Braggers don't up load photos, How come?

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    Mar 10, 2007 12:43 PM GMT
    I read these forums often and have noticed that the big braggers have no photo up loaded. Give your feedback as you think the reasons might be.
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    Mar 10, 2007 3:58 PM GMT
    I guess they pump up their stats, and in reality, they aren't what they pretend to be. And that leads to other lies as well.
    It's great to be honest. That way, you can improve the areas that need beefed up.
    Big hairy muscle hugs.
  • dfrourke

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    Mar 10, 2007 10:11 PM GMT
    fear of __________

    [you can add anyword in there]

    - reality
    - rejection
    - you name it
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    Mar 11, 2007 2:31 AM GMT
    the reality is i need to work out more, pump some iron, define the abs, etc etc. but hey. i'm not a bragger, my stats show i want some build ;)
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    Mar 11, 2007 5:47 AM GMT
    I never really gave it much thought, guess I dont pay much attention to profiles like that.
  • MisterT

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    Mar 11, 2007 6:04 AM GMT
    I agree with above, I think it is mainly a fear, lack of self esteem thing, so they are trying to pump up their own ego.

    I know I need work, and am slowly making some progress slowly.
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    Mar 12, 2007 11:30 PM GMT
    I totally disagree... I for once have not posted a pic due to professional reasons. i have no issues with self-esteem, or pretending to be someone/something that I'm not.
    If anyone is interested in a pic I will be more than happy in forwarding one to you.
  • art_smass

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    Mar 18, 2007 8:42 PM GMT
    I'm on TV where I live, and I don't like getting messages that start "Hey, you're that guy on TV." I've gone on lots of dates because of Manline, and I don't have a photo there, either. The beauty of Internet dating is that you can actually get to know someone from conversing with them. My standards actually get a whole lot lower when I like a guy. It's strange how attractive a brain can be.
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    Mar 18, 2007 9:09 PM GMT
    It's not difficult to arrange a photo that gives an idea of a guy's build and general appearance, without providing identification. There are plenty of them here and on other sites.

    I just have to automatically assume that profiles with no pics represent guys who's weight and/or age is a strong contraindication for dating.

    Sometimes I am on TV also, but the only place that anyone has ever connected me with an internet profile was in a gay bar.

    However, I draw the line at posting any kind of pic showing both my dick and my face. Who knows where these things could end up? I think it's kind of funny when I see pics in which the guy has obscured his tattoos, though. I mean, if you're seeing THAT much of him, how many secrets does he have left, anyway?
  • art_smass

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    Mar 19, 2007 3:42 PM GMT
    Well, anyone who asks to see my photo usually gets it. And if anyone wants to see me in person, I'll send them my class schedule at the gym, and they can show up and check me out in person -- anonomously, if that's what they want to do.

    To me it's strange that some people want to let it all hang out on a site like this. Meanwhile, I got a note in my mailbox this morning from a hot guy who noticed that I often make it through an entire forum post without spelling a word incorrectly. I also notice things like that, and I tend to give them as much credence as a nice photo. I like brainy guys even more than I like real jocks.

    Different strokes for different folks, huh?
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    Mar 19, 2007 8:32 PM GMT
    hey smarty, i recognize you....you're Richard Simmons, omgawd, I'm starstruck! :-)

  • OptimusMatt

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    Mar 19, 2007 9:21 PM GMT
    Personally, I don't particularly care if they have a picture or not - but I like what smart has done, which is upload a picture and keep it PRIVATE. That offers total control over who sees you and who doesn't. Honestly, it's not like I'm whoring myself online, so I don't really care who sees my face. I do have a standard pic though for all profiles, msn, facebook, here... *shrugs* my face doesn't really tell you much about whether or not I'm morbidly obese, but as I'm not on these networks to pick up, it truely doesn't matter.
    And Smile - I notice those things too...I'm actually REALLY anal about it. It may just be a BB but..lol, I tend to copy and paste my posts into word to check the spelling.../sigh.
  • OptimusMatt

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    Mar 19, 2007 9:23 PM GMT
    unless...I get names wrong cause I'm writing while I'm working...lol, sorry smass, lol
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    Mar 19, 2007 11:05 PM GMT
    All handwaving aside, not posting a photo allows you to create even more of an illusory virtual reality than we all admit exists for ALL of these bulletin board/meet people websites. It's not allowing a level playing field.

    That means, assumedly, that you get to evaluate the other guy's picture initially, but he can't see yours to make an evaluation. I really disbelieve any photo-less person who doesn't understand that basic fact is true, no matter what the reason a person claims to have for not showing a photo. That's not fair, in my view.

    If any of the photo-less guys has a "Hotlist" with guys on it, you can see that that is a double-standard. They got to see pictures of guys that are "hot" in their judgment, but the "hotlisted" guys didn't get that easy first look.

    I agree with David (dfrourke) (and remain unconvinced otherwise by those who "protest too much" above). It's fear of rejection, fear of judgment, fear of being outed, fear of______________.

    This is a website/BB devoted to meeting other fit gay guys. Like match.com, the inclusion of a picture allows you to just get a better mental image. We've gone over "faking" pictures ad nauseum on other forum posts/topics here. Sure you can do that, too. But even "not public" pictures can be faked.

    John
  • art_smass

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    Mar 20, 2007 4:54 AM GMT
    Sorry, did you say something? I was busy sweatin' to the oldies and I knocked over my box of Deal-a-Meal cards.
  • atxclimber

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    Mar 20, 2007 5:55 AM GMT
    Dude, I was living with a friend of mine a few years back and she was trying to lose weight, and her mom totally sent us a bunch of Deal-a-Meal cards. I don't think we ever used any of them, but I was surprised to find that they had actual normal, relatively appetizing recipes on them. What a goofy format.

    I loved your cameo on Arrested Development, btw.
  • art_smass

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    Mar 20, 2007 2:18 PM GMT
    Okay, I need to come clean. I'm not Richard Simmons, but you were right when you said that you saw me on Arrested Development.

    I'm Liza Minelli. I just troll sites like this looking for ANOTHER gay husband.

    Are you interested?
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    Mar 20, 2007 4:36 PM GMT
    I have seen art_smass' photo and he is indeed Liza Minelli or a very good impersonator. I have arranged for him to come to Atlanta, put on a leather bustier and beat me within an inch of my life.
  • art_smass

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    Mar 20, 2007 4:45 PM GMT
    I think Obscene Wish just proposed to me.
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    Mar 20, 2007 6:01 PM GMT
    People who haven't seen smartypants can pick him out of this picture:

    http://tinyurl.com/z7ael
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    Apr 27, 2007 4:42 PM GMT
    I actually don't have a fear of anything with regards to my looks. My stats are truthful and I don't have problems with my self esteem.

    I am relatively new to this site and enjoy reading the various topics in the forum area.

    Don't get me wrong, I do like seeing what y'all look like, (obscenewish is hot!)but I also like what you guys have to say. I'll post a pic eventually but for me, it's not a priority.

    Cheers!

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    Apr 27, 2007 5:54 PM GMT
    Maybe I'm a bit naive, but I thought it was because perhaps that person didn't own a digital camera.. or didn't have a camera phone..or just got on the site and was in the process of posting.

    I guess I never paid too much attention to the no pic profiles. sorry.