Being shy and if I like someone but don't know he's gay bi straight if he's bi or gay wot do I do and wot to say

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    Dec 06, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    Liking someone but don't know wot to say specially being shy even if u get to kno them not just bout looks wise but personality too
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:50 AM GMT
    Hmm a guy I know who is cute started talking to me. He is in a college class of mine. I'm not sure if he is gay or not. He is so nice and sweet and I get a sense that he is gay. Anyways I have no idea what hints to drop or how to ask.
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    Dec 06, 2012 7:13 AM GMT
    1. Give yourself permission to be attracted to someone and to express that.

    2. Stand in that permission and tell him what you find attractive about him.

    3. Beforehand, think about what kind of activity you'd like to do together to get to know each other better, and then ask him if he'd like to do that with you on a date.

    Fear gets you nowhere.

    If he's interested - there's your answer. Have fun!
    If he isn't interested - there's your answer. Move on.
    If he's homophobic - there's your answer. Wish him well.

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    Dec 07, 2012 12:00 AM GMT
    iracetris said1. Give yourself permission to be attracted to someone and to express that.

    2. Stand in that permission and tell him what you find attractive about him.

    3. Beforehand, think about what kind of activity you'd like to do together to get to know each other better, and then ask him if he'd like to do that with you on a date.

    Fear gets you nowhere.

    If he's interested - there's your answer. Have fun!
    If he isn't interested - there's your answer. Move on.
    If he's homophobic - there's your answer. Wish him well.



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    Dec 07, 2012 12:24 AM GMT
    @ suckmylolly Start by just talking to the guy. Ask him questions about himself. Everyone likes to talk about themselves. You' ll either get on together as mates or you won't. If he does not show any interest in you, it won't matter whether he is gay or not.

    @normalguy Since he started talking to you, he has made the first move. Like iracetris said, come up with some activity you propose to join him in. If you are too afraid to tell him directly that you find him attractive, you can drag things out, by meeting him wearing a gay t shirt or asking him what he thinks about same sex marriage laws or some other gay issue.