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    Dec 06, 2012 5:48 AM GMT
    There's nothing like finding out the guy you're talking with started talking with his ex again to reiterate the thought that you'll never be good enough. Happy finals week to me.



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    Dec 06, 2012 6:04 AM GMT
    Squintz saidThere's nothing like finding out the guy you're talking with started talking with his ex again to reiterate the thought that you'll never be good enough. Happy finals week to me.





    Ewww... that's poop. :/

    On the bright side, there's always more men to talk to.

    And if none of them take you, I will! icon_biggrin.gif I have more than enough room in my dungeon. :3
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    Dec 06, 2012 3:49 PM GMT
    Daaamn. If I were talking to you, I'd never talk to another man ever again.

    Just sayin'.
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    Dec 06, 2012 3:52 PM GMT
    oh you!

    his loss. Keep it movin, baby. You'll meet someone hotter and better. Just u wait.
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    Dec 06, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
    Squintz saidThere's nothing like finding out the guy you're talking with started talking with his ex again to reiterate the thought that you'll never be good enough. Happy finals week to me.
    Banish that thought immediately! You are very much good enough. There's plenty more fish in the sea for you. And you were only "talking"?
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    Dec 06, 2012 5:30 PM GMT
    Import saidoh you!

    his loss. Keep it movin, baby. You'll meet someone hotter and better. Just u wait.


    Truth. Can't wait to move out of Michigan. I guess the 5's look like 8's at this point? Haha
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    Dec 06, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    It's stupid, I know... I'm just waiting for happiness to finally come. Why does it have to take so freakin long?
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    Dec 06, 2012 8:40 PM GMT
    Because happiness doesn't have a clock. But it does have patience and that's what you need. Hang in there....it'll come when you least expect it.
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    Dec 06, 2012 8:44 PM GMT
    Look how many others there are!!

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    His loss, chin up, you can obviously do much, much better.

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    Dec 09, 2012 5:46 AM GMT
    Alright, a little update.
    So after 2 weeks of no communication, he contacts me and apologizes for being distant, but that he has been talking with his ex. We ended up talking about it and he said that he's in no way shape or form getting back with his ex. So asked where that put me... and apparently he doesn't want to date. He doesn't want to lead me on... even though he likes me, loves talking to me, and thinks I'm cute.

    Funny, I thought that he would have mentioned this before we skyped every night, talked about how excited we were to see each other (we go to different schools an hour away from each other), even got a little sexy. Talked about spending the holidays together after finals... But he didn't want to lead me on. I made my intentions very clear from the start that I liked him and that I was looking to start something with him.

    I'm so frustrated with the games guys play. I've never been less than up front with everyone about how I feel.

    Guess I'm going to have to put this one behind me, but you all know what it feels like to try to get over someone...
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    Dec 09, 2012 5:55 AM GMT
    Squintz saidAlright, a little update.
    So after 2 weeks of no communication, he contacts me and apologizes for being distant, but that he has been talking with his ex. We ended up talking about it and he said that he's in no way shape or form getting back with his ex. So asked where that put me... and apparently he doesn't want to date. He doesn't want to lead me on... even though he likes me, loves talking to me, and thinks I'm cute.

    Funny, I thought that he would have mentioned this before we skyped every night, talked about how excited we were to see each other (we go to different schools an hour away from each other), even got a little sexy. Talked about spending the holidays together after finals... But he didn't want to lead me on. I made my intentions very clear from the start that I liked him and that I was looking to start something with him.

    I'm so frustrated with the games guys play. I've never been less than up front with everyone about how I feel.

    Guess I'm going to have to put this one behind me, but you all know what it feels like to try to get over someone...


    "I'm so frustrated with the games guys play."

    That's exactly it. He was forthright and told you he didn't want to pursue any relationship at this point. You should just cherish what you have with him, and that is friendship.
    Perhaps in time, he will come around. So, don't get frustrated.
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    Dec 09, 2012 6:00 AM GMT
    I don't think he is playing game.

    The guy after is always a way forget the guy before. And it doesn't happen in a day or two.

    How can you know if you are 'using' the guy after to move on, or if you are really ready for a fresh start ? You can't. Specially when you like him a lot.

    So he is ambivalent. The more he likes you, to more guilty he feel that he could just be using you.

    He can't be sure if he is into you or if he is into trying to forget his ex.

    Confusing. But he is being honest with you I think.
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    Dec 09, 2012 6:01 AM GMT
    Squintz saidAlright, a little update.
    So after 2 weeks of no communication, he contacts me and apologizes for being distant, but that he has been talking with his ex. We ended up talking about it and he said that he's in no way shape or form getting back with his ex. So asked where that put me... and apparently he doesn't want to date. He doesn't want to lead me on... even though he likes me, loves talking to me, and thinks I'm cute.

    Funny, I thought that he would have mentioned this before we skyped every night, talked about how excited we were to see each other (we go to different schools an hour away from each other), even got a little sexy. Talked about spending the holidays together after finals... But he didn't want to lead me on. I made my intentions very clear from the start that I liked him and that I was looking to start something with him.

    I'm so frustrated with the games guys play. I've never been less than up front with everyone about how I feel.

    Guess I'm going to have to put this one behind me, but you all know what it feels like to try to get over someone...


    I think you are being very strong. Keep it going! He sounds like a guy that might be good but not enough to deserve you. You will definitely find someone else who prioritize you correctly. That, I have no doubt! Good luck!
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    Dec 09, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    @ Squintz
    Hey guy, I really feel for you. Although it has been a while, when I think about it, I can still remember clearly what it is like to be in an unrequited love situation. It sounds like you had a lot of anticipation about how things might work out with this guy. But I also wonder if it's wise to get so emotionally attached to someone you haven't even met yet. Did I miss something? I had the impression you had only spoken to him on the phone and internet, but have never actually met in person. From what I hear, it's not uncommon for guys your age ( though not you, you come across is pretty mature in these things) to be very intense online, but as things approach a real life consummation, some little part of their unconscience, gnaws at them, and causes them to withdraw before there are real life consequences. If you were open to any advice, I would tell you this - don't let yourself get too emotionally involved with someone until you've actually met them, and spent time with them in person. You somehow got over that depressed state you were in (it seemed) some months ago. You will get over this. You've got friends. Now that you're not going to be spending the holidays with your potential boyfriend, why not spend it with some of your friends.
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    Dec 09, 2012 6:34 AM GMT
    Squintz saidIt's stupid, I know... I'm just waiting for happiness to finally come. Why does it have to take so freakin long?
    Dude...When you stop waiting for it...It happens...All the best
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    Dec 09, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    . . . a dame . . .
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    Dec 09, 2012 6:38 AM GMT
    Squintz saidAlright, a little update.
    So after 2 weeks of no communication, he contacts me and apologizes for being distant, but that he has been talking with his ex. We ended up talking about it and he said that he's in no way shape or form getting back with his ex. So asked where that put me... and apparently he doesn't want to date. He doesn't want to lead me on... even though he likes me, loves talking to me, and thinks I'm cute.

    Guess I'm going to have to put this one behind me, but you all know what it feels like to try to get over someone...


    I've read your whole profile and viewed your swimming / diving photos, as well as the others. You've obviously a great guy, with many things going for you. You're only 24. I remember exactly how I felt at your age - being a water polo player and suffering some of the frustrations you're describing. I felt low sometimes - wondering if I would ever find someone really good. Well, I wish I could put your mind at ease and somehow encourage you to be patient. You really have no idea what is around the corner for you - relationship wise - and it will be a blast. You're going to have so much fun. You're going to meet the greatest guys - God knows how many of them - and you're going to look back on this time with a sly smile. That happened to me - many times........and since it looks like we were similar athletes with things in common - - - I'm betting this temporary thing you're going through will be just a faint memory. Just hang in there - - - - knowing all kinds of good things are in store for you!
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    Dec 09, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
    noren said . . . a dame . . .
    Now why does that immediately bring to mind the cast of bodybuilders playing semen in the film of South Pacific?