Just to report a slight change in nuance, so I don't get accused of always saying the same thing--I was watching God's Warriors and it did finally hit home that conservative Christians really hate gay marriage. I've always thought that if more gays made their monogamous relationships visible, we would get more support from the religious right. I now realize that the religious right hates gay marriage as much as Pride parades, so it doesn't really make any difference in terms of attempting to win them over. So, why bother with them?
(Ron Luce is really, really scary.)
My goal is to nurture the alternative, and I believe, true Christianity which is gaining strength in the mainline churches. However, I think that most of Christianity is going to reject gays for a long time, and I don't think gay marriage is going to change anyone's minds. So all I can do is help support a safe place for gays where I believe Jesus is really present.
Here's the change--I used to think Pride parades were damaging our reputation. Now I realize that some people are going to hate gays no matter what we do. I used to think gay marriage would improve our reputation, but again, some people are going to hate us no matter what we do. So, it's OK with me, do whatever you want to do, wear that Gwen Stefani wig, swing that giant dildo, crank up that Scissor Sisters--we only have ourselves to please.
They're going to accuse of taking drugs and spreading disease no matter what we do.
It's wierd to realize that some people hate me for something which I didn't choose, and no matter what I do, no matter how well I behave, they will always, always hate me. Suddenly, I feel like swinging a big ol' dildo in their faces.