2 Bi vers guys together

  • versatiliT

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    Dec 03, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    I'm pretty sure I'm bi, I mean, I'll think I'm totally only into guys and then I'll see a hot woman and just be like, no, I'm bi. But definitely primarily attracted to men. I have this fantasy though of being with another vers bi guy, and us having like, a really great friendship and romance but with fucking women and men together. I would probably want to get married and adopt kids with this guy too. Is this at all common? Do vers guys usually go for each other? I know I would get bored dating just a top as I have in the past so I think that's why another vers guy appeals to me. What say everyone?
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    Dec 03, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    versatiliT said... What say everyone?


    I don't know what everyone else will say, but I think it sounds fucking hot, meaningful, and full of variety.
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    Dec 03, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    I've never heard of a relationship like that but it sounds idealized and possibly wouldn't work.

    Engaging in a relationship based around screwing other men and women sounds like a script from a bad porno.
  • versatiliT

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    Dec 03, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    Clearly the relationship isn't based on screwing other people, it would be based on a friendship. That just so happens to involve screwing other people.
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    Dec 03, 2012 2:52 AM GMT
    I'm just saying that doesn't sound stable. Someone will wonder what they are actually getting from being in a relationship with you if they can have sex with other people? When are the lines drawn? How is trust developed?
  • versatiliT

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    Dec 03, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    Same way it's developed in other poly relationships I guess- by not lying about sleeping with other people, not being bitchy about it, setting and talking about boundaries, etc.
    I know of other happy poly couples, but they tend to be top/bottom pairings.
  • versatiliT

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    Dec 03, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    GAMRican said
    versatiliT said... What say everyone?


    I don't know what everyone else will say, but I think it sounds fucking hot, meaningful, and full of variety.


    And thank you GAMRican that's the kind of response I was hoping to get.

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    Dec 03, 2012 2:57 AM GMT
    Well whatever floats your boat.

  • versatiliT

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    Dec 03, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidSomeone will wonder what they are actually getting from being in a relationship with you if they can have sex with other people?


    Oh, and what they get is my sweet bod, awesome sense of humor, great smile, and loving devotion. Plus, I can cook. We'd have to talk about boundaries with other sex partners, and if we disagreed totally then it wouldn't be the right guy.
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    Dec 03, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    Well it sounds risky to me but hey different strokes.

  • spankydrunk

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    Dec 03, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    There really is no clear cut, this is how a relationship will work. If you want a relationship that includes having 3ways, as long as you and your partner are ok with it, then it can possibly strengthen the relationship. It's better then running around behind each others backs. But again, this scenario won't work for everyone.
    Good example, my older brother is in a committed relationship, but for excitement they like to swing. His girlfriend has never had a problem with it. Now they have swung with couples who seemed fine with it, but have later broken up. Point is everyone is different, you got to find what makes you happy.
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    versatiliT said...
    Oh, and what they get is my sweet bod, awesome sense of humor, great smile, and loving devotion. Plus, I can cook. We'd have to talk about boundaries with other sex partners, and if we disagreed totally then it wouldn't be the right guy.


    I have been of the view that a balanced, satisfying, monogamous, bisexual, polyamorous relationship could exist among four people: two men and two women.

    If you care to share, what are your thoughts on this viewpoint?
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    Monogamous means one person besides yourself, Gam. icon_wink.gif

    I think polyamorous-fidelity is a bit better.
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    meninlove said Monogamous means one person besides yourself, Gam. icon_wink.gif

    I think polyamorous-fidelity is a bit better.


    I have learned a more precise way of conveying the meaning of what I was envisioning.
  • versatiliT

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    Dec 03, 2012 12:51 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidI have been of the view that a balanced, satisfying, monogamous, bisexual, polyamorous relationship could exist among four people: two men and two women.

    If you care to share, what are your thoughts on this viewpoint?


    I'm sure it could work for the right group of people. I haven't yet met a woman I'd like to be in a steady relationship with, let alone two women. It's mostly just a sex thing. It depends on the other guy- if he had a relationship with a woman that gave him something I couldn't, then that would balance out the guys I would have on the side.

    I think the thing about polyamory/polyfidelity is that it's something that's hard to theorize on because of all the million ways relationships work. Kind of like monogamous love. Is there any one ideal monogamous relationship type? I don't think so. Same with groups.

    IMHO it has a lot more to do with sexual chemistry. If you have sexual chemistry as a group, then just like in a partnership, that can help smooth over things like personality differences, etc. Its amazing what people will sacrifice for hot sex.

    My friends say I'll have more luck in the leather daddy or bear 'scenes' which is great because... Grrrrrrrrr :-)
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    Dec 04, 2012 1:03 PM GMT
    No reason that it wouldnt work..with the right guy.

    We tend to get hung up on 'attachment' and 'ownership' issues in relationships, especially monogamous ones.

    If you can love someone without wanting to tie them down, let them have sex with others while not feeling jealousy it will work fine.

    If you can share as a couple, that sounds great too..

    Dont let other's narrow definitions and opinions of love and relationships define the way you love - you will know instinctively what is right and wrong for you.
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    Dec 05, 2012 11:13 AM GMT
    I think the relationship the Versa tilt is seeking is possible, for a time. I have seen all kinds of polyamorous relationships in communal situations in Berkeley and other California backwoods locations . They never seem to last for a long time - possessiveness and jealousy seem to raise their ugly heads.