Turning into your parents

  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 30, 2012 10:22 AM GMT
    As you get older do you find that you are becoming more and more like your parents? I'm pretty sure at one point we told ourselves that we would NEVER become like them but I think that many people do. Are you one of these people? Do you now look like your father or have habits similar to that of your parents?

    I have found that everyone is starting to say that I look just like my dad (Of course I look like a cooler and more suave version of him though). I have also noticed that my dad and I have the same sense of humor and that we both use the toilet in the same way (this is by accident). icon_eek.gif I'm not ready to be like my dad just yet aghhhh.
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:14 AM GMT
    I'm getting more and more opposite of my parents...both my birth parents and adopted parents.

    They all enjoy a sedentary lifestyle in the woods, with occasional vacations to the city.

    I enjoy an active lifestyle in the city, with occasional vacations to the woods (camping, hiking, etc).
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:18 AM GMT
    Yes. I'm similar to both of them mainly my mother but each of their traits

    Father - Temper, toughness, don't take shit approach

    Mother - Kind hearted, friendliness, sass mouth, hot grit throwin
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    Nov 30, 2012 12:24 PM GMT
    It happens to all of us the more you fight it the more you become one of them, generally the one that annoys you the most icon_lol.gif

  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Nov 30, 2012 1:32 PM GMT
    I'm too young to really tell but I don't think I'll be much like them.
    Father: over protective and super religious, disliked him, set my curfew as 10:30 until I was 18
    Mother: over protective and religious too, always thinks I'm doing bad things with my friends, like when I come home at night she is like "give me a hug before you go sleep" and she disguises is as a smell for drugs or alcohol.

    Basically I don't think I'll be like them, I feel like their overprotective and religious views hurt me socially, they still push religion on me to the point that its shoved into my face. I'm glad to be college where I'm away from them.
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    Nov 30, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    I recall having a discussion with one of my nephews when he was screwing up and mid talk I heard my step-dad in my own voice for the first time. Word for word what he would have said. He was so right in that regard and I remain lucky to have his voice in my head.

    I've always been a lot like my mom--we were great friends--so there's no turning into her; I'm already there. Though she was way more positive, unrealistically so as far as I could tell, and overly enthusiasic about just about every aspect of life--one of those people who lit up a room--so I'll never be that. My brother embodies her occasional denial and sometimes avoidance patterns. I recognize those can be tools to make for a more functional life but I am doomed to embrace both the real and esoteric even if it tends to fuck me up sometimes regarding practical aspects of living about which mom was and my brother is so much more adept. I admire them both.

    Though dad has some very good qualities particularly concerning empathy and compassion, and I think many of those have been imparted upon me, I more often strive to be not like him particularly in regard to how he has internalized the damage his family did to him when he was a kid, clinging to bitterness preventing him from fully knowing himself. It's sad to see and I try to help him through it but those wounds run deep.

    Where I divert mostly from my parents is a direction I was born to as a conscious dreamer,the exploration of the self. Even though mom explored herself with all sorts of therapy and meditation throughout her life--truly transcending the thinking of her generation--she never went as far as she might have and admitted to me that she just couldn't go there. She knew there was more but she feared opening her eyes that widely, while I can not help but to explore and as best I can expand consciousness. It is my greatest love.

    If I wind up as she did with Alzheimer's, if I turn into that, life will have extracted from me the greatest price. I don't know how I might react at the time as there is only a small window of opportunity to exit early, but I think now that I would kill myself to prevent me from becoming my mom at the end of her life. My last act embracing mom's avoidance.
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:17 PM GMT
    If I ever do, please someone shoot me and put me out of my misery
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    Not at all.
  • Pontifex

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:24 PM GMT
    Nope. I don't see it.
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:27 PM GMT
    TheAlchemixt saidand that we both use the toilet in the same way


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    Nov 30, 2012 4:28 PM GMT
    My parents are pure distilled evil.

    They look nice.

    And have a fleet of REALLY nice cars.

    But they have never done a truly decent thing in their lives.
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    I'm pretty similar to my mom (not in physical features, but personalities).

    We both are pretty much realistic people who want to strive in our careers.
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    I used to think I wasnt. I used to think I was such a free thinker, and I separated from the upbringing I had.

    Then I woke up one day from my blinding but comfortable denial.
  • MikeW

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    To save Tink's life I promised Peter I wouldn't grow up. I haven't.

    I have grown old(er) but it could be worse.

    So, no. Not at all like my parents. Not. At. All.
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    I'm getting to be a bit like my dad but thankfully the situation is in hand. I'm controlling what parts of his persona I adopt. His professionalism and solid-mindedness when it comes to working is one of my favorite things that I'm inheriting but I still have my aunt and grandmother's wonderful social attitude.
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:46 PM GMT
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    Cash saidMy parents are pure distilled evil.

    They look nice.

    And have a fleet of REALLY nice cars.

    But they have never done a truly decent thing in their lives.

    Yikes.


    LOL

    not a big deal.

    They would agree.

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    Nov 30, 2012 4:48 PM GMT

    We haven't turned into OUR parents, but we have become pretty parental. icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 30, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    ^^^ The TRUE ROYALTY of RJ ^^^

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    Nov 30, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
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    TheAlchemixt saidand that we both use the toilet in the same way


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    Yeah, I'm still trying to figure this one out. What exactly do you and your dad do to the toilet? Hmmm....maybe I don't want to know! icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 30, 2012 8:14 PM GMT
    hope so
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    Nov 30, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    Not even close.

    Although one time I found an old picture of me dressed up for a play (did a bunch back in high school) and it really freaked me out. I could not remember that picture or even which play it was from!

    It turned out to be a picture of my dad in the army, taken from juuust the right angle.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 30, 2012 9:44 PM GMT
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    unfounded7 said
    TheAlchemixt saidand that we both use the toilet in the same way


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    Yeah, I'm still trying to figure this one out. What exactly do you and your dad do to the toilet? Hmmm....maybe I don't want to know! icon_redface.gif


    Lol, It's the simple way we position our pants, some people like to pull their pants down all the way to their ankles, some like to keep it to their knees and some like to keep it at thigh level which is me and my dad.

    I have watched many people take shits before and this is due to being out in the field in the USMC and I notice these types of things. I also notice that some people like to fold their toilet paper into weird shapes before they wipe their asses. Some like to rip off each individual sheet of paper, some like to wrap it around in a circle, some like to fold it over to overlap, and some like to just grab whatever they can and go. I have a thing for details.
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    Nov 30, 2012 10:01 PM GMT
    I have quite a few traits from both of my parents, but I have plenty of my own too. One thing's for sure, all three of us share very few common interests and taste buds!

    Then again, I don't think it's such a bad thing because I'm close to my parents and have always admired them. They're far from perfect, but the good qualities they possess have always carried more weight.

    The only habit I wouldn't want to copy is my dad's financial skills. For someone who claims to be a tightwad, he's actually more of a wasteful spender than he realizes.
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    Nov 30, 2012 10:37 PM GMT
    I exactly look like my dad when he was in his 50's , no problem i am sure i am his ..Hahahaha... I also got his social abitlies and i wish i also had gotten his laid back way of life .
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    Dec 01, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    I am a blend.
    I am maturing in the cask.
    The final result is not yet known.

    Care for a sip?