Guys that ask for pictures

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    Dec 06, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
    Hello fellow RJs I have a question. On sites such as Craigslist and Grindr etc when a guy asks me for pics I send them to the guy and either they

    1. Stop chatting.

    2. Say they are interested and never follow through.

    It's mostly 1 and it's getting me discouraged and I figure if they are not interested they should give me the decency to tell me or why bother to message me. So I'm wondering if any of you have dealt with this and what's your input on this?
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    Dec 06, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    It's called pic collectors. Stop sending your pics out.
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    Dec 07, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIt's called pic collectors. Stop sending your pics out.
    That's the trouble with Craigslist. You could ask the other guy to send pics to you first, but if he is a pic collector, you won't know if the pics he sent you were his. Since there is always a danger that the pics you send it to someone might wind up somewhere else on the internet, if you are going to send pics, you should use some photo program to put a caption or watermark on them.
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    Dec 07, 2012 12:09 AM GMT
    There's actually people like that on there? Creepy... icon_confused.gificon_confused.gif
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    HikeSwimSkiSF said
    paulflexes saidIt's called pic collectors. Stop sending your pics out.
    That's the trouble with Craigslist. You could ask the other guy to send pics to you first, but if he is a pic collector, you won't know if the pics he sent you were his. Since there is always a danger that the pics you send it to someone might wind up somewhere else on the internet, if you are going to send pics, you should use some photo program to put a caption or watermark on them.



    I assumed that they were not common, but there must be weird to steal people's pics. I've asked for there pics sometimes first and they usual insist on me sending it or give me excuses.
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    Dec 07, 2012 5:51 AM GMT
    Whenever someone ask me for my pic, I always say, "Send yours first if you ask for mine." Either they send or disappear.
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    Dec 07, 2012 6:33 AM GMT
    I always get "cute" and silence... Then I respond "you are as cute as a mother f'in monkey!"
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    Dec 07, 2012 6:38 AM GMT
    Um seriously? Pic collectors? LOLOLOLOL

    People, there aren't pic collectors. There are people who aren't attracted to you and don't feel the need to go through the typical rejection ritual that may happen if you were to get rejected in real life. Try being friendly on the internet and see how far that gets you. You just get used on sites like craigslist so just accept the fact that people won't respond to you if they're not interested. That's how it works. If you don't send pics, nothing happens, so it's a cycle of people without balls talking to people without balls.
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    Dec 07, 2012 7:10 AM GMT
    bluey2223 saidUm seriously? Pic collectors? LOLOLOLOL

    People, there aren't pic collectors. There are people who aren't attracted to you and don't feel the need to go through the typical rejection ritual that may happen if you were to get rejected in real life. Try being friendly on the internet and see how far that gets you. You just get used on sites like craigslist so just accept the fact that people won't respond to you if they're not interested. That's how it works. If you don't send pics, nothing happens, so it's a cycle of people without balls talking to people without balls.


    The voice of reason. Don't try to rationalize the way people behave on the internet, 99% of the time you're talking to a crazy person.
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    Dec 07, 2012 7:13 AM GMT
    Everyone responds to people in different ways. Some people would actually rather have someone ignore them instead of a person telling them they are not attracted to them.
    You should probably just post your pic if you feel that you're getting discouraged. I personally don't even message guys who don't have pics. If they send me one after I ask for one and I'm not attracted I never say anything back because I "think" that it is more polite instead of telling someone that I"m not interested in them. I have actually had people be like, "why aren't you interested in me?" This and that kind of stuff so It's just easier to not respond, instead of telling them I'm not attracted to them.

    I can see how people could think that this is rude but why not show the picture in the first place? Some might be on the down low but that's their own problem.
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    Dec 07, 2012 7:20 AM GMT
    I would ignore and delete the guy email if he done any of these things below.

    . 1 liner or cock pic (1st email or message)
    . no pics, but long ass paragraph stating how cute I am, ask what do I do for a living ....etc and tell me NOTHING about himself.
    . have bad pics of himself with phone...etc. If I don't see the attraction, sorry, no reply.
    . appear too desperate in the email or message like **please go out with me, please come over and f*** me...etc.

    Furthermore, I think that most guys who don't reply (example me) to an email or message because we sort of want to avoid nasty confrontation online. I did try to be nice in the past sending rejection emails back to a couple of guys and they sort of unleash nasty bitchy comments about me and my ad (on CL). After about 2 really bad confrontations online, I decided that it's just simply easier to not respond at all if I am not interested first off the bat. I don't really need or deserve those negative energy. I guess people take rejection hard, I've been rejected, I rejected guys before, it's all in a circle. This sounds a little harsh but that just the way it works.

    I don't take offense if people don't like my face pic or profile and never email me though. It takes patience, courage to put yourself out there. I think in finding the prince, you have to go through many frogs !!! In the end, it is worth it. icon_cool.gif