Emotional mess and upset

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    Nov 30, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    12 year breakup and then 3 years not dating or being serious about a guy and then I met a guy I fell hard for and after 4 months of dating we ended it today.. I will admit I fell hard and fast for him and damn this is so hard. Yeah there were issues and I'm hopeless romantic at heart, give and give and I can't and don't understand the games gay guys play.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 30, 2012 9:53 PM GMT
    SMG, I'm really sorry to hear that icon_cry.gif but don't worry man you'll be okay. It's just going to take some time; It's going to be hard but it just takes time man!
  • PR_GMR

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    Nov 30, 2012 10:04 PM GMT
    Oh, No, man! The big guy whose picture you posted sometime ago? Very sorry to hear. Breakups are terrible, regardless of how many of them you've overcome in the past.

    Stay strong. Let out those feelings of hurt productively and don't contact him. Give yourself time to grieve.
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    Nov 30, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    I'm going to teach you a trick, wait i forgot the trickicon_neutral.gif
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    Nov 30, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    I'm a survivor and tough, just hate the broken heart feeling... Support of friends is making me upset as they are telling me "I warned you" I feel stupid as I didn't listen to my gut feelings and put on a show that all was OK.. I'm an all in kinda guy and think I'm done with dating as this has rocked my core belief system and making me take closer look at who I am and what I want
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    Nov 30, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
    I know it's such a pussy thing to do and something girls do but maybe you should have a REALLY REALLY good cry. Just let it all out.
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    Nov 30, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    archon saidI'm going to teach you a trick, wait i forgot the trickicon_neutral.gif

    You are an idiot, yes, you are.


    shut up, can't u see I'm trying to remember a trickicon_mad.gif

    mardito vieho feoicon_razz.gificon_razz.gif
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    Nov 30, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidI know it's such a pussy thing to do and something girls do but maybe you should have a REALLY REALLY good cry. Just let it all out.

    Oh man you have no idea. Called my GM at work and told him what was happening and he was so cool, "you'll find another bear" you need a couple days off? How cool is that from a straight boss?
  • DanOmatic

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    Nov 30, 2012 10:34 PM GMT
    Just lean into it, man. Don't waste time thinking about woulda-shoulda scenarios. When the time is right, some lessons will crystalize that will help you grow from the experience.
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:14 PM GMT
    ok here is the trick i was going to teach you

    its the mental law of neutralization, that is never to be at one end of the pole but stay in the middle of the rythm.

    if u do that you will be happy only by willing it, instead of being pulled back an forth by the cause and effects of othersicon_wink.gif
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:20 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear.

    Keep yourself busy and around people. As you said, you're a fighter -you'll get through this.
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:30 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear, I know how that feels!
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Nov 30, 2012 11:33 PM GMT
    archon saidok here is the trick i was going to teach you

    its the mental law of neutralization, that is never to be at one end of the pole but stay in the middle of the rythm.

    if u do that you will be happy only by willing it, instead of being pulled back an forth by the cause and effects of othersicon_wink.gif


    Archon that is a great law, what book did you get this from?
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:34 PM GMT
    I think it's an attractive quality that a guy is capable of becoming an emotional mess over another guy. It seems an eventual response to callous over and become cold, hard and join in with the gameplaying.

    Try to stay warm, cushy and direct.
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:37 PM GMT
    Man, so sorry to hear you're going through this... sometimes friends mean well, when they say things about the other guy, not realizing it actually intensifies the situation for you.... I really believe it's great that you've come here to seek support. It's a helluvalot better than sulking on your pillow.. You'll have to allow the grieving, of course.. which is never easy. On the other hand, Just don't close yourself off to future possibilities of love in the future, like so many do, which ultimately creates the paradox you find yourself in, now.icon_cry.gif.. Having allowed yourself to become vulnerable enough to actually fall in love, even though in a short time is his loss, not yours. There are many of us out here that are hopeless romantics. I'm just not clear on why none of us ever seem to connect so easily. Well, we're cheering for ya! here for ya! You deserve nothing less than the love you truly desire my friend.. Roc icon_wink.gif
    un abbraccio fortissimo!! ( a great big HUG)..
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:43 PM GMT
    shortmuscleguy saidI'm a survivor and tough, just hate the broken heart feeling... Support of friends is making me upset as they are telling me "I warned you" I feel stupid as I didn't listen to my gut feelings and put on a show that all was OK.. I'm an all in kinda guy and think I'm done with dating as this has rocked my core belief system and making me take closer look at who I am and what I want
    I had a similar situation last year. I dated a guy that EVERYONE hated and warned me about. My family became outwardly adversarial with me and him. My mother would not look or speak to him when there was only her, my dad, my then boyfriend and myself.
    Was HORRIBLE!
    Bottom line is that your love life is YOUR choice, no one elses. And if you don't stand by the person you love then you shouldn't be with them at all.
    You did nothing wrong, he just wasn't the right person for you.
    Don't give up... and most importantly don't beat yourself up.
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    Nov 30, 2012 11:45 PM GMT
    archon saidok here is the trick i was going to teach you

    its the mental law of neutralization, that is never to be at one end of the pole but stay in the middle of the rythm.

    if u do that you will be happy only by willing it, instead of being pulled back an forth by the cause and effects of othersicon_wink.gif


    I love that;-)
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    Dec 01, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    TheAlchemixt said
    archon saidok here is the trick i was going to teach you

    its the mental law of neutralization, that is never to be at one end of the pole but stay in the middle of the rythm.

    if u do that you will be happy only by willing it, instead of being pulled back an forth by the cause and effects of othersicon_wink.gif


    Archon that is a great law, what book did you get this from?


    it is not from a book, it is one of the 7 principals of the hermetic philosophy, once u understand the 7 principal the entire universe will be under your common,m you will know and do things that the masses of people can only dream oficon_wink.gif

    and u call yourself an Alchemixticon_wink.gif
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Dec 01, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidI know it's such a pussy thing to do and something girls do but maybe you should have a REALLY REALLY good cry. Just let it all out.


    What's pussy about a man having a good cry?
    Everyone needs to release emotion. Even men.
  • calibro

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    Dec 01, 2012 1:28 AM GMT
    i'm sure there's another walking steroid out there on a cruise ship you can bump uglies with
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    calibro saidi'm sure there's another walking steroid out there on a cruise ship you can bump uglies with

    Miss Congeniality strikes again
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
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    calibro saidi'm sure there's another walking steroid out there on a cruise ship you can bump uglies with

    Miss Congeniality strikes again


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    Dec 01, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    bhp91126 said
    calibro saidi'm sure there's another walking steroid out there on a cruise ship you can bump uglies with

    Miss Congeniality strikes again


    I won Miss America, not Miss Congeniality.icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 01, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    bhp91126 said
    calibro saidi'm sure there's another walking steroid out there on a cruise ship you can bump uglies with

    Miss Congeniality strikes again


    I won Miss America, not Miss Congeniality.icon_cool.gif


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  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 01, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    calibro saidi'm sure there's another walking steroid out there on a cruise ship you can bump uglies with


    Uncalled for.