Is "Gaydar" real?

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    Nov 30, 2012 9:53 AM GMT
    I'm not sure I believe in “gaydar.” Most of my gay friends tell me that “gaydar” is a sort of innate radar that helps identify other gay men. Is gaydar for real? And what are the signs that a man is gay? (Aside from the men who walk like runway models, or guys who carry shopping bags in the crooks of their arms like your Mom carries her purse, or even those who flail their arms and hands and shrill voices.)
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 30, 2012 10:28 AM GMT
    My gaydar is not that great but I think some people do have the natural ability to tell if someone is gay or not.

    Because I don't have gaydar , I now use my secret fullproof method of telling if someone is gay. I just buy them a six pack of beer and see where it goes from there! icon_twisted.gif

    I mean who can say no to free liquor? I sure as hell can't!
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    Nov 30, 2012 10:37 AM GMT
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:12 AM GMT
    #1 sign that a man is gay: Homophobia.

    Buy him beer and that homophobia suddenly turns into homohappiness.
  • SubBttmBoy

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    Nov 30, 2012 11:28 AM GMT
    I'm a straight-acting guy in public. But there have been times I'm out with friends(still iin the closet fyi) and I'll get a lot of sexual looks from random guys at bars.

    Maybe it's real I guess?
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    Nov 30, 2012 12:33 PM GMT
    AleksandrD saidI'm not sure I believe in “gaydar.” Most of my gay friends tell me that “gaydar” is a sort of innate radar that helps identify other gay men. Is gaydar for real? And what are the signs that a man is gay? (Aside from the men who walk like runway models, or guys who carry shopping bags in the crooks of their arms like your Mom carries her purse, or even those who flail their arms and hands and shrill voices.)


    I have no gaydar. Well, except for those who are prancing and/or sashaying down the street. (No judgments)
  • Aodhan

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    Nov 30, 2012 12:38 PM GMT
    ^like red said, there are gay guys out there more obvious and open about being gay but with those closeted or more reserved I try and guess.

    But I always notice the difference in stares, if he stares that bit longer with a bit of interest in his expression, then I automatically think he is gay.
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    Nov 30, 2012 1:13 PM GMT
    After reading comments on RJ over the years, I think "Gaydar" is just a theory based on 3 assumptions:
    1) Femininity significantly increases the chances that a guy is gay. (Guys who like girls tend to adapt their behavior in a way so that they can attract females beyond the "friend zone")
    2) Delayed eye contact means a guy is potentially into us. (This is independent of our attraction to them)
    3) A willingness to believe that most guys are at least a little curious, especially the homophobic ones.


  • Karl

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    Nov 30, 2012 1:17 PM GMT
    whoever looks handsome is gay in my eyes ♡(*´∀`*)人(*´∀`*)♡
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Nov 30, 2012 1:39 PM GMT
    One example of dozens why I believe there is something to it:

    I got the vibe from a doctor in his office. Later that evening a gay friend of mine confirmed that he had sex with him (albeit the doctor is in hetero marriage and has 6 kids).
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:00 PM GMT
    Yeah, there's such a thing as a gaydar.

    Usually it happens on a subconscious level, we pick up on subtle signals, things like eye contact, posture and body language.

    Have you noticed how attractive people seem to get better service? Its not all that different, we're programmed to behave differently to people we find attractive, and that is sometimes the mechanism we use to "broadcast" to other gay men.. whether we intend it or no.

    Its an interesting topic..
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:02 PM GMT
    paulflexes said#1 sign that a man is gay: Homophobia.

    Buy him beer and that homophobia suddenly turns into homohappiness.


    That's funny, because I've always believed that ANYONE can be had after a six pack!
  • onefortified

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    Nov 30, 2012 2:15 PM GMT
    If it exists I don't have it. Can't really tell unless its obvious.
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:24 PM GMT
    Yes, I believe it is real. People have an innate ability to read faces. I believe there is an article about this in Pschology Today.
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    smudgetool said
    paulflexes said#1 sign that a man is gay: Homophobia.

    Buy him beer and that homophobia suddenly turns into homohappiness.


    That's funny, because I've always believed that ANYONE can be had after a six pack!
    Yeah but I don't want "anyone" - just the guys with a six pack. icon_razz.gif
  • Gym_1978

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    Nov 30, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    My gaydar is more like wishful thinking . icon_razz.gif
  • Lanter

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    Nov 30, 2012 3:05 PM GMT
    I have used muscle testing and kinesiology to find out all sorts of information including sexuality about people. It really is almost like an all access pass to all kinds of information.
  • Trauts

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    I'm not really sure myself, but my friends sure do think that gaydar is real. They always come to me every time they wanna know if a guy is gay or not. 90% of the time, I'm correct. Gay psychic... just saying...
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:37 PM GMT
    My research says it does exist.

    Shelp, S. G. (2002). Gaydar: Visual detection of sexual orientation among gay and straight men. Journal of Homosexuality. 44(1). 1-14.

    Abstract

    Currently, American gay people believe they have a unique ability to pick each other out in a crowd (often termed "gaydar" ["gay" + "radar"]). This was established through a nationwide Internet-mediated survey (n = 460). To test for the presence of this ability in gay men, the researcher asked self-identified gay and straight male participants to view a series of unfamiliar men on videotape and determine the sexual orientation of each. The higher overall accuracy of gay men demonstrated a trend level difference from their straight cohorts although falling short (primarily due to small sample size) of the p < 0.05 level. A theory for the emergence of this skill (termed "Adaptive Gaydar" by the author) as a unique perceptual ability/coping mechanism uinique among gay people is also presented.
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    AleksandrD saidIs "Gaydar" real? [...]

    Absolutely. Even straight people can have it.
    It's a part of ones' natural sensitivity. It can be developed, sharpened, and calibrated by understanding ones' experiences.
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:57 PM GMT
    Gaydar exists. And I think I have a pretty good one. In general as well I am pretty good at reading people straight/gay doesnt matter.

    So far in my life I have never been wrong in identifying somebody as gay. I dont know how to explain it but it's my instinct, and so far it has never failed me.

    I still remember instances when I have been ridiculed for it, I was at my cousin's party and there was this football jock, all muscles and manly. At the end of the party when everybody left I said to my cousin that I think he is gay, she laughed at me and said that the guy plays college football and is actually a well known playboy. Well 6-7 months passed and one day my cousin called me and said that playboy's girlfriend caught him in the act with another dude, and that the dude has admitted he goes both ways.

    Another time I was going to NYC with my gay friends and there were two other dudes in the bus as well and I said to my friends that those two are gay. And one of my friends who is kind of jealous of my gaydar tells me "Is it your gaydar again?" in a very condescending tone. 3 weeks later we see those two guys in a gay bar in Philadelphia dancing and having fun.

    One of my best friends (gay) has no gaydar, and he always asks me how I am able to do it so right, but I dont know how to explain it, eye contact is a part of it but it's not everything.

    All I am saying is when I know it, I know it. But there have also been instances where I never thought that the dude would turn out to be gay and he did.

    I am not saying I can identify every single gay man or I can do it in seconds, what I am saying is when my instincts have told me somebody is gay, then that dude has always turned out to be gay or at least bisexual.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    I have perfected my gaydar with a 99.99% chance of successfully identifying a homo.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:11 PM GMT
    AleksandrD saidI'm not sure I believe in “gaydar.” Most of my gay friends tell me that “gaydar” is a sort of innate radar that helps identify other gay men. Is gaydar for real? And what are the signs that a man is gay? (Aside from the men who walk like runway models, or guys who carry shopping bags in the crooks of their arms like your Mom carries her purse, or even those who flail their arms and hands and shrill voices.)
    According to psychologists, yes it is real. I saw a Psychology magazine at the store a couple weeks ago discussing what a person's face and body reveals to the world. We subconsciously, in fractions of a second pick up certain cues from facial expressions, facial symmetry, body language, etc. The article discussed the concept of "gaydar", and said most people when looking at pictures of people, could fairly predictably tell who is gay and who isn't. Lesbians had the most accurate responses, followed by gay men, and then straights. Gays pick up other gay cues a bit more accurately than straights, but even straights can guess it at least half the time.

    So yes, I'd say gaydar exists. Some people are just more adept at picking up these subconscious cues than others.
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    Nov 30, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    Gym_1978 saidMy gaydar is more like wishful thinking . icon_razz.gif



    +1


    I rarely am any good at spotting the queers in their habitats so I don't put much thought into it.... I am much better at spotting muscles icon_biggrin.gif so that is where my focus is at almost all the time.
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    Nov 30, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    Gym_1978 saidMy gaydar is more like wishful thinking . icon_razz.gif


    That's because lust and horniness interfere with the accuracy of gaydar.