Sometimes I envy straight people

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    Dec 02, 2012 3:55 PM GMT
    Not because I want to be straight because vaginas are the scourge of the earth (that was a joke calm your asses down lol) but its because you can often find two heterosexual people in a relationship that are just average people with average jobs and neither of them are trying to be either models or Ms. And Mr. Perfect Straight Couple 2012.

    I'm at that stage of my life where being broke is as common as sneezing. I lost my job so I live at home and I don't have a car but I'm almost done with my degree. What I lack in physical stuff I make up for with other qualities. When I thought I was straight I had no problem attracting women. For some women potential was and drive was enough for them to be interested. Also my body wasn't a dealbreaker. But as soon as I came out of the closet it was like I has SARS.

    Maybe sometimes it's me being insecure about my situation. But a lot of the times when I meet men I feel like I'm auditioning. And if you get into a relationship it's like some gay men feel the need to be perfect in every aspect of their lives. Its grating. And I rarely meet men who are okay with me and my current situation. I mean its not like I'm sitting around collecting a check but the way some men react to me either having a shit job or nob (it depends on where I'm at in life at the time) you'd think I was. I rarely meet men who are willing to stand by someone during the tough times. I'm not just saying this because of where I am in life but it's because I personally would take a man with drive and ambition over someone who 'has it all '. That's just me. I find that there's so many straight couples willing to slum it together until one of them reaches their goal. There's so many straight couples where one spouse doesn't mind supporting the other one while he or she chases after their dream. I don't find that with gay men.

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  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 02, 2012 5:11 PM GMT
    I hear you. I pretty much risked it all, and lost a good amount of financial 'potential' when I moved to NYC. I have a 'shit job' now and it's been tough making ends meet. Ive not come across any men who have cared about that here in NYC, but yet I've not dated anyone seriously since moving here. You do make a good point: With some gay men, you do feel that you have to be both physically and financially in 'excellent shape' to be considered relationship material.

    But I think that's just with some men. I think with most men it's ok if you're ambitious and working towards goals. I'm a 'work in progress' and very much not looking for some that's established or who's gonna 'take care of me'. I can accept someone who's also a work in progress.
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    Dec 02, 2012 5:16 PM GMT
    Straight people do the same thing.
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    Dec 02, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    There are a lot of things at work here. Women respond way more to personality in the absence of perfect abs than men do. I am a total pussie magnet. I wish they made repellent for it.......

    In person I'm a pretty charming guy and I make girls feel good so they respond to me. I was even Mr. CMU in my sophmore year icon_lol.gif. But I have had no such luck with guys because they don't really care that much about your personality if they dont want to stick their dick in you.

    Many of your phyiscal attributes work for you with women but against you with men. It's not really politically correct to say, but chicks digg black men......a lot. Gay men, not so much (unless they have one of those weird BBC fetishes.) I think for getting girls, being black is great, but for getting gays, white is right.

    You're also a big guy, and a lot of women are okay with that because they feel like you wont judge them and will be comfortable with their own body flaws. But if you're gay and you don't have abs, you'd better work on getting some because they are the key to getting a man. I could be the nicest guy in the world with a PHD from MIT, and oscar and a Nobel prize, but if I'm not what they gay community wants physically, I might as well be an stink beetle.
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    Dec 02, 2012 5:34 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN said

    You're also a big guy, and a lot of women are okay with that because they feel like you wont judge them and will be comfortable with their own body flaws. But if you're gay and you don't have abs, you'd better work on getting some because they are the key to getting a man. I could be the nicest guy in the world with a PHD from MIT, and oscar and a Nobel prize, but if I'm not what they gay community wants physically, I might as well be an stink beetle.


    Which reminds me.. Gotta head to the gym today and work on my 'cock-attractin' abs. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 02, 2012 5:39 PM GMT

    Never in a dot or a single $en I envy them!

    I am equally same as the man next door and better!
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    can you cut the misogynist crap? fine, you don't like vaginas. news flash, vaginas aren't the scourge of the earth. until you can learn to make a statement without disrespecting women, you should keep your pie hole shut.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    I don't envy them at all.
    I'm GLAD I'm Gay.
    GAY GAY GAY!
    PRAISE DA LOOOOORRRRRRD
    HALLELOOOOOO
    !!!!!

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    Dec 02, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    calibro saidcan you cut the misogynist crap? fine, you don't like vaginas. news flash, vaginas aren't the scourge of the earth. until you can learn to make a statement without disrespecting women, you should keep your pie hole shut.


    Oh calm down that part was a joke.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
    DEKIRUMAN saidThere are a lot of things at work here. Women respond way more to personality in the absence of perfect abs than men do. I am a total pussie magnet. I wish they made repellent for it.......

    In person I'm a pretty charming guy and I make girls feel good so they respond to me. I was even Mr. CMU in my sophmore year icon_lol.gif. But I have had no such luck with guys because they don't really care that much about your personality if they dont want to stick their dick in you.

    Many of your phyiscal attributes work for you with women but against you with men. It's not really politically correct to say, but chicks digg black men......a lot. Gay men, not so much (unless they have one of those weird BBC fetishes.) I think for getting girls, being black is great, but for getting gays, white is right.

    You're also a big guy, and a lot of women are okay with that because they feel like you wont judge them and will be comfortable with their own body flaws. But if you're gay and you don't have abs, you'd better work on getting some because they are the key to getting a man. I could be the nicest guy in the world with a PHD from MIT, and oscar and a Nobel prize, but if I'm not what they gay community wants physically, I might as well be an stink beetle.


    You might have a point be wise when I thought I was straight I used to get women of all races. For some reason white is the currency in the gay world which bothers me but I don't really complain too much about it.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    msuNtx saidStraight people do the same thing.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    LOL.

    Sometimes I think some of You Guys have never met Straight People.

    You have never met a Woman who will ONLY date very VERY wealthy Men???

    Men who will ONLY date cover-model quality Women???

    And when is the last time YOU went for Joe Average???

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    Dec 02, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    Cash saidLOL.

    Sometimes I think some of You Guys have never met Straight People.

    You have never met a Woman who will ONLY date very VERY wealthy Men???

    Men who will ONLY date cover-model quality Women???

    And when is the last time YOU went for Joe Average???

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    Of course there are straight women who go for wealthy men but in proportion to the amount of women who don't they aren't the norm.

    And I always go for Joe Average. I go for whoever seems nice. The problem is that there isn't enough of them in the gay community.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidAnd I always go for Joe Average. I go for whoever seems nice. The problem is that there isn't enough of them in the gay community.
    You're not looking in the right places.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:34 PM GMT
    Neight said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidAnd I always go for Joe Average. I go for whoever seems nice. The problem is that there isn't enough of them in the gay community.
    You're not looking in the right places.


    There's not a lot of places to look. The only place around here to find men is either a club or their closet. I don't know where else to go.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:36 PM GMT
    Just to clarify something...do people realize this is technically a message board for gay jocks? Of course people ON HERE are going to want the perfect body...

    Also if you think women don't care about looks.....icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidJust to clarify something...do people realize this is technically a message board for gay jocks? Of course people ON HERE are going to want the perfect body...

    Also if you think women don't care about looks.....icon_rolleyes.gif


    I wasn't just talking about on here. I was talking about real life.

    And yes there are shallow women but the grand majority don't seem to be obsessed with just one kind of look. You already know what most gay men want. But women aren't as unified.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:43 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    calibro saidcan you cut the misogynist crap? fine, you don't like vaginas. news flash, vaginas aren't the scourge of the earth. until you can learn to make a statement without disrespecting women, you should keep your pie hole shut.


    Oh calm down that part was a joke.


    that's like saying, calm down, my racists joke is only a joke. it's not funny to insult women and that sort of humor comes out of the mouth of the history of misogyny. it's tasteless, it's offensive, and it's wrong.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:44 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidI wasn't just talking about on here. I was talking about real life.

    And yes there are shallow women but the grand majority don't seem to be obsessed with just one kind of look. You already know what most gay men want. But women aren't as unified.
    Do you seriously think the "grand majority" of women aren't obsessed with just one kind of look? Do you even talk to women about their interests?
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said

    I wasn't just talking about on here. I was talking about real life.

    And yes there are shallow women but the grand majority don't seem to be obsessed with just one kind of look. You already know what most gay men want. But women aren't as unified.
    I disagree with that. I am no where near where I was in highschool or beginning of college...Being on bed rest and cutting through my muscles a year ago has really F'ed up my body...(even though Im getting back)...I find that I still get hit on a lot...I think there are an equal number of guys and girls out there who do look for looks as well as personality.

    Personally for me...I am attracted to fit guys not because of their looks (well partly) but because they respect and take care of themselves.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:47 PM GMT
    calibro said
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    calibro saidcan you cut the misogynist crap? fine, you don't like vaginas. news flash, vaginas aren't the scourge of the earth. until you can learn to make a statement without disrespecting women, you should keep your pie hole shut.


    Oh calm down that part was a joke.


    that's like saying, calm down, my racists joke is only a joke. it's not funny to insult women and that sort of humor comes out of the mouth of the history of misogyny. it's tasteless, it's offensive, and it's wrong.


    Well I'm sorry if it offended you.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:50 PM GMT
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    MashogaNubianPrince saidI wasn't just talking about on here. I was talking about real life.

    And yes there are shallow women but the grand majority don't seem to be obsessed with just one kind of look. You already know what most gay men want. But women aren't as unified.
    Do you seriously think the "grand majority" of women aren't obsessed with just one kind of look? Do you even talk to women about their interests?


    Most of my friends are women and its not all like they all can agree on what they like. Some like buff some don't. Some like bigger guys and some don't. Some are into waifs of men and some aren't. There is a reason why there is no major equivalent to Hooters for women.
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:50 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    RadRTT saidJust to clarify something...do people realize this is technically a message board for gay jocks? Of course people ON HERE are going to want the perfect body...

    Also if you think women don't care about looks.....icon_rolleyes.gif


    I wasn't just talking about on here. I was talking about real life.

    And yes there are shallow women but the grand majority don't seem to be obsessed with just one kind of look. You already know what most gay men want. But women aren't as unified.


    Tell that to every average Straight Guy who has tried to buy a Woman a drink...
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:51 PM GMT
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    Neight said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidI wasn't just talking about on here. I was talking about real life.

    And yes there are shallow women but the grand majority don't seem to be obsessed with just one kind of look. You already know what most gay men want. But women aren't as unified.
    Do you seriously think the "grand majority" of women aren't obsessed with just one kind of look? Do you even talk to women about their interests?


    Most of my friends are women and its not all like they all can agree on what they like. Some like buff some don't. Some like bigger guys and some don't. Some are into waifs of men and some aren't. There is a reason why there is no major equivalent to Hooters for women.


    Ever hear of Chippendales???
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    Dec 02, 2012 6:56 PM GMT
    OP - Yer problem is not with the Gay Community. Your problem is with the VERY tiny amount of life You have experienced.

    You claim to be a writer. If You ever hope to write something interesting You will have to experience MOAR than the local bar and the 40 or 50 people in Your Recent Call List.

    Surely someone who wishes to tell great stories knows that there is a WHOLE WORLD out there to be experienced????

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