A Question of Being Gay - Is it love or just sex?

  • jsecks1129

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    Dec 06, 2012 9:19 AM GMT
    Does being gay mean that your only way of finding love is with another man, or that you're just strictly sexually attracted to men?

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    What do you have - a love life...or a sex life...or both?

  • Just_Tim

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    Dec 06, 2012 9:28 AM GMT
    Yes to all of it.

    Except maybe the part about your only way of finding love is with another man. I have plenty of people that love me, and I'm single.
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    Dec 06, 2012 9:30 AM GMT
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    Dec 06, 2012 10:15 AM GMT
    I used to think it meant I could fart without being shy about it...

    apparently prudish is not a language just for women.
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    Dec 06, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    Sex and love are not mutually exclusive. Sometimes we start with a purely physical-sexual attraction and then it develops into something deeper. Sometimes it doesn't go beyond pure sex. The trick is to recognize the relationshp for what it is and accept it.
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    Dec 06, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    Straight men love other men too. But because of the sexual stigma the relationship doesn't develop intimacy. Gay men, however, want the sex, so the love is fulfilled.
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:12 PM GMT
    I
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    To me, it's sex, sex, sex with a little love and chocolates thrown in.
  • MikeW

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    Dec 06, 2012 6:15 PM GMT
    I'm gay but fell in love with a woman. Relationship lasted 10 years even though I was out to her from the start.

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  • EastDream

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    Dec 06, 2012 6:18 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidStraight men love other men too. But because of the sexual stigma the relationship doesn't develop intimacy. Gay men, however, want the sex, so the love is fulfilled.




    I feel like this is so true. And because it's not explored I think there is a lot of confusion and men not being able to differentiate whether what they feel is sexual or purely romantic/intimate. Because those are different feelings and things.

    By the way hi, I'm new here.
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    jsecks1129 saidWhat do you have - a love life...or a sex life...or both?

    Both. And the intensity of both sex and love is greater with men than women for me, compared to when I had previously tried to live straight. I didn't realize how ignorant about myself I had been, how deceived by societal stereotypes, until I experienced love with a man.
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    It's entirely up to you.
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    Just_Tim saidYes to all of it.

    Except maybe the part about your only way of finding love is with another man. I have plenty of people that love me, and I'm single.


    +1 I, would go with him or is it that word Ditto!?
  • mr_bijae

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    Dec 06, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidI used to think it meant I could fart without being shy about it...

    apparently prudish is not a language just for women.


    +1
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 06, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    For me, relationship wise and sexual wise, I am only attracted to men. While women are okay as acquaintances, I have absolutely no desire to be friends with them. Their shrill pitch of their laughter, screams, nagging and banter is an annoyance to my ears. Some women literally want to make me run out of a room, just to get away from the sound of them. Some men too, but more so women. Can I love a woman? Well, only in the way that I love a mother or a sister. For me, the only road to happiness is either a man (and I don't mean the flaming kind) or no relationship at all.
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:42 PM GMT
    why bother with rules and traditions that limit who can love and how that is demonstrated.......keep in the same species, until we find ET out there...
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    Gay is in the heart.
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    Dec 06, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    not_superman said
    Aellys saidshoes



    I love Kelly. "Stupid boy!!!" "FUCK YOU!!!"

    Text Message Breakup is another good one.icon_biggrin.gif

    Anyway, for the OP, I have both in spades with my partner of 26 years. And an occasional bit of extra with sex, no love cause I've got that already covered.

    I think it depends on the person.
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    Dec 06, 2012 7:42 PM GMT
    EastDream saidI'm new here.
    Howdy, new here! Welcome to our snarky love nest.
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    Dec 06, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    I think it's clear from the answers that it varies from person to person. In my case, I'd say it's about both. I find sex with women can be just as satisfying as sex with men, but I don't think I could ever fall as deeply in love with a woman as I have with men. And sex in the context of that kind of passion is a thousand times better. In a nutshell, good sex with a guy I'm passionate about is much better than sex with any woman could ever be, but sex with a girl I like a lot can be better than sex with some random dude for whom I feel nothing. Do you follow me?
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    Dec 06, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    It means you will sometimes wanna have sex with another Dude and never see Him again.

    It means He will possibly have zero interest in having sex with You no matter HOW many Jeager shotz.

    It means You deal with it
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    It means You take a shot at ALOT of Guys but don't always hit the target.

    It means You fall in Love and find out He has 35 Guys on the payroll who regularly service Him.

    It means You keep going and find the Guy who makes You smile when You BOTH wake up in the morning and have bad breath and need a shave and skipped three workouts but He pops open His eyes and smiles and the world stands still.

    And You decide to be late to work. Not for some hot sex session.

    Just because You wanna hold Him next to Your chest for another 10 minutes.

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    Dec 06, 2012 8:01 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidStraight men love other men too. But because of the sexual stigma the relationship doesn't develop intimacy. Gay men, however, want the sex, so the love is fulfilled.


    You know that's true. I've seen many instances of this and I have a friend who feels this way with his best friend.
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    Dec 06, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    jsecks1129 saidDoes being gay mean that your only way of finding love is with another man, or that you're just strictly sexually attracted to men?

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    What do you have - a love life...or a sex life...or both?



    I want both but I honestly have neither, lol. But I am both sexually attracted to men and I really only emotionally click with men. I mean I have female friends but that's where it ends.
  • Medjai

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    Dec 06, 2012 8:03 PM GMT
    Obviously just for sex. Men don't have feelings. They're biologically programmed to just fuck. Gays just get in relationships for a convenient partner is all.
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    Dec 06, 2012 8:06 PM GMT
    Medjai saidObviously just for sex. Men don't have feelings. They're biologically programmed to just fuck. Gays just get in relationships for a convenient partner is all.


    And a paycheck.

    Don't forget the paycheck!!!!

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