Do "low-key" gay bars exist?

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    Dec 02, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    Sorry for the generalizations in this post, but at least for my situation here in Dallas, it doesn't appear that there are any low-key gay bars in the area. From what I can tell, most "gay bars" require loud dance music, strobe lights, fake smoke, shirtless dancers, and drinks involving a phallic pun of some sort.

    Where are the bars where guys can just order a beer, meet people, lounge around, and just chat. I guess I need to look for a regular bar that gay guys like to frequent. Has anyone been successful in a non-gay bar setting? I'm not talking about hookups or even dating, but just meeting gay people.
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    Dec 02, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    Might be worthwhile to simply google search for gay sports bars in your area. icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 02, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    Sorry I don't know Dallas well, but such bars do exist. Like in Houston, so I'd hope Dallas wouldn't be different, and also here in the Fort Lauderdale area, and in Seattle when I lived there.

    Also, some gays bars have a dual personality. Quiet in the daytime hours, and weekday nights, but raucous on weekend nights. Picking your time may partly solve your problem.

    Look for gay piano bars, they're usually pretty tame, if geriatric. Also check on combination restaurant bars. We have 3 within walking distance of us, all of them gay, all with a decent bar scene in their own right. Again, noisier on weekends when DJs may be working, but more humane on mid-week nights.
  • rnch

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    Dec 02, 2012 5:49 PM GMT
    In my gayborhood (marigny-bywater) of New Orleans; most corner bar/neighborhood bars are quite low key and down-to-earth.

    One has to venture a short walk to the east, to the French Quarter, to find the shirtless dancer/thumping "dance music" bars that most people associate with being "gay bars".
  • BardBear

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    Dec 02, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    Absolutely. Coming from smaller towns like Pueblo, Colorado and Sioux Falls, South Dakota, surely, the clubs weren't really clubs. They were pubs with a dance floor shoe-horned into a corner. But most nights it sat empty and the 'tender would just play some easy listening or country music, depending on their moods.

    One has only to look.

    With everyone being more "out" than ever before, the need for the gay club/pub/bar is being greatly reduced, it seems.

    Peace,
    Bardy
  • FuriousGeorge

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    Dec 02, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    Go to those same places on a weekday night; all the good-time-party boys are at home hungover. All the places around here have weekday specials. Sometimes I'll go sit and watch a local game on TV.
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    Dec 02, 2012 10:50 PM GMT
    You could try the country themed one, I think it's called Round Up. I went once and it was pretty laid back then.
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    Dec 02, 2012 11:12 PM GMT
    They are often called "neighborhood bars" and they might not be as obvious or as easy to find because they don't usually have the advertising budget to take out several big ads with shirtless muscle boys and drag queens in your local gay weekly magazines like the big gay nightclubs do. I find it difficult to believe that the Dallas area does not have some neighborhood gay bars.
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    Dec 02, 2012 11:15 PM GMT
    go to a regular bar
  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Dec 03, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    Head over to Wylde's in Orlando. That should be low key enough for you.
  • chris_hasting...

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    Dec 03, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    the laid back bars will be full of old gay dudes, fat n bear type guys, I lived down the street from one, it was all creepy old ugly pedo type dudes. but it was definitely a regular laid back chill bar.
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    Dec 03, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    When I lived in NYC the only gay bars I went to were the more dive-y ones. Metropolitan, Julius, and Stonewall.

    Check out Yelp.com's reviews of bars around you. Dallas has to have some lower-key gay bars.
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    Dec 03, 2012 1:56 AM GMT
    I've encountered a few. Its always best to do some kind of search beforehand online though.
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    Dec 03, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    Also there's a difference between a gay bar and a bar that is gay friendly (that is to say, no one gives a damn). The one I work at is a good example of the latter. We have a great crowd of regulars that are gay, straight, and everything in between. For the most part everyone is really chill and friendly. Could something like this work for you, or does it have to be specifically a gay bar?
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    Dec 03, 2012 2:07 AM GMT
    As HawkGuy 13 said: 'Mixed' bars are a good option if you can find one. More and more are becoming gay-friendly, especially if they're on the younger/hip side. We have plenty of DL gay bars in NYC - which is great. I LOVE Julius' and 9th Ave. Saloon in HK. Cheap drinks, nice people - no lasers(!) and music is at a tolerable level and not blasting me with whatever crap they're playing at the "IN" bars - which I usually can't stand.

    When I wanna relax and have drinks with friends I don't want to be at a club. I wanna be where I can actually TALK.
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    Dec 03, 2012 2:08 AM GMT
    chris_hastings1 saidthe laid back bars will be full of old gay dudes, fat n bear type guys, I lived down the street from one, it was all creepy old ugly pedo type dudes. but it was definitely a regular laid back chill bar.


    From the look of your pic you could be describing yourself

    Apart from that your lumping of all older guys as fat pedos is as offensive as you are
  • gwuinsf

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    Dec 03, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    Most big cities have quite a few neighborhood gay bars. I'm sure there are plenty in Dallas.
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    They do exist, but can be hit or miss (at least in my city) The low-key bars in my area cater to a older crowd, which is fine for a beer and a chat. If I want to find guys around my age, however, I have to go to one of those "music too loud" bars where the only thing showing on the tube is a old Britney Spears video. Don't get me wrong I enjoy a good dance club, but I also like a place that represents some of the other interests I have.