Domestic fight

  • zakariahzol

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    Dec 01, 2012 7:09 AM GMT
    What do you and your other half do when you got into a fight? Do you just arguing, leave the room, no sex for a week, or something more physical.

    I usually just shut him off and ignore him. It usually dont last long though, The next day I start missing him and start calling him or vice versa.
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    Dec 01, 2012 7:18 AM GMT
    we'd have intense discussions.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 01, 2012 7:19 AM GMT
    Isn't that what these are for:

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  • TheAlchemixt

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    Dec 01, 2012 7:19 AM GMT
    I've learned one thing from getting into fist fights with my ex of seven years.
    The thing I learned is this..If I'm going to fight him I need to make sure he is drunk otherwise he'd kick my ass because he much stronger than me.
    We usually ended up talking the next day.
    I've had cops come to my house 3-4 times, I can't really recall.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 01, 2012 7:21 AM GMT
    TheAlchemixt saidI've learned one thing from getting into fist fights with my ex of seven years.
    The thing I learned is this..If I'm going to fight him I need to make sure he is drunk otherwise he'd kick my ass because he much stronger than me.
    We usually ended up talking the next day.
    I've had cops come to my house 3-4 times, I can't really recall.

    You might want to consider giving up alcohol
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    Dec 01, 2012 7:23 AM GMT
    Physical abuse doesn't exist in the gay world............is there?
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Dec 01, 2012 7:25 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    TheAlchemixt saidI've learned one thing from getting into fist fights with my ex of seven years.
    The thing I learned is this..If I'm going to fight him I need to make sure he is drunk otherwise he'd kick my ass because he much stronger than me.
    We usually ended up talking the next day.
    I've had cops come to my house 3-4 times, I can't really recall.

    You might want to consider giving up alcohol


    I never drank when I was with him, he was the alcoholic. I hated alcohol so much because of him. I am a social drinker now though, I'm a fun and friendly drunk. icon_biggrin.gif Oh but thanks for telling me that, some people do need to be told that and if I were one I'd appreciate it if someone was upfront with me.
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    Dec 01, 2012 7:33 AM GMT
    TheAlchemixt said
    AMoonHawk said
    TheAlchemixt saidI've learned one thing from getting into fist fights with my ex of seven years.
    The thing I learned is this..If I'm going to fight him I need to make sure he is drunk otherwise he'd kick my ass because he much stronger than me.
    We usually ended up talking the next day.
    I've had cops come to my house 3-4 times, I can't really recall.

    You might want to consider giving up alcohol


    I never drank when I was with him, he was the alcoholic. I hated alcohol so much because of him. I am a social drinker now though, I'm a fun and friendly drunk. icon_biggrin.gif Oh but thanks for telling me that, some people do need to be told that and if I were one I'd appreciate it if someone was upfront with me.

    Well, there is nothing wrong with a little alcohol ... until it starts to cause problems ... glad you're out of that bad relationship
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    Dec 01, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
    At no point in a relationship, is it ever acceptable to raise a hand or fist to another person during an argument regardless of sexual orientation, male or female, etc. As an ICU nurse, I can't tell you the number of patients I've dealt with who were fighting for their lives because of domestic fights....mostly women.

    I'm lucky to be in a relationship with my current partner. After getting into an argument, we immediately apologize to one another, get to a level of understanding and then start laughing again.
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    Dec 01, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidAt no point in a relationship, is it ever acceptable to raise a hand or fist to another person during an argument regardless of sexual orientation, male or female, etc. As an ICU nurse, I can't tell you the number of patients I've dealt with who were fighting for their lives because of domestic fights....mostly women.

    I'm lucky to be in a relationship with my current partner. After getting into an argument, we immediately apologize to one another, get to a level of understanding and then start laughing again.
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  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 01, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    I've only had one partner and fights were not much of a problem... "disagreements" occasionally and he would usually ignore me for a day or two until he cooled off. He has always taken things way too seriously for his own good...

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    Dec 01, 2012 2:38 PM GMT
    My late partner & I almost never raised our voices. When it happened it was over very quickly, and discussion and mutual apologies were a good way to patch things up.

    My present partner blows up fairly easily, his own family telling me that's his "normal". In his case I learned that separation and silence for a few hours is best. Any attempt to "talk it over" only makes things worse. And most times nothing is said after he calms down, it's simply not mentioned, as if it never happened.

    Each couple has their own formula, and whatever works best for them is the "correct" answer. Except for violence, which is a game-ender for me. A BF with whom I lived got violent with me once, left bruises on me. I instantly knew it was all over between us, and I'd have to move out, which I did as soon as practical.
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    Dec 01, 2012 3:00 PM GMT
    Well first off .. Im Italian so when we fight initially if im wright or wrong i launch a major verbal assault of EPIC proportions! If its something did im usually quiet for a while and them bam! there it is ww3 assult lol. after that though we usually just talk it out and watch cat videos on youtube.I cant help but to over react lol Its just Italians are veryicon_lol.gif passionate lol
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    Dec 01, 2012 4:55 PM GMT
    I usually leave the room instantly .. count to 10 and then enter back !
    I realize we never reach to a conclusion though. icon_confused.gif
  • calibro

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    Dec 01, 2012 5:14 PM GMT
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    Dec 01, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    src123 saidWell first off .. Im Italian so when we fight initially if im wright or wrong i launch a major verbal assault of EPIC proportions! If its something did im usually quiet for a while and them bam! there it is ww3 assult lol. after that though we usually just talk it out and watch cat videos on youtube.I cant help but to over react lol Its just Italians are veryicon_lol.gif passionate lol

    See my previous post above yours. My partner is Italian, too, explains a lot. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 01, 2012 5:35 PM GMT
    I very rarely get into a fight with my bf or partner because I'm pretty amenable/easygoing and I really don't get into an argument unless the issue is truly relationship-affecting and not just minor things (e.g., not about what color to paint the den, where/what to eat, where to go on vacations, what furniture to buy, etc.). He could make all those decisions and I wouldn't be concerned or offended in the least. However, if we do get into a fight, it's usually about a significant issue that calls into question one's integrity or honesty. When that happens, and it rarely does, my tendency is to express my thoughts unvarnished and unedited, in a very calm manner.Then I clam up. My bf or partner usually handles that by giving me a few minutes to cool off, and then he engages me in further conversations. That usually does the trick. It's a personality flaw and my bf or partner ultimately learns how to handle it.
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    Dec 01, 2012 5:39 PM GMT
    TheAlchemixt said
    AMoonHawk said
    TheAlchemixt saidI've learned one thing from getting into fist fights with my ex of seven years.
    The thing I learned is this..If I'm going to fight him I need to make sure he is drunk otherwise he'd kick my ass because he much stronger than me.
    We usually ended up talking the next day.
    I've had cops come to my house 3-4 times, I can't really recall.

    You might want to consider giving up alcohol


    I never drank when I was with him, he was the alcoholic. I hated alcohol so much because of him. I am a social drinker now though, I'm a fun and friendly drunk. icon_biggrin.gif Oh but thanks for telling me that, some people do need to be told that and if I were one I'd appreciate it if someone was upfront with me.


    You sound like me!!!
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    Dec 01, 2012 10:29 PM GMT
    Difficult in a small house. Generally leave the room or go for a walk. Try to treat the relationship like a typical American straight marriage - the wife is always right, even when she isn't . In a gay relationship you are both wives ( the other guy is the wife) . So, in the interest of harmony, after a short while you come back and apologize, even if biting your tongue. Tears may or may not come, but you have great makeup sex.
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    Dec 01, 2012 11:03 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    src123 saidWell first off .. Im Italian so when we fight initially if im wright or wrong i launch a major verbal assault of EPIC proportions! If its something did im usually quiet for a while and them bam! there it is ww3 assult lol. after that though we usually just talk it out and watch cat videos on youtube.I cant help but to over react lol Its just Italians are veryicon_lol.gif passionate lol

    See my previous post above yours. My partner is Italian, too, explains a lot. icon_wink.gif



    lol Im sry i didn't see that sooner lol

    not to worie its absolutely normal for Italians to do this .. its just the way we are lol


    Its interesting my bf and I just got into a huge fight ! lasted about 2 hrs and i dont know if i was wrong or right i just know i was yelling! lol in the end it all word out but we tend to go from 0-60 in an instant !

    We fight big but we also love big too xoxoxo
  • Pontifex

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    Dec 01, 2012 11:27 PM GMT
    I'm currently single. But when I'm not life is too short to fight about something that neither one of you will care about in 10 minutes. Having a disagreement and a discussion is great. You can't always agree on everything.

    If you are raising your voices or getting physical something is wrong beyond that little thing you are probably arguing about. Those little arguments are usually a proxy for something one or both of you probably can't express. You are honestly better off pointing out the 10000 lbs elephant in the corner if that is the case.

    Time for some more Canadian animation.

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    Dec 01, 2012 11:30 PM GMT
    I beat the shit out of him. Or throw hot gritz on that ass


    Sometimes burn his shit (clothes) to piss him off more.


    Sorry been around Mama for too long lol


    On other occasions I simply leave and go off somewhere to cool down


    I'm single now. This all occured with my last bf months ago
  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 11, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
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    Dec 11, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    Have an argument, go off and cool off for an hour or so, then apologise to each other and make up.

    I literally can't imagine coming to physical blows.
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    Dec 11, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    Pout.