How to not be creepy?

  • whytehot

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    Dec 05, 2012 6:21 AM GMT
    I keep noticing this cute guy at the gym, (who is clearly gay, but not too gay for me), and finally he starts to notice, but I can't tell if his furtive glances are out of mutual attraction or annoyance haha.

    I talk to a few people at the gym, but only because we know each other outside the gym. How does one start a conversation with a total stranger? Like without being so obvious lol
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    Dec 05, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
    So you would like to know how to start a conversation without it being obvious that you're initiating a conversation? icon_confused.gif
    Just say "hi" or something
  • whytehot

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    Dec 05, 2012 7:24 AM GMT
    Neight saidJust say "hi" or something


    Easy to say, but:

    "hi"
    "yea?"
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    I need topics and pretexts!
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    Dec 05, 2012 7:27 AM GMT
    Lol. "You want me to say 'Hi!' to him? Shit just got real!"
  • MikeW

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    Dec 05, 2012 7:53 AM GMT
    whytehot saidI need topics and pretexts!

    Imagine the worst possible thing that could happen if you just made an absolute fool of yourself and said, "Hi, my name is whytehot and I think you're cute! What's your name? Wana have coffee??"

    Even if he says, "ehhh.. no thanks," which is just about the worst thing I can imagine happening, at least you'd know where you stand.

    On the other hand, if he says yes, well, there you are.

  • whytehot

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    Dec 06, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    omg, it's never so simple. Even if he's interested, he won't be for long if I'm so direct about it, especially in front of his gym buddies. Everyone plays hard to get to some degree, and prefer to ease into these situations, so that rejection doesn't cause awkwardness at the gym later. C'mon!
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:07 AM GMT
    What on earth is wrong with just smiling, saying hello, and introducing yourself.
    Learn how to be a good conversationalist.
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    Ask him to spot you
  • Myles_

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    Dec 06, 2012 6:22 AM GMT
    adam214 saidAsk him to spot you


    Oh god, a guy who gave me glances asked me to do that the other day... I said yes but was super awkward turtle about it... Ended up finishing helping him and ran off because I still wasn't sure if he was gay. He was cute too icon_sad.gif
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:38 AM GMT
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
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    LMFAO that's how you should do it man. Right there in the locker room. towel off.

    Just promise that afterwards you'll post about what happens.