful as you delve into more gay topics and the scene.

    Never has happened to me, but I would expect it is very helpful to you.
    Congrats for taking the step and coming out first!
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidDid you give 'it' to them or something? It must be a gay epidemic!! icon_razz.gif


    It's a Gaydemic, I can see straight people running for the hills!
  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 30, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    Yeah, happened to me, too, though long ago when being gay was hard to be open about. Right after college, my running group in Savannah, guys and girls, used to do everything together. One I thought was gay but he moved away and disappeared (sad to say, we suspect died of AIDS- THAT was going on then), but the rest ended up married and having kids. Later, three or four of the seven or eight did finally come out. Yup, birds of a feather.... But I agree with you that for some reason, I can't get turned on by guys that I perceive to be straight friends first. Probably just closet case training. I'm out and open now.
  • in_this_corne...

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    Nov 30, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    Yeah, I definitely experienced this in college. I established a good group of friends the first couple years and I was pretty much the first to come out. In the subsequent year, about 6 of them (one at a time, but in a SHORT period of time) pulled me aside to 'talk about something'. Mind you, I was an RA and around a lot of people very regularly and made a lot of friends. A couple of them might have needed a little tough love, but inevitably came flying out of the closet.

    To this day on rare occasions when we get together to reminisce, they always recall that time when we had the talks and how over their hemming and hawing I became. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 30, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
    Within the first 3 months of me coming out 4 people that I was friends with came out to me. Same with another friend of mine. People a lot of times are looking for someone that they can relate to when they are going through the tough situation of accepting themselves.
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    Nov 30, 2012 8:18 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    bhp91126 said
    TheAlchemixt saidSounds like you made being gay popular in your clique, your unknowingly converting them each one by one!

    That's the gay super power!

    I think you became friends because you shared this big thing, even though you weren't ready to admit it to each other (or yourselves) and had no gaydar yet.


    Correction. It's not that they didn't have gaydar it's just that they didn't recognize that they had gaydar.

    Your "birds of a feather" quote was the best explanation of what happened.
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    Nov 30, 2012 8:31 PM GMT
    i did that and 3 of my straight buddies immediately got down on their knees to suck me.... each on three different occasions. Now they all are getting married icon_eek.gif

    I guess you could call me their Good Luck Chuck
  • TheIStrat

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    Nov 30, 2012 8:37 PM GMT
    You should be proud of yourself for coming out and being an example to your friends who were emboldened by your actions.
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    This has never happened to me, though a few of my old friends may be gay. (There were some signs) I guess I may find out in a couple of years.