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In your fantasies and dreams ... where do you think you would meet your soulmate ??


for me .. it's not in a gay bar or a praty , nor in a dating site ... far away from all this..
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.. in a library .. sitting there alone ...

at church!

It would be nice if we met while walking our dogs in my neighborhood.

Crikey, if I knew that, I'd be typing from there now

At the gym

swimisme saidat church!

very interesting .. gay couple in a church .. then you can marry someday in the same church ..

okay, I'll play...ummmm...he'll be waiting in my bed as I step out of the shower

I'll knock him out with a tranquilizer dart as he's running shirtless along the lake.

RBY71 saidI'll knock him out with a tranquilizer dart as he's running shirtless along the lake.

That's a good idea !!!... maybe a poisonous dart will be better .. then you can just supperate the "soul" from your soulmate ...

It's a bit early to tell just yet if we're soulmates, but the new man in my life and I are sure enjoying the hell out of the unfolding of new romance between us.

We didn't meet in a gay bar, a party, or a dating site.

In fact, we had one of those cliche meetings that everybody swears just never happens.

We met in a grocery store.

About two blocks from my house is one of those somewhat upscale stores that sells both conventional and organic products. I started shopping there in January when I bought my house.

After a number of visits, I began noticing among the variety of handsome guys who work there, this one particular man. Tall, dark-haired, with a beard, and the most incredible green eyes. I started looking out for him anytime I was in the store. And eventually, he started noticing me.

Neither of us knew it for a long time, but each of us would watch the other from a distance when we were spotted. He would stand back and watch me in the checkout line. And I would spend a lot of time in the aisle where he was working. He must have thought I just had a jones for diet ginger ale.

Over the course of a few months, this progressed from looks at a distance to smiles exchanged to brief pleasantries.

Finally, about a month ago, I ran into him. Almost literally as he rounded a corner. We laughed and talked a little bit longer than usual. It was a warm day and he was wearing shorts that showed off his very sexy hairy legs. He joked about biking to work and being glad he remembered to put on deodorant so he wouldn't offend his co-workers.

As soon as he said that, the words slipped out of my mouth before my internal editor could halt them.

"To each his own."

He grinned at me. There was a silence. I figured since I was already out on a limb a bit, I may as well go for broke.

I asked him if he was seeing anybody. He smiled and said, "no." Then I asked if he'd like to go out for coffee sometime. And before I knew it, he had whipped out a pad of paper and pen and wrote down his phone number to give me. We had coffee two days later.

It's been getting better and better ever since. In fact, I pick him up from work in about 8 hours so we can spend another night together.

I'm just crazy about him. In part because of how we met.

GHoSTa said

RBY71 saidI'll knock him out with a tranquilizer dart as he's running shirtless along the lake.

That's a good idea !!!... maybe a poisonous dart will be better .. then you can just supperate the "soul" from your soulmate ...

And when I separate his soul I can keep the rest for leftovers. I do like my men like I like my coffee: ground up and in the freezer.

RBY71 said

GHoSTa said

RBY71 saidI'll knock him out with a tranquilizer dart as he's running shirtless along the lake.

That's a good idea !!!... maybe a poisonous dart will be better .. then you can just supperate the "soul" from your soulmate ...

And when I separate his soul I can keep the rest for leftovers. I do like my men like I like my coffee: ground up and in the freezer.

LOL ... .. good luck for this potential soulmate ...

Hereticsoul , that's so romantic !! lot's of guys just fantasize about such situation ..
wish you good luck and happiness..

I'd have to say that knowing my luck, I'll be introduced to him by my mother.
That way she'll own my happiness.
Bloody parents looking to make their children happy.

Satistically you will meet thru friends.

Alpha13 saidSatistically you will meet thru friends.

Is that 'sadistically' or 'statistically'? Or both?

Or does that depend on your friends?

I thought I'd meet someone outside my career field, but I'm beginning to bank on meeting someone in Medical School or a field that intersects medicine.

Although, I'm still holding out for that one guy in the cafe reading and enjoying a cup of tea.

mmm...

GHoSTa said
Hereticsoul , that's so romantic !! lot's of guys just fantasize about such situation ..
wish you good luck and happiness..

Thanks very much, bud

Somewhere over the rainbow, I'll fly my UFO, searching for the one... and when I find him, he'll be mine! MINE! MINE! *cackles and waves death ray cannon in the air*

I would love to meet my dream guy at a museum,

Alpha13 saidSatistically you will meet thru friends.

$%#. I need more friends.

GHoSTa said

swimisme saidat church!

very interesting .. gay couple in a church .. then you can marry someday in the same church ..

haha that happens at my church, we even have lots of straight and lesbian/gay families so yeah

hm... I would have to say as either one or both of us is walking back on the beach after an excellent early morning surf...

What's a soulmate?

No fantasy here just the reality that is gay life.

in the darkroom... he'll have the set of hands among the many that i can feel are different from the others... when we return to the light, we'll just know

thats right ..its a solid strategy ..increasing the breath of your network increases your potential date pool.


Satistically you will meet thru friends.

$%#. I need more friends.[/quote]

If, statistically, you meet and get dates through your friends, then that sucks for me! I am the new guy in a new city!!! Shoot I need more friends FAST! I guess I have some work for me to do! Anyone in Phoenix wanna help???

Out on a run in a wild hilly place, hearts thumping, sweat pouring, fresh air, pine smell, maybe an early snowfall.

It won't be thru RealJock. Guys here are really difficult to shake loose -- maybe a good earthquake could help get some attention.

From the looks of it, nowhere

MarathonManiac saidOut on a run in a wild hilly place, hearts thumping, sweat pouring, fresh air, pine smell, maybe an early snowfall.

It won't be thru RealJock. Guys here are really difficult to shake loose -- maybe a good earthquake could help get some attention.

*me shakes the monitor really hard*

Snowflakes!

Oh shit... I think I shook too hard...

*SYSTEM ERROR*

I was thinking along the lines of some raunchy bar or better yet a bath house. Nothing oozes quality like a dark seedy environment with men in towels who seem to momentarily have no regard for general proper social etiquette like a good old gay bathhouse.

Wish me luck, ladies.

In the ditch where I dumped his lifeles- wait what?

How about coming out of Unity Chapel with a pet pig wearing lipstick........

The Beach! I love to play volleyball... even though im short don't hate.... so I think it would be amazing to meet him while playing volleyball.

If i knew, i'd be there.

Walking on the street one morning on my way to work.

The most facinating things can happen on a NYC street.

Central library; University campus; Aboard a train; Intermission at a theatre/performance centre; Farmers' market; Mountain trails.

Oh, and these aren't mere fanatasies, they're predictions.

I think meeting a soulmate is abstract enough for a fantasy. I'll take him wherever I meet him, be it a sex club or church (but wait, I don't go to church). Maybe we'll meet at the sex club and I'll go to his church the next day while he confesses his sins.

Hmm, It'd be nice if we could meet in Germany... 9.5 months left and counting.

Here's my dream, and I know it will come true. I will meet him as my boss.. lol

RBY71 said

GHoSTa said

RBY71 saidI'll knock him out with a tranquilizer dart as he's running shirtless along the lake.

That's a good idea !!!... maybe a poisonous dart will be better .. then you can just supperate the "soul" from your soulmate ...

And when I separate his soul I can keep the rest for leftovers. I do like my men like I like my coffee: ground up and in the freezer.

It's nice to see there are a few true romantics left in this world.

I hope you left his heart so you could eat it whole and raw <3

In my last dream (about three nights ago), my Prince Charming turned out to be the leader of a very successful and powerful drug ring in Mexico City. We met when I was helping a friend of mine who had been framed by his people to run away from the cops.

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But, srsly, I'd prefer it if we met at a library, bookstore, or coffee shop.

Hmmm!...for me it would be great if we met a socal function. But half way through are eyes would meet and we would just know. So we would sneek off together and make out and make love in the shadows. That would be the beginning of our life long love affair.

Den

Anywhere, I just want it to happen.

AshLeon saidmy Prince Charming turned out to be the leader of a very successful and powerful drug ring in Mexico City.
....

AshLeon, I think you've been watching WEEDS and you're taking the part of Nancy Botwin (Mary Louise Parker). Her new BF is running for president of Mexico but is also ringleader of a drug cartel. Very hot guy, but deadly.

I always had that fantasy where I would be on a plane returning home and the man of my dreams would just end up sitting next to me. Of course, I would have to be far away because it needs to be a long flight! *sigh*

at whole foods in the cheese isle and wine isle...

when I join the DC rowing team...

AIRPORT...

On the dancefloor. Actions speak louder than words and the body never lies. When a man can dance with me without inhibition....OMG! Goosebumps ALL OVER ME! I KNOW I will meet him on the dancefloor.

MarathonManiac said

AshLeon saidmy Prince Charming turned out to be the leader of a very successful and powerful drug ring in Mexico City.
....

AshLeon, I think you've been watching WEEDS and you're taking the part of Nancy Botwin (Mary Louise Parker). Her new BF is running for president of Mexico but is also ringleader of a drug cartel. Very hot guy, but deadly.

But I don't even watch TV! =( Although hot and deadly does pretty much sum up my dream PC. I suppose I have a thing for idyllic bad boys. A dream I had way before that one involved a merguy who actually was half-shark.

At a gun club shoot. He'll have broad shoulders, a mustache and an easy smile... oh wait that's Steve.. shit.

Chuy2010 saidWhat's a soulmate?

No fantasy here just the reality that is gay life.

Awww, really? I don't even believe in souls but I believe in soulmates!

nautilie7 saidHere's my dream, and I know it will come true. I will meet him as my boss.. lol

Wah lu demennya ama yang tua2 ya? Hehe..


Hmmmm I don't know where I'll meet him, I'd be lucky enough to meet him

I will meet him when I less expect it.
I will meet him when his gayness is less detected.
I will met him when I'm most rejected.

I will meet him at an unlikely life stage.
I will meet him at an unknown age.
I will meet him at the outside of my cage.

I will meet him when....

Hoping to find someone either in the medical field or that gets the time commitment required and is ok with that.

But as far as ideal meetings go:

In London or Paris

We'll both be reading at a cafe (or he'll in rush to stop me from killing myself with the weight I'm lifting on my set at the gym )

He'll know what I'm thinking without me having to say a word.

nautilie7 saidHere's my dream, and I know it will come true. I will meet him as my boss.. lol

This so happened to me! It was pretty hilarious.

At the vet's office.

Anywhere other than through the internet, at a gay club/bar, or finding him in my bed for some strange reason. Hehe!

Best case would be at University.

aries_pal said

nautilie7 saidHere's my dream, and I know it will come true. I will meet him as my boss.. lol

Wah lu demennya ama yang tua2 ya? Hehe..


Hmmmm I don't know where I'll meet him, I'd be lucky enough to meet him

Hahaha.. tahu aja nee.. minimal 10 thn lebih tua..

You'll meet him when you least expect it...

scothman said

nautilie7 saidHere's my dream, and I know it will come true. I will meet him as my boss.. lol

This so happened to me! It was pretty hilarious.

Share us the story Scothman, We'd love to hear it..

Since the majority of guys I've dated have all been friends of friends, I'll stick with that. I've had pretty good luck so far.

nautilie7 said

scothman said

nautilie7 saidHere's my dream, and I know it will come true. I will meet him as my boss.. lol

This so happened to me! It was pretty hilarious.

Share us the story Scothman, We'd love to hear it..

It was about a month into my job and we did a lot of traveling together becuase of where our clients are located. Long story short, we ended up getting a bit closer than most emplyees one night in the hotel room. We then started dating. There is much more to but I thought I would just give a brief over view. It didnt affect work at all though so that was nice.

RBY71 said

GHoSTa said

RBY71 saidI'll knock him out with a tranquilizer dart as he's running shirtless along the lake.

That's a good idea !!!... maybe a poisonous dart will be better .. then you can just supperate the "soul" from your soulmate ...

And when I separate his soul I can keep the rest for leftovers. I do like my men like I like my coffee: ground up and in the freezer.

Laughing my ass off

joescorpio1970 saidSince the majority of guys I've dated have all been friends of friends, I'll stick with that. I've had pretty good luck so far.

Or guys dating your friends, but those are just details.

I already met mine...on the stoop of our apartment building when he was moving in...brief romance...forever intimate friends...

This summer I completely ruled out circuit parties

Okay, I thought about this one for awhile and decided to go for a joke would just be too easy so....usually its right about meeting the "one" thru friends. I better go out and get plenty more! Right now Im not meeting any one new mainly because Im just not. My routines are just that and I know I gotta get circulating. One of my older relations who'd survived a horrible divorce years ago from her first husband used to tell me to look to the routines and bless them because a routine means a new life.....oh god, I hope not for me!

So, Im about to share a dream that I hope makes sense to those of you out there. I hope that it resonate somewhere w/some one.....or well I can just go back and take another prozac...jus kidding...it dried your mouth something awful!!!

....this is what I've dreamt: I see this nicely built porportioned man dressin in a light blue sable like colored dress shirt long sleeve with coco brown slacks. the body is wonderful as it buffs out all in the right places. I know he has great shoulders, arm and a wondeful chest. I only see from cheek down. He has moustache and what seems to be a very nicely coiffed goatee. He's a brunette as far as I can tell. About 5-10- to 6 feet he is good size and possibly a good 245lbs. substancial to say the least. he is standing near a mantle. On that mantle are two pictures one of a woman dressed very nicely and smiling with great pride holding a diploma. Again this man is behind the woman and only can be seen from cheek down. The other pic is of a black lab with a green ball in his mouth. On the bottom of that pic is the name Buddy...always. Next to the pics are two urns. The urns are packed away in this scene and he reaches up to the mantle for a ticket on NWA. Its a one way ticket to Honolulu. Next to the tickets is a signed contract for a rental in the Aiea-Waipahu area for a two bedroom home. He is reaching up on last time and leaves behind a set of keys. As I watch the end of this scene he is walking to a yellow cab and says to the red line metro at Capital Hill (?).

Possibly Washington DC or San Francisco but this dream has been with me since 2004 just shortly before my diasaterous break up and has reappeared to me just weeks after my last time with a person I no longer date. I know for some its just a dream or a scene that goes over and over in my head but I have hope...it just might come true. What do you think?

Cross-country train ride, maybe?

At a crowded party...our eyes meet from across the room. He aproaches me, i play hard to get. He pursues me throughout the night and finally he gets me.

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Hmm... In the morning when I go for my jog I fantasize about a dog running up to me. I can see he's got a tag on so I stop to pet him and check out the ID. I look up and coming my way is the dog owner sexy as hell. Dark hair, lean, tall, with a beautiful smile. The early morning sun behind him. He gets closer and closer and says.. Sorry about that. He's always getting ahead of me. Our eyes meet and ya just know.

not here I'm afraid.

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Marry me!?!

In Heaven...or Hell.....mmm..more than likely in a bookstore

I would hope I'd meet him eather in my Synagogue or at my job while I'm cutting his hair never know maybe a dream will come true

Where your supposed to!...says this fortune cookie. Yay Chinese food.

AshLeon said

RBY71 said

GHoSTa said

RBY71 saidI'll knock him out with a tranquilizer dart as he's running shirtless along the lake.

That's a good idea !!!... maybe a poisonous dart will be better .. then you can just supperate the "soul" from your soulmate ...

And when I separate his soul I can keep the rest for leftovers. I do like my men like I like my coffee: ground up and in the freezer.

It's nice to see there are a few true romantics left in this world.

I hope you left his heart so you could eat it whole and raw <3

Naw, stringy valve tissue always gets caught in my teeth. I braise it and then make it into pulled meat sandwiches.

Lot smarter then me...Tooth picks...good tools. Awkward conversation starter though.

There are plenty of great alternatives to the slutty bar scene.

Coffee shops.

Join a volunteer organization you believe in; especially a gay-oriented one means you'll expand your gay circle of friends and meet new potential mates. Think about it: A lot of organizations need fundraising, getting out the vote, and so on. Be out there meeting people asking for signatures, or at gay pride pass out literature to some theater performance. Think of all the people you'll meet and can easily strike up a convo with.

Join a hobby/interest club. That is, if you like rugby, then join the gay rugby team---you'll meet tons of new guys. If chess is more your thing, then join a chess club. There's usually a gay version of most of the typical groups out there.

Get online profiles on many of the less cruisy websites, such as Connexion.org here (the best!), Realjock.com, match.com, chemistry.com, and so on. Some of these require money, but how much is $40 or even $100 compared to the value of potentially finding your life partner?

Participate in chat forums (even like this one!) as well as those for shared common interests (a car enthusiasts group, a SciFi forum, whatever...)

The list goes on... but it's easy to "be out there" yet be healthy about it, maintaining a normal sleep schedule free of bars, clubs, and intoxication. LOL.

Hope that helps

I want to find him on the dance floor. I don't care who is Fred, or who is Ginger, but in my fantasy we are in each others arms, dancing away.

RBY71 saidI'll knock him out with a tranquilizer dart as he's running shirtless along the lake.

I think I'm falling in love with you... I go running at 7 pm, don't forget to bring the darts

JonathanJ saidI want to find him on the dance floor. I don't care who is Fred, or who is Ginger, but in my fantasy we are in each others arms, dancing away.

Took the words out of my mouth! Nothing sexier than a man who can dance! Definitely my fantasy.

Fuck knows..could be in another part of the world..and we'll never meet.

*snorts reflexively* I won't.

join the military reserve or regular forces
join the fire department, paramedic service
play hockey, baseball, basketball etc
martial arts

volunteer -suppport services and fundraising is pretty big.

be the man you want to meet. be different than the man you wanna meet.

just do it.

well recently(under a month) I see the guy I wanna meet every day at work. tall 6'3", black hair brown eyes, masculine (oh man) awesome body, shy smile, french, and so far it's good eye contact everytime. and I love watching him workout.
fcuk.