I just made the biggest mistake of my life...

  • HPgeek934

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    Dec 03, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    I just went on an interview and after the interview ended I text my brother to tell him why I wouldn't be taking the job and listed some reasons. About an hour later I got a text from my brother saying "Well?". I panicked and realized I text the man that just spent his last hour interviewing me!!!!!

    I immediately called him and when he didn't answer I text back apologizing up and down... this is how it went down....



    Me: I am incredibly embarrassed about this. I thought I was texting my brother and I accidentally text you. I sincerely apologize about how unprofessional I just was. My actions were uncalled for.

    Interviewer: LOL! I am glad to know how you really felt.

    Me: Mr. _____ I am extremely disappointed in myself and very embarrassed. I cannot apologize enough for my behavior.

    Interviewer: Dont beat yourself up over it. I can certainly understand your reservations.

    Me: To be honest this all came on so sudden that I didnt even have time to prepare for the possibility of a new job, and I guess that I over analyzed everything.

    Interviewer: Yes, it is the nature of this. I wont hold it against you.

    Me: And I do appreciate you and Mr. ____ for taking the time out to meet with me.



    Thats how it ended. I wanna legit kill myself. I was recommended for this job by someone very important that is friends with the guy that I interviewed with. I don't know what to do. This could honestly kill any future career I would want in this field.
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    Dec 03, 2012 11:52 PM GMT
    Ouch! I cringed just reading that. Reminds me the time I was texting lovey dovey to my boyfriend when I actually sent that message to one of my managers. Oh boy was that fun to explain.

    Didn't you say you didn't want the job though? I'm confused on why you feel so upset but I can understand the embarrassing part!
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    Dec 03, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    Ha! Thats pretty funny. What did you exactly say about the job?
  • Fable

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    Dec 04, 2012 12:00 AM GMT
    seems like he's not too fussed
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    Dec 04, 2012 12:02 AM GMT
    It sounds like your text was reasonably civilized or the interviewer would not have even responded to your subsequent text apologizing for the mistake. Learn from it and remember to be careful next time. It's not the end of the world or your career.
  • HPgeek934

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    Dec 04, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    the original texts said...

    No good. Too many things I dont like.
    It's 24/7. They want me to start this week and they don't know the salary.
    The even asked if I had a wife or a girlfriend or took classes, cause they want me with no commitments.


    And then an hour later I vomited and cried cause I'm mortified about what I did.
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    Dec 04, 2012 12:05 AM GMT
    "I just made the biggest mistake of my life...."



    to that add: So far.

    You're young. You have no idea how many bigger mistakes you are going to make in coming years. icon_wink.gif
  • bobbyddadd

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    Dec 04, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    Well, I think you pretty much did what you can do. Mistake had been made, you just have to learn the lesson and swallow it. Don't beat yourself up. People make mistakes all the time.

    I appreciated people who being honest when I was an interviewer.

    "Interviewer: LOL! I am glad to know how you really felt.
    Interviewer: Dont beat yourself up over it. I can certainly understand your reservations.
    Interviewer: Yes, it is the nature of this. I wont hold it against you."

    Have to say the interviewer has a great E.Q.
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    Dec 04, 2012 12:15 AM GMT
    HPgeek934 saidNo good. Too many things I dont like.
    It's 24/7. They want me to start this week and they don't know the salary.
    The even asked if I had a wife or a girlfriend or took classes, cause they want me with no commitments.


    Nothing offensive written there. Just an honest opinion. While I can understand you feeling embarrassed, I don't know why you'd think that would end your career. Perhaps a flair for the dramatic? Nothing wrong with that, either.
  • _Dave_

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    Dec 04, 2012 12:19 AM GMT
    Feel bad for ya. Must feel devastating.

    It might seem horrible right now, but if it wasn't meant to be, it's probably because something better is waiting for you down the road.

    Hang in there!
  • HPgeek934

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    Dec 04, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    NakedDave saidFeel bad for ya. Must feel devastating.

    It might seem horrible right now, but if it wasn't meant to be, it's probably because something better is waiting for you down the road.

    Hang in there!



    im just waiting for the guy who got me the interview to call me back so I can talk to him about it. I need to let him know.
  • disasterpiece

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    Dec 04, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    Honestly, I think you're overreacting.

    First of all, your text wasn't at all disrespectful or uncivilized, it was pretty much only honest.

    Second, I think the fact that you called him to apologize probably reduced the impact and consequences. You reacted in a very professional way to a very unfortunate mistake that any human can understand, and it seems like he haven't been that offended by it.

    I don't know how that could impact your future job seeking. I think it's only gonna be a funny story that you'll laugh about in a few years icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 04, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    Sounds just as bad as when i texted my aunt saying that I am a sexual maniac

    Though this was a joking text meant to be sent to my BFF
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    Dec 04, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    HPgeek934 saidthe original texts said...

    No good. Too many things I dont like.
    It's 24/7. They want me to start this week and they don't know the salary.
    The even asked if I had a wife or a girlfriend or took classes, cause they want me with no commitments.


    And then an hour later I vomited and cried cause I'm mortified about what I did.


    Sounds like my job, they were gonna put yo ass to work!
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    Dec 04, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    Claystation saidSounds like my job, they were gonna put yo ass to work!


    Getting drunk all day isn't really a job.
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    Dec 04, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    Oh god why did I just read this when I start my winter internship tomorrow.
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    Dec 04, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    SOOOOOOO.....


    ....Did you get the job?
  • RaggedyMan

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    Dec 04, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    How did you text the guy? You had him in your contacts? That's horrible but maybe its for the best.
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    Dec 04, 2012 4:20 AM GMT


    Well, for some reason he likes you. He may have laughed his head off reading the email and seeing who you sent it to, if it was obviously directed at your brother

    Reading your email to him I had a sense of warmth and honesty and feeling very abashed. It was a good email. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 04, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    I thought it was something big. Just this, I don't think it's a big deal. Let's me elaborate and no I'm not trying to diminish your feelings.

    Of course, it's human nature to be scared and have reservations about doing anything new. If you truly don't want the job which I sense that you don't and if the texts went to your brother, then it wouldn't be a big deal.

    Maybe you just want to save face with the interviewer. I meant, it's not like they offer you the job yet, it's usually a couple round of interviews. I feel like you go in there, present your best foot forward, if you get the job, great, if not, no big deal. Maybe it's a good thing that you won't get this job and will do something better in the future. It's not the end of the world, there are worst mistakes people made in life like cheating or back-stabbing or doing drugs. Cheer up buddyicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 04, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    I don't get why you care.

    You didn't want the job.

    I've told a person who interviewed me point blank to his face I didn't want it and the reasons why.

    Trust me.. they are a HELL of a lot harsher about you.

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    Dec 04, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI don't get why you care.

    You didn't want the job.

    I've told a person who interviewed me point blank to his face I didn't want it and the reasons why.

    Trust me.. they are a HELL of a lot harsher about you.



    Words to live by
  • Karl

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    Dec 04, 2012 6:04 PM GMT
    oops I did the same thing last week.
    I texted "screw you" to my dad's friend instead of my sister icon_cry.gif
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    You didnt get the job and you couldnt change , why bothered ?
    If I were you I just send an apology text instead of calling and explaining no many reasons.
    by the way I think he likes you , dont worry icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 04, 2012 6:22 PM GMT
    HPgeek934 saidthe original texts said...

    No good. Too many things I dont like.
    It's 24/7. They want me to start this week and they don't know the salary.
    The even asked if I had a wife or a girlfriend or took classes, cause they want me with no commitments.
    .

    I can understand why you feel embarrassed but don't see anything wrong in your text. You simply said that you didn't like the job and stated reasons why based on the interview Q&A. It's not like you said something personal like "I don't like the guy doing the interview. He seems unprofessional and I'm not sure if I want to work for him...".

    Also seems like he took it really well. Maybe he hadn't made up his mind if he was going to employ you in the first place and may have felt fine that you made that decision for him.

    But you may want to talk to your friend who helped you get the interview. Just to keep him in good books.
  • mr_bijae

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    Dec 04, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    Okay, If I am reading this right, YOU DON'T WANT THIS JOB? Then why the hell are you killing yourself because you were upfront and honest about it with the person who interviewed you. The end result is YOU DON'T WANT THIS JOB for the exact reasons you listed. If I was the hiring manager I would hire you on the condition you were always this honest with me.