Should I persue this guy or move on?

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    Dec 06, 2012 8:31 PM GMT
    So in the past few weeks since I actually joined here I met a guy who thought I was cute and lived a few hours from me and we talk off and on. I never really considered it much of anything. Usually he says some stuff about sex and how I'm so sexy and stuff and I roll my eyes and keep doing what I'm doing. I have no clue what this guy looks like aside from his penis and yet when we actually do get to talking I find myself very attracted him. He's an electrical engineer and he travels a lot so that means $$$ but he also has two kids he never sees and I love kids and honestly I considered that a plus until he said they live like ten states away. He seems real and he wants someone he can love too or that's what he says but everytime I ask for a picture it takes forever and it seems like he's coming with excuses as to why he doesn't want me to see him until it's too late for me to back out.

    Should I continue talking to this guy or just move on? Keep in mind I usually attract either closet cases or men who look like Hal Holbrook so finding a mildly young (35) guy is new for me. Although his age does bother me a little.
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    Dec 06, 2012 8:52 PM GMT
    It's great that you're attracted to a guy for his personalty and everything except the exterior!

    Buuuuut...I seriously think you're setting yourself up for disappointment.
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    Dec 06, 2012 8:55 PM GMT
    What you mean with how he looks?

    Yeah I've kind of already considered that. I figured that as long as he doesn't look 35 I can tolerate anything combined with his accent, lol.
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    Dec 06, 2012 9:59 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidWhat you mean with how he looks?

    Yeah I've kind of already considered that. I figured that as long as he doesn't look 35 I can tolerate anything combined with his accent, lol.


    Hah. Doesn't look 35.........

    I personally don't think I could converse with someone for too long based on a dick pic.

    It just kind of seems weird that he'd be happy to show you his junk but not his face.
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    Dec 06, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
    I guess that might be what he considers the best way to 'catch' men. He told me that he's bisexual which I'm not crazy about in this situation because I'm thinking this is codeword for married. Of course I know it doesn't in normal situations but the fact I know so little about him and never even seen his face yet he frequently talks about wanting to 'play' with me kinda makes me wonder. He says he's not married but he always avoids my questions about why his kids don't live with him.
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    Dec 06, 2012 11:20 PM GMT
    Face pic or GTFO.

    There's a lot of red flags here. I would not get emotionally invested in this.
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    Dec 06, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidSo in the past few weeks since I actually joined here I met a guy who thought I was cute and lived a few hours from me and we talk off and on. I never really considered it much of anything. Usually he says some stuff about sex and how I'm so sexy and stuff and I roll my eyes and keep doing what I'm doing. I have no clue what this guy looks like aside from his penis ...
    That's where I stopped reading. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 06, 2012 11:52 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said[...] I have no clue what this guy looks like aside from his penis [...] but everytime I ask for a picture it takes forever and it seems like he's coming with excuses as to why he doesn't want me to see him until it's too late for me to back out. [...]


    How do you know that it IS his penis?
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    Dec 06, 2012 11:54 PM GMT
    If you're just trying to establish some sort of friendship with this guy, who would care what he looked like ? But if I were thinking of dating someone, I would want to see a pic of more than his dick before I invested a lot of time.
    it sounds like you don't care what he might look like, and you are basing your hopes for this guy mostly on his accent. Right? Or maybe you care onlya little bit what thi?s guy will look like? So if he makes a 2 hour drive to meet you instead of you driving to meet him, you haven't lost anything. But with his resisting sending you a pic, like icebuckets said, I wouldn't get my hopes up too high.
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    Dec 07, 2012 4:29 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC said
    MashogaNubianPrince said[...] I have no clue what this guy looks like aside from his penis [...] but everytime I ask for a picture it takes forever and it seems like he's coming with excuses as to why he doesn't want me to see him until it's too late for me to back out. [...]


    How do you know that it IS his penis?


    Well he said it was and it looked like it could of been his. It was a bathroom picture and why would he show me someone else's penis? I mean I want this guy to be real so bad. No one is ever attracted to me and he sounds semi-decent. I just want to be with someone so badly.
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince said
    BuddyinNYC said
    MashogaNubianPrince said[...] I have no clue what this guy looks like aside from his penis [...] but everytime I ask for a picture it takes forever and it seems like he's coming with excuses as to why he doesn't want me to see him until it's too late for me to back out. [...]


    How do you know that it IS his penis?


    Well he said it was and it looked like it could of been his. It was a bathroom picture and why would he show me someone else's penis? I mean I want this guy to be real so bad. No one is ever attracted to me and he sounds semi-decent. I just want to be with someone so badly.


    That is exactly why. If you seem desperate the 'bad' guys (very skilled and deceptive scum) will sniff you out and take advantage of your naivete and weaknesses.

    I don't read most of your posts but you seem like a nice and good guy. Lots of guys are liars and worse, and they are often active in their pursuits. DO NOT give people access to your vulnerabilities or let them take advantage of your decency. You owe it to yourself. That way the guys you want and deserve will eventually find you.

    As for what to do regarding that guy you talk about, do as you think best for you and learn from this and every experience.
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:23 PM GMT
    Move on!
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:36 PM GMT
    *pursue
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:37 PM GMT
    You should just drop it..
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    Dec 07, 2012 6:50 PM GMT
    fuck face pic the guy has a job tell him to buy a webcamicon_idea.gificon_idea.gif
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    flguy57 saidDid he really just say "as long as he doesn't look 35"



    Yeah and what's wrong with that?
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    flguy57 saidIt makes you sound like a ageist douche, thats what.
    it's ok cuz his favorite part of a guy is his bank account
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    flguy57 saidIt makes you sound like a ageist douche, thats what.


    I'm not ageist I just don't normally date anyone older anyway so if I'm making an exception I don't want him to look like he could be my dad lol.
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:23 PM GMT
    Neight said
    flguy57 saidIt makes you sound like a ageist douche, thats what.
    it's ok cuz his favorite part of a guy is his bank account


    I'm just being honest.
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:26 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidHe's an electrical engineer and he travels a lot so that means $$$


    I'm curious as to why this is even mentioned. If you actually like this faceless person, money shouldn't matter.. unless you're one of those gold-digging princesses that thinks someone else should do all of the work and you should spend your days shopping.
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    Neight said
    flguy57 saidIt makes you sound like a ageist douche, thats what.
    it's ok cuz his favorite part of a guy is his bank account
    Kinda of funny too, since he made a post saying he doesn't like how gay men only judge each other by their looks....


    Also this could be a sock account...you should be very careful unless he has a face pic and then you web cam (nothing sexual), to confirm he is who he is...
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    miamit89 said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidHe's an electrical engineer and he travels a lot so that means $$$


    I'm curious as to why this is even mentioned. If you actually like this faceless person, money shouldn't matter.. unless you're one of those gold-digging princesses that thinks someone else should do all of the work and you should spend your days shopping.


    Because money is attractive to men. I like money and I'm not ashamed to say that money can help me overlook a lot of stuff.
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:35 PM GMT
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    Neight said
    flguy57 saidIt makes you sound like a ageist douche, thats what.
    it's ok cuz his favorite part of a guy is his bank account
    Kinda of funny too, since he made a post saying he doesn't like how gay men only judge each other by their looks....


    Also this could be a sock account...you should be very careful unless he has a face pic and then you web cam (nothing sexual), to confirm he is who he is...


    I'm not judging them. I've been with older men before but usually it was because they weren't the usual kind of closeted marries guys just looking for kicks that I normally run into. Sure I have a bias but I at least talk to them before I decide I'm not interested.

    And what happened recently is that he emailed me from a woman's email address. And when he first gave me a number a woman picked up and she was jamacian like him and she lived in the same city. Her number was one digit off from his. I don't know...

    But then again he says he can't wait to meet me and when I talk to him he makes me feel like I'm really attractive and special. I like how he makes me feel.
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:39 PM GMT
    Am I the only one who finds it fascinating that you can tell his age by a pic of his dick?
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    Dec 08, 2012 6:41 PM GMT
    PittBull_21 saidAm I the only one who finds it fascinating that you can tell his age by a pic of his dick?


    +1