Grindr is going nowhere

  • Onemoresummer

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    Dec 03, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    Feel like I'm obsessing over it trying to get dates but conversation seems to die/cute guys my age not talking to me.
    Is it a waste of time? Do I need a sexier picture?
    This is my current picture
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  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 03, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
    You look fine. Don't internalize Grindr's hookup mentality. It's an app for 'right now' sex, so these guys not staying around for chat are probably looking for something fast. Just the sizzle. Hang in there and keep chatting until you find those of substance. Block those who have none.
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:22 PM GMT
    dude u look ok. I have had the same experience and then I realize, I'm not in it for sex. So I just realized the people on there are the horny people who just want to get it on.

    Your better than that if one truly knows how to respect oneself. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:27 PM GMT
    Grindr is aweful. in my area, everyone has 'no hookups' on there grindr page... WTF is that about!! icon_cry.gif
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    I think you look adorable. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    They're just intimidated by your cuteness
  • hawkeye7

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    Dec 03, 2012 4:35 PM GMT
    Grinder is nowhere.
    Let it go
    Be the kind of man you want in your life and you will have a lot better chance of finding him.
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    I don't use Grindr, but your photo is perfect if you want to catch a datable guy.
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    Try a pic that's better cropped to feature you. Nobody wants to see a bunch of trees. You're very attractive. This quick edit is low res, from your original pic, as an example. Try a better quality pic, that highlights YOU!

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    Dec 03, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    Grindr is great for blow jobs from strangers, if that's all you want, go for it, but if you expect more you will be greatly disappointed. If you want healthy men who are not driven by their next conquest, delete the app and find healthy people that you share more in common with than a sex organ and a need to orgasm.
  • hawkeye7

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    Dec 03, 2012 4:51 PM GMT
    ART_DECO saidTry a pic that's better cropped to show you. Nobody wants to see a bunch of trees. You're very attractive. This quick edit is low res, from your original pic, as an example. Try a better quality pic, that highlights YOU!

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    Art Deco you are wearing a wig.....at least I hope it is.
    this guy is great, you want to pick on somebody closer to your own age you came after me.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Dec 03, 2012 4:54 PM GMT
    I like your picture icon_wink.gif .... though Grindr is probably a waste of time.
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    Dec 03, 2012 4:57 PM GMT
    if you're looking for dates, your picture is great; however, grindr isn't really a good place to look for them. so i'd agree with most of the comments, it's grindr and not you. get out there and interact with people with similar interests. you're cute, i'm sure you'll do great.

    good luck.
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    Dec 03, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    hawkeye7 said
    ART_DECO saidTry a pic that's better cropped to show you. Nobody wants to see a bunch of trees. You're very attractive. This quick edit is low res, from your original pic, as an example. Try a better quality pic, that highlights YOU!

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    Art Deco you are wearing a wig.....at least I hope it is.
    this guy is great, you want to pick on somebody closer to your own age you came after me.


    I don't think Art Deco said anything wrong, stop picking on him. icon_biggrin.gif

    And yes, that is a great picture. Your lack of luck has more to do with the type of people that roam grindr and not so much with you.
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    Dec 03, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    hawkeye7 said
    ART_DECO saidTry a pic that's better cropped to show you. Nobody wants to see a bunch of trees. You're very attractive. This quick edit is low res, from your original pic, as an example. Try a better quality pic, that highlights YOU!

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    Art Deco you are wearing a wig.....at least I hope it is.
    this guy is great, you want to pick on somebody closer to your own age you came after me.

    LOL! Yes, a cheap wig for a 1970s retro party, as the comments in my RJ Profile say.

    I'm not "picking" on anyone, I don't know your meaning. I have a loving partner, we are monogamous, I have no personal interest in the OP, one way or the other, and that's the end of that discussion. icon_biggrin.gif

    But I once was a semi-professional photographer, and I thought I could advise our OP with a sample edit of his pic. He asked about having a sexier picture.

    Yeah, I bet he could. A very good-looking man, who could be drop-dead gorgeous with the right pic. I'm not sure Grindr is a good approach for him, but whatever he chooses, his pic could have guys salivating. He just needs to take a good one, by someone who knows how. Yes?
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Dec 03, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    Have you tried other sites like:
    okcupid.com
    manhunt.net
    adam4adam.com
    I've never used Grindr.
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    Dec 03, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    hawkeye7 said
    ART_DECO saidTry a pic that's better cropped to show you. Nobody wants to see a bunch of trees. You're very attractive. This quick edit is low res, from your original pic, as an example. Try a better quality pic, that highlights YOU!

    file-155.jpg


    Art Deco you are wearing a wig.....at least I hope it is.
    this guy is great, you want to pick on somebody closer to your own age you came after me.


    Someone needs to take his Midol and chill the eff out.

    The OP asked if he needed a different pic, and A_D responded by saying that the OP is good looking, but the pic needs to focus on the OP rather than show superfluous background. A_D was very polite, and just doing exactly as the OP asked. In no way would I, and I would venture to say the vast majority of people, misconstrue his comment as "picking on" the OP.
  • calibro

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    Dec 03, 2012 5:06 PM GMT
    it's just grindr. it doesn't owe you any dates.
  • PR_GMR

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    Dec 03, 2012 5:14 PM GMT
    hawkeye7 saidGrinder is nowhere.
    Let it go
    Be the kind of man you want in your life and you will have a lot better chance of finding him.


    This x100.
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    Dec 03, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    Grindr is a sex site (actually, a virtual bathhouse). Guys who are on it want to see naked torsos and muscles, not conservatively or properly dressed good looking guys.
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    Dec 03, 2012 5:43 PM GMT
    Onemoresummer saidFeel like I'm obsessing over it trying to get dates but conversation seems to die/cute guys my age not talking to me.
    Is it a waste of time? Do I need a sexier picture?
    This is my current picture
    6176_129318664781_6003946_n.jpg


    Don't beat yourself up you're cute. Grindr is a site purely for hooking up.
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    Dec 03, 2012 6:08 PM GMT
    okcupid.com
  • FitGwynedd

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    Dec 03, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    If you popped up on my grindr I would ask you out on a date
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    Dec 03, 2012 6:36 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidI think you look adorable. icon_smile.gif


    Ditto.... you are totally adorable and your pic is very sexy!
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    Dec 03, 2012 6:53 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidGrindr is great for blow jobs from strangers, if that's all you want, go for it, but if you expect more you will be greatly disappointed. If you want healthy men who are not driven by their next conquest, delete the app and find healthy people that you share more in common with than a sex organ and a need to orgasm.


    you clearly have a LOT of experience with it.

    Why does that not surprise Me?

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