The best Christmas present is no present

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    Nov 30, 2012 11:46 PM GMT
    What I want for Christmas is to not have to shop for anyone else's presents. Even though in the past, being the youngest, I usually come out with more than I spent, I would much rather scrap the morning of opening presents to avoid shopping. I'm appealing to my family this year to go along with this but all it takes is one person's disobedience to cause a chain reaction of gift giving.

    Are you on team No Presents? And would your family go along with it?
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    Dec 01, 2012 12:09 AM GMT
    The only reason I don't like giving/receiving gifts is because I know no one can afford it.

    My dad's side of the family would die before not giving presents. My mom's family doesn't really do gifts.

    I get a gift then hear how my aunt had to go into her retirement fund to pay for it. What the hell? Either don't give a gift or don't guilt me afterward. (Preferably the first)

    Unless you can honestly afford it, don't do it. But I do like the idea of giving gifts. There's gotta be some holiday cheer around Christmas. icon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif
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    Dec 01, 2012 12:25 AM GMT
    My family and I are on the "no presents" team.
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    Dec 01, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    Awww, HELL NO!
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    Dec 01, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    Giving gifts is the best part of Christmas! I love thinking of really special/interesting stuff to give to the people on my list.
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    Dec 01, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    Love no gifts. Had this policy with my parents for a couple of years now and love it. Ditto with my brother. the only one to get something is my niece, and the shopping is usually done by my sil, i just give them the money. It's the greatest gift to be able to stay out of the stores and away from all the X-mas kitsch.
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    Dec 01, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    It's great being creative and giving gifts that people know I made especially for them. My lord, the idea of gong to a store and purchasing some sort of Chinese made crap for someone is retarded.
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    You can give someone gifts any time of the year when it's convenient for you and for them to start using them.

    And most of the stuff I put on my list is more work for them to find & buy than for me to do it myself. Computer parts for example, they'll spend 10 minutes more trying to find the right one where I could pick it out in 8 seconds.

    Just wasted extra effort & time just for this simultaneous moment of exchange. Bah humbug.
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    I finally got my family into the no gift zone.

    I think my sister-in-law spotted their last four years of gifts, unopened, at my garage sale. Oops.
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    Coach_Mike saidAwww, HELL NO!


    This is why we love Coach_Mike...


    I kind of see it from both sides.

    I am trying to get my family down to just buying one gift each, but it hasn't happened yet. I am scaling down and not feeling bad about it - because I simply can't afford to go "all out." - Plus this year we are all doing OK and none of my immediate family really needs anything.

    But - I am guilty of perpetuating this frenzy that Skinnybitch is talking about, too. For instance, my department does not buy for each other, but donates to a thing called "Star Tree" where we sponsor a family and buy gifts for kids whose parents cannot.

    However, I did get everyone a small candy tin - because they were cool and my team works hard and deserves something and I would feel bad leaving them empty handed at the holidays... icon_redface.gif
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:06 AM GMT
    My parents wont go for that...They really don't buy me or my brother stuff any time, (we don't really get birthday presents). So they go all out on Christmas. But they have me go and buy all the presents...so since I was 17 I have done all the Christmas shopping...So the stores dont bother me...

    Now if me and my brother get my parents anything they flip a shit...icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    We don't exchange gifts in my family. I know it is the thought that counts, but it still seemed shopping was a stressful experience of trying to figure out how to not under give or over give in comparison to what you thought the person might be spending on you. I only give something to my only nephew.
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    I just created a thread along the same line....

    Probably about 8-9 years ago, my parents, sister and I decided not to buy Christmas presents for each other. No one would ever give any gift ideas, it was always stressful and really we're all lucky enough to be able to get what we need.

    So, we decided to take the money we would have spent on Christmas gifts and donate it to charity. I still buy for my niece and nephew and our dogs, but it's made for a low stress Christmas and it's good knowing you're helping someone during the holidays. We still get stockings though..and that rocks!
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    I hate the whole gift thing of christmas. I tend to avoid all things christmas if I can.
    my mom cannot help but give gifts even when I have explicitly told her I have no need or want of anything. I tell her all the time money will be welcome if you really want to give me something but I just don't want any material thing that Ill just have to find a place for or end up giving away.
  • calibro

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    Dec 01, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    i don't like any of you bitches, so i wasn't getting you a present anyways. now i can feel good about myself for doing so.
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:32 AM GMT
    I hate getting gifts. It's as simple as that.

    There isn't anything I want I have everything I need.

    My family stopped doing the gift giving thing a few years ago and I was pretty happy with that.
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    This year I am focusing on giving very small gifts to everyday people I encounter. One example is the woman who works at the front counter at the Y. Her son will be singing in London between Christmas and New Year's as part of a high school choral festival.

    We've had such great talks about the upcoming trip, and she is naturally very excited. To share in that excitement and share something with her, I dug into my picture files from my trip to London in 2002, cut a few to a disk and gave it to her.

    My thought is that I have encounters like that with people every day and they are meaningful to me. So this is one small way I can acknowledge that through the holidays. I plan to do stuff like this randomly through Christmas.

    As far as family, I plan to get small gifts for a few family members, but more need-based than anything else. I've asked that they not get me anything because I simply don't have the space for anything and I have everything I truly need anyway. If they honor that great and if not it's nothing to stress over.

    Finally, as for MMTM - this agnostic is going to enjoy every Christmas tree, go to concerts and otherwise celebrate and honor the human sense of community thru the holiday. If that makes me a hypocrite in your eyes, I guess I'll learn to live with the pain. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    It took me several years to get my mother to agree to no gifts for Christmas, but now she's actually as happy about it as I am.
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:40 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said^ HYPOCRITE!!!


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    Stop or I'll get you a gift. icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:40 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidWhen I was twenty-one I successfully encouraged my family to give up exchanging gifts and to simply spend the time together like a second Thanksgiving. So basically for the past twenty years we haven't exchanged presents. It's simply another holiday to engorge ourselves with a decadent meal.


    And for those whom this message applies:

    Those of you fools who are devoutly and arrogantly atheistic or agnostic should not be indulging in Christmas in any way, shape or form since the very concept of Christmas is the celebration of Christ's birth. If you are, then your hypocritical asses should be adopting some sort of integrity to appear more consistent in your irreligious approach.


    Actually, the idea of the decadent feast and gift giving, the bringing of a an evergreen tree inside the house, a candle in the window and other traditions now done at Christmas were taking place before the birth of Christ as part of various pagan celebrations around the winter solstice.
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    Coach_Mike saidAwww, HELL NO!


    Can I get a Aaaaay-Maaaan, and a Haaaaaa-lay Louu!!!
    We all get $$$ .. so Hell 2 the NO... I just give my Nephews and Niece a gift card to that one electronics store. Done!!.. and, as far as "home made" gifts? I better be able to eat 'em.. it's the only holiday I go pig style on cookies and sweets.. from Thanksgiving thru New Years... Hell, I spend all of October and November prepping for it, and 3 months in rehab for the white sugar addiction.. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:44 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Tenebrism said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said^ HYPOCRITE!!!


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    Stop or I'll get you a gift. icon_twisted.gif


    Okay, well if you must please be sure to provide a gift return receipt.


    Just in case. icon_twisted.gif
    My gifts are awesome. You would never want to take them back. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    Tenebrism said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said^ HYPOCRITE!!!


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    Stop or I'll get you a gift. icon_twisted.gif
    What? More pictures of yourself?

    Is there such thing as a devout agnotist anyway?
  • metta

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    Dec 01, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    Why would I want to stop it altogether? I admit that it is a little stressful figuring out what to get people but...overall...I enjoy it. I have already started so I'm not going to stop now.
  • Timbales

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    Dec 01, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    I stopped exchanging with my siblings last year, after the previous year's "Yankee Swap/Chinese Lottery" got really nasty.