AleksandrD saidI'm not sure I believe in “gaydar.” Most of my gay friends tell me that “gaydar” is a sort of innate radar that helps identify other gay men. Is gaydar for real? And what are the signs that a man is gay? (Aside from the men who walk like runway models, or guys who carry shopping bags in the crooks of their arms like your Mom carries her purse, or even those who flail their arms and hands and shrill voices.)
According to psychologists, yes it is real. I saw a Psychology magazine at the store a couple weeks ago discussing what a person's face and body reveals to the world. We subconsciously, in fractions of a second pick up certain cues from facial expressions, facial symmetry, body language, etc. The article discussed the concept of "gaydar", and said most people when looking at pictures of people, could fairly predictably tell who is gay and who isn't. Lesbians had the most accurate responses, followed by gay men, and then straights. Gays pick up other gay cues a bit more accurately than straights, but even straights can guess it at least half the time.
So yes, I'd say gaydar exists. Some people are just more adept at picking up these subconscious cues than others.